TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@MrsMGE ah, I'm sorry it wasn't a Christmas surprise but I'm bloody glad you got to eat all the cheese and wine! Hope you had a lovely Christmas and I second @Avocuddles in hoping you'll still pop by now and again. I absolutely love the thought of your baby's star, what a wonderful gift.

@Sunflower1608 sorry about the BFN. If taking a break or stopping TTC is the best thing for you right now I'm glad you've been able to draw the line, (for now at least).

@Avocuddles hope you're now enjoying a bump/baby free Christmas!

We're back from holiday...BRRRR! Trying to avoid testing for another few days but I think my willpower will only last so long.

Merry Christmas everyone.

Wishing you all the best @Murree

I got a BFN today. I was ok. Thinking maybe that it's time to be grateful for the joy I do have in my life and be thankful for my children that I have managed to bring into this world and let go of the idea of having another one. A year putting everything on hold is enough. The loss broke my heart. I'm so lucky anyway for what I have in my life, my health and the health of my family.

I'm sad I won't carry the child of my partner, he truly deserves to be a father. But step dad may have to be it. And he does a fabulous job of it.

Thankyou so much to all of you for your support the past few months. And I will pray that you all get sticky beans and bring your baby's in to the world.
I may be back lol, but for now I need to have some space from TTC, get back to a normal sex life that isn't about introducing swimmers to their life partners 😆

@Avocuddles Thank you ❤️ I think about you too.

I'm currently stuffing my face with cheese and prosciutto omg. Heaven.

Also DH made me cry happy tears today, he had a star named in memory of our baby and it was one of my Christmas gifts. I have to say, it's lovely to have something 'tangible' like this. I sometimes don't give him enough credit but he's lovely.

Right. End of soppiness, I'm off to watch Gavin & Stacey 😊 xxx

@MrsMGE sorry it was a false alarm but glad you got to join me in the wine / meats club today without having a 'what if' hanging over you. I think you're doing a very sensible thing trying to take it easy and focus on your wellbeing, life is too short to not make the most of what we have. Do keep in touch, I think of you often....

@Murree tentative congrats to you, hope this is a sticky one and maybe the first in a run of BFPs for this group.

@SunshineCrocodile @ReeRi it's hard to avoid them isn't it! We had to visit pregnant SIL this afternoon (thankfully no insensitive comments today....) and tomorrow morning we're visiting DHs friend and 9 months pregnant partner, the one due the same week we would have been. After that we're thankfully heading down to my family on the south coast where conversation will be blissfully baby free until 2020.....

I hope you have all had a good (or at least ok) day and that Santa has been generous

Honestly, I'm alright @ReeRi 😊 I genuinely thought the first one was flooded and I know they're not very reliable anyway. I'd be more shocked if it was positive! I'm enjoying my red wine, cured meats and a fabulous Christmas Day cheeseboard 😊 Merry Christmas xxx

@Murree Massive congrats, what an amazing Christmas present Crossing everything for you! xx

@MrsMGE If that’s the case then I’m sorry. I was very hopeful for you xx

Hi girls. So it was a false alarm! Like I expected. But surprisingly, I'm ok with this and managed to have a lovely day.

Lots of love to you all, hope today is filled with love and relaxation for you (and a dash of bubbly, of course!).

Wishing all of us one thing for 2020: to be happy. It's a much harder venture after all that we've been through, but not impossible. And when I say happy, I mean it with or without children as this isn't the only thing in this life that determines this. ❤️🥂🌺 Xxx

@SunshineCrocodile I came across a new baby announcement on FB today. Reminded why I should stay off FB!

Congratulations @Murree I hope this sticks for you and you get a healthy 2020 baby!

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Happy Christmas everyone. Another year over (thank god) - but a new one nearly begun - let's hope it really is a better one for us all x

So far just the four pregnancy announcements on FB this morning, one a scan pic complete with Santa hat

Hey ho! MrsMGE I'm not tagging you as don't know if you want reminding of TTC today but thinking of you and I hope you get a bfp when you do test, whether today or tomorrow. Please don't worry that your post prompted me to think about testing, would have been on my mind anyway - it always is!

@Murree congratulations! Hope it's a sticky one x

Merry christmas to everyone on the thread!
I have had the best christmas present this morning.... my BFP!

I am absolutely terrified now though as I started to miscarry the following day after my test last month. But I'm taking comfort in the fact that the tests this morning were super strong and my pregnancy symptoms are coming in thick and fast 🤞

I really do hope all you ladies get your BFP soon xxx

Merry Christmas @Mumlili8 @Avocuddles @SunshineCrocodile @MrsMGE @VenusStarr @strawberrye @Sunflower1608 @TwinkleStars15 @turquoisebaby @Mumlili8 @JuniperAndRose @Russkispy
and anyone I have missed.

I know we have all faced some massive obstacles and difficulties this year but you all have really been a massive support to me and I think we should all be proud of our strength in dealing with these things and supporting one another. I have said it before but I really hope 2020 is a great year for us all.

Merry Christmas to you too @Avocuddles and everyone else here!

Sending lots of Christmas joy and positive thoughts for the year ahead

Just want to wish all of you wonderful ladies a merry / peaceful / stress free Christmas. Life is shit sometimes but thank god we have supportive partners (I hope) and each other. My next few days are sponsored by wine, 19 months TTC, wine, 2 miscarriages, wine and a partridge in a pear tree! I'm kind of glad that I'm not in a 2WW or fertile window as it takes the pressure off for the time being, but hopefully my hospital appointment on the 6th will mark the start of a proactive year. This has without a doubt been the toughest year of my life but I hope I'll be coming out of it a tougher person. I couldn't have done it without the support of this group - @MrsMGE, @ReeRi @VenusStarr @Mumlili8 and everyone else I thank you all so much for helping me keep going, and whilst Santa might not bring you everything you've dreamed of I hope that 2020 is a better year for you all

I’m hoping this is it for you @MrsMGE

@Russkispy Yes completely. This is a hard Christmas for many of us but I bet we all have things to be thankful for too. DH and I arrived in Edinburgh this afternoon and it feels really good to be away together. I really hope you all have a lovely Christmas and wish you all the best for 2020

Thanks @SunshineCrocodile! Sorry if I made you think about testing, I didn't really want to post for that exact reason, but my mind has gone into overdrive and the only people who'd understand are on this thread!

In hindsight, please hold back. I'm exactly where I didn't want to be as a result, i.e. thinking about babies on Christmas Day. Honestly it's so much better not to know! Xxx

So frustrating @MrsMGE! Hope the next one is a resounding positive whenever you decide to do it. I'm not a model of willpower here - after my strong 'I'm holding out for 2020' statement I then couldn't help myself popping into a pharmacy on my walk this morning. Luckily couldn't find a pregnancy test so my money remains unwasted and I'll have to spend Christmas convincing myself I'm pregnant in blissful ignorance.

@Russkispy wishing you a happy Christmas too. Your post caught me right in the emotions. Nothing would please me more than a grads thread full of you lovely lot in 2020, never did a group of women deserve it more

@MrsMGE that certainly looks promising though as others have said probably best of using an FRER again in a day or two. My fingers are crossed for you!!!!!!! I hope you have a clear answer one way or the other ASAP.

@Russkispy thank you for the uplifting post, I echo everything you say and hope that 2020 is a happy and healthy year for everyone here.....

Christmas could be so bloody hard for some of us this year but I still want to wish you a Merry Christmas full of good health, love and laughter and everlasting joy in your lives! And of course lots of BFPs who are still waiting and hopefully soon we will create our own thread of Graduates! Our time will come! And hopefully 2020 will be our year! !Lots of love from Russki 🎄🎄🎅🎅🎅

Thanks @ReeRi @Venusstarr @SunshineCrocodile. I went to Boots, got a pack of FRERs, took one and annoyingly it came back looking the same as it did few times before over the last several months. There is what looks like a squinter but I had that before and I wasn't pg. So not sure what to think! I hate FRERs so much! Looks like I'm gonna have to test tomorrow morning, urgh. I don't want to ruin Christmas Day, perhaps I'll wait till Boxing Day if I can. Xxx

@MrsMGE How lovely if you get your BFP for Christmas. Looks promising to me! Fingers crossed 🤞

Thank you @MrsMGE, been pleasantly surprised how much I'm enjoying it. Dh and I are dosed up on cold and flu meds too. Really hoping you get positive news later ❤️🤞

@SunshineCrocodile glad you're having a good holiday - well deserved. I hope 2020 brings good news for you too ☺️