TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

You know @Mumlili8 I don’t think it’s wrong of people to the do Facebook announcements really. I didn’t do any of that as I don’t really post much on Facebook and acoustic media but I think if others do then it’s okay for them to share their joy. I think I’d 1 on 1 they are insensitive when we know we have lost babies or can’t get pregnant or whatever then that’s hard but most people have some loss or hurt in their lives and I think it’s fair for them to share the happy times, if that makes sense? And I know I can just not go on Facebook. Instead, I just snooze people who are pregnant or posting pictures of their newborns!

@SunStruck it's encouraging to hear that you did conceive on your previous monitored cycle even if it sadly didn't work out. After two losses I'm setting myself up emotionally for a third but at least the meds might increase my chance of getting pregnant in the first place - it took a year first time round, and although I conceived again only a couple of months later It appear that I haven't ovulated at all since that second loss.
We're away visiting assorted family from 24th dec to 2nd Jan in environments not particularly conductive to DTD (small houses, thin walls!) though I will try to ovulation test just to see what is going on. I've been told to make sure I'm not pregnant for our next appointment on Jan 6th so I assume I'll start the meds around then, or the following week which would be 28 days after this period. My period does always come eventually but it was 60 days this time round

@Avocuddles this is exactly what I am doing (minus the progesterone because I do get my periods). I did have to induce my period after 10 years of being on the pill with progesterone though and can vouch for how effective it is!

I think I've missed to let you know I've already done a cycle like this in September, and I got pregnant that cycle! Unfortunately had an early miscarriage but at least it works 😄 I didn't continue with it because DH was traveling for work the month after, and I thought let the body go back to normal life after mc for best chance. Was hoping we would catch naturally but with my unpredictable cycles I've obviously ovulated super early this time (first time ever on day 17.... usually day 25 or more) so we're definitely out this cycle. With the new year looming I just want to get going, my next predicted natural ovulation would be end of Jan 🙄

I'm also following up with scans to check and to be able to catch the egg.

Fingers crossed for us both 🥰🌈🌈

@Mumlili8 I was brought up in the church but don't consider myself particular religious now, but your post did resonate with me nonetheless. I hope to be that person one day. Thinking about it it has been far more than 476 days for me, but what would counting achieve? I've had those two pink lines twice and neither has worked out, but I try to have faith that one day it will happen again and it will last. However I also don't want to punish myself if it doesn't work out. I hope so much that I get to experience that journey, but I also hope that my life will be a positive journey regardless of whether it includes children or not. I just wish I knew one way or the other!

@SunStruck no it's Letrozole for me too. I have the drugs at home as well as progesterone for inducing a period if I have another long cycle. The intention is to take the drugs in conjunction with ovulation monitoring (scans etc) so I have an appointment with a nurse on 6th jan to discuss next steps. All on the NHS for me at the moment (bar prescription costs) which I'm very grateful for though £72 sounds good!

@Mumlili8 Thanks for sharing. I think what resonated with me was that going through something difficult, whether it be losing a child or having difficulty getting pregnant or repeated miscarriages, does make you compassionate. When I was pregnant the first time it would not have occurred to me that there might be people who found it difficult to hear or that people who have suffered loss want support and to not feel alone. And now I see everything so differently and there must be loads of people around me suffering in silence and maybe finding it as difficult as I do to see others having healthy babies without a care in the world...

Thanks ladies ... I didn't realise that you could have a period without ovulating. How naive I am lol.

Ive had a rough few days ... just feeling really low and having bad pmt. I literally can't believe that this time next week will be christmas day. I am just not feeling festive at all this year.

Apologies for not replying to everyone xx

@Avocuddles Letrozole day 2-6 of my cycle, and 2 injections of Gondal-F Day 2 and 4 of my cycle (if I remember correctly 😅).

I'm starting when my period starts, I'm so impatient! Maybe December isn't a good month to start but since cycles are so long, next time would be end of Jan... luckily with our private healthcare here through work it's not that costly with the meds, 72 quid for everything I need for a cycle.

Are you starting with Clomid?

@SunStruck yes I'll be starting next month! I have my period at the moment but not starting meds until after new year as I need to get some supplements from GP this week and take them for a few weeks first. I have tablets to induce a period so I guess that if it doesn't come naturally in four weeks I'll be starting then. Let me know how you get on. What medication will you be taking? I'm 36 too so very much in the same boat....

@Wishful30 @TerribleImagination I'm so sorry to read about your losses ladies 😔 it seems like we're all a bit older (I have seen threads where the majority of ladies are in their 20:s). I'm 36 ttc #1 so feel a bit more stressed about this baby situation.... sometimes it feels like I'm the only one struggling with this IRL, so this thread feels very supportive x

@Mumlili8 @VenusStarr @Avocuddles I went to my Dr today for a scan because I'm sure I've already ovulated, and I was right 🙄 I ovulated more than a week early 🤦🏻‍♀️ so we have definitely missed it.

The good news is that I'm going to start meds to stimulate my follicles to produce more eggs and quicker (just like Clomid). I'm going to start this protocol when I get my period, and I also got some hormone injections to help speed things up. Fingers crossed for 2020 - For all of us 🌈

Thanks @SunshineCrocodile - standard holiday shagging sounds amazing, much better than 'we have to shag tonight because I got a solid smiley' 🤣🤣

@Avocuddles I know you're also starting with meds in Jan - let's do this together! 👊

@Avocuddles Sorry I realised I didn’t answer your question properly! I don’t have any follow ups at all. EPAU told me to wait 2 weeks for a negative test, and to call if it’s still positive then. Because I wasn’t 6 weeks they said there was no point in them scanning me, which I understand. To be honest I think not having medical follow ups is better. Seeing an empty scan might have been just too much, even though I already know it’s gone :(

@TerribleImagination It really does help as many of us dont really discuss TTC in real life plus it’s different if you’ve had some kind of fertility struggles or loss

Hi all, sorry for radio silence - we're away and internet is a bit patchy!

Hi @Wishful30 and @TerribleImagination, I'm sorry for your losses and that you find yourselves here. Wishful my cycles have been a bit random following past losses, as @Avocuddles says it may take several cycles to settle back down and generally the later the loss the greater this effect may be (not for everyone though, would be far too easy if we knew what to expect eh)? Fingers crossed for both of you.

@MissSparkles81 I'm really glad to hear that your blood test was negative - sorry about the lack of ov this cycle but as @Mumlili8 says an anovulatory cycle after mc is pretty common and you'll likely ovulate as normal this cycle. How are you feeling?

@JuniperAndRose you're so brave to go and visit your friend. I'm sure meeting her baby will be bittersweet - does she know about the TFMR? I hope she's sensitive to that.

@Avocuddles hooray for AF (not something I normally say)! Hope you can go into the new year feeling positive that there's a plan, hope you get a monitored cycle ASAP. Spa day sounds great!

@Sunflower1608 I'm so sorry about the comment and I'm not surprised you snapped. I got asked similar at our staff Christmas do ('aren't you guys going to have another?) literally the day after I miscarried for the second time this year and it's a punch in the face. Hopefully the person who asked you will think more carefully before asking sensitive questions in future. Sorry you have the added stress of the lump, it seems pretty heartless to leave you dangling for a month without an answer. Hopefully doctor is right and it's nothing to worry about though.

@shanine so sorry to hear about your daughter and that you're struggling to conceive again. I hope you don't have to wait too long for a rainbow, this is a supportive place while you're on the journey.

@VenusStarr hope you get your results ASAP this time.

@SunStruck fingers crossed you caught the window despite funky temps, hope you're feeling better.

We're away for Christmas now and I have to say it's a relief to have a change of scenery and not have to deal with social occasions. It feels totally unchristmassy which I'm quite enjoying, no pressure to be merry and bright! Still in the first cycle post mc and I'm not tracking anything (never do as PCOS means ov sticks don't work and I'm too disorganised for temps) so may or may not have a fertile window while I'm here, we're going with the 'standard holiday shagging' method of TTC I'm feeling pretty good all things considered and managing to stay on track with healthy choices at mealtimes, getting some swimming in and generally looking after myself better than usual which is rather nice.

@Mumlili8 @ReeRi thanks for the advice ladies 💖

@Avocuddles I’m so so sorry to hear what you’ve been through. Thanks so much for your lovely message, and it’s really good to hear that advice about the relaxed approach. Fingers crossed for us both (and all of us in here) for 2020.

@ReeRi It does seem like a lovely group. My closest friend suffered a molar pregnancy last year, so she’s been an incredible support, but she’s also 36 weeks pregnant so will have her hands full very very soon! So it’s good to be able to chat to other people still on the TTC journey after going through this.

Sorry you find yourself here @TerribleImagination It’s a very supportive group

@Wishful30 sorry to hear about your losses. As the others have said try not to worry too much, it's not unusual for your cycles to be a bit different to usual after a miscarriage and ovulation doesn't necessarily occur every cycle for all women (me being one of them unfortunately....). As you've had more than three losses have you sought referral for recurrent miscarriage investigations?

@TerribleImagination so sorry to hear about your loss. It's an awful experience, I'm glad you're feeling strong but make sure you look after yourself and rest as and when you need it.
I'm 36 and have had two miscarriages this year after TTC for 19 months, both between 7 and 8 weeks. My cycles are all over the place so I'm starting ovulation induction drugs in January (though i'm finally on my period at the moment after a 60 day cycle!). I know everyone is different but from a personal perspective I definitely believe the relaxed approach is a good idea straight after loss. I put too much pressure on myself after my first loss and although I did conceive within a couple of months, after the second loss I took a few months off TTC and felt so much better for it both physically and mentally. Nonetheless I hope you don't have to wait long for that BFP! Do you have any follow up scans / appointments? I hope that everything is back to 'normal' for you ASAP and am sending love and hugs back at you

Hi everyone,

Joining in as I had a miscarriage at the weekend at 5+3. Feeling pretty numb at the moment, and so tired as sleep is just restless and I keep having rubbish dreams about it too. Despite that though, I’m feeling as strong as I can be, and feeling all the feels (good and bad) as they come.

I’m hoping my cycle returns quickly... plan is to have a relaxed TTC approach when I get signs of ovulation again, and if we fall pregnant again then amazing. If not, I’ll get back on the OPK’s in the next cycle. I was very lucky to get pregnant on cycle 2 this time. Hopefully it happens fast again, but also I’m so scared of this happening to me again :(

I’m 37 and this was my first pregnancy. I felt quite a few symptoms straight away, and they’d disappeared within hours of passing the sac on Saturday night - such a shock.

Sending love and hugs to all of you who’ve been through and are going through losses - it’s just so unfair

@MissSparkles81 Try not to worry about it too much. It probably doesn’t mean anything and as @Mumlili8 said it takes time for our bodies to recover from pregnancy and loss.

@Wishful30 Sorry you find yourself here. I hope this cycle brings good news for you but your body might still be recovering from your last pregnancy. I had a full term loss in February and an early miscarriage in August and my cycles are fairly regular now. BUT last month my cycle was four days longer but I was getting BFNs and AF eventually came for me. You are not out until AF comes 🤞

@strawberrye I'm so pleased for you, and do wonder if I have a similar issue.
I've just moved a long way from my last fertility clinic. I was approved for ivf.
So I need to get back to the gp and start again.
Just hope I get proper hormone tests this time!