TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

I met a friend through Sands after we lost our daughter in February. She lost her son the same week. She’s someone I really clicked with and we used to message each other pretty much every day when we were both on maternity leave. She didn’t go back to work as she wanted to have another baby before she went back but I went back in August. Anyway she had her rainbow baby this week. It’s so strange to think how much time has passed! I’m so pleased for her. It does occur to me that she has got pregnant and had a baby in the same time that I’m still trying but I’m ok with that. I do feel like everyone who lost a baby in circumstances like how I got pregnant with my DD seem to have got pregnant a lot faster than I have. I like the idea that I could have a baby in my arms by this time next year but I also know not to expect too much or out timescales on things. I am positive most of the time but I still have moments of fear that I won’t have a family of my own. I thought some of you ladies might understand. Sorry I am a bit rambly...

No worries @LASandOtto and @MissSparkles81 It’s quite a good deal

@BunnytheBlueWhale thanks for the heads up on the clearblue sale. Ive bought some to use alongside my other opk's.

@BunnytheBlueWhale thanks for the tip on the Amazon sale! I've got the Clearblue Fertility Monitor and used it this month for the first time. All this TTC paraphernalia is so expensive!

@VenusStarr sorry you're feeling lowly... I've had my fair share of these days. A year has gone by and we've had two MC's, it's a lot to digest. A lot to process and not something we can simply 'get over'. There'll be sad times! How are you feeling today? Sending you a big hug! We are here for you!

AF is due for me on Monday. Can already sense my usually pre AF symptoms coming so.... looks like we weren't successful with DTD in December. Oh well, onwards and upwards ladies, hopefully!

Xxx

Well it says up to 40% but the CB digital advanced look like they’re actually 50% off

I don’t feel like tracking at the moment, though. I roughly know when I should ovulate... 🤔

In case anyone is interested, I just saw that some ClearBlue test lots are up to 40% off on Amazon in the Today’s Deals section

I hope you get some answers on 7th @Mumlili8

@SunshineCrocodile I’m sorry things are a bit unclear but I really am hopeful for you. Maybe test on a few days if things don’t change🤞

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way @VenusStarr and there’s probably nothing we can say except know that we’re here and we all have dealt with our own losses. I felt very sad at the stroke of midnight. I hadn’t expected it and it hadn’t occurred to me before but moving into a New Year felt like leaving our daughter behind. The truth is the date is just a number and I believe those we love and miss will always be in our hearts x

I'm really sorry to hear that @SunshineCrocodile ❤️ sending love.

Been feeling a bit off these last few days. It suddenly hit me how detached I've been over the past few weeks. Just before midnight on new year's eve I felt really overwhelmed with sadness that my babies are far away from me - think it's everyone making a big deal of moving from one decade to another, when for me it's just another day 💔 can't really explain how I feel. Dh gave me a lovely card for Christmas with a note to say how I amaze him everyday. I don't feel very strong but it's nice to hear that I am doing OK, even if I don't feel it.
Sending love to everyone today xxx

@SunshineCrocodile I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a cp 😔 Sending you the biggest hug.

You are so right ... its the feeling out of control thats so unfair. 🙄

@MissSparkles81 sorry you've had such a tough time, hope your talk with OH has helped him see it from your perspective. I think one of the hardest things about TTC is that even though women are the ones who have to carry any eventual pregnancy and undergo most of the investigations/have the miscarriages if things don't work out, we have zero control over it. We can't control our bodies and ovulation, we can't make our bodies hang onto pregnancies, and we we can't make men physically or mentally willing/able to cooperate. It's all reliant on stuff out of our control and that's why it's so chuffing frustrating.

@Mumlili8 everything crossed you get a sympathetic dr and make progress getting some investigations.

My reproductive system is messing with me at the moment. Still probably in the middle of a CP, but only had light spotting which has gone straight from pink to old brown blood, have had a liner on but not needed it at all. Haven't tested since getting a fainter test on 30th as assumed the bleeding was the end of it but as it hasn't ramped up I should probably get another test to stop myself hoping for a miracle.

@twinklelittlestar1 oh thanks for the recommendation ... I will have a look!

I just thought to recommend the fertility friend app- the paid version is really great as you get to see charts of different women of a similar age to you/ similar cycle length/ luteal phase/ people's success rate having sex different times/ signs and symptoms of pregnancy etc etc. I literally lost hours playing around with it and obsessing with it when we trying to conceive my son. Not great if you're trying to spend less time focusing on ttc but I got a lot of information/ reassurance from it.

I can also recommend the book 'taking charge of your fertility' it has a lot of information in it about everything connected to ttc.

@Mumlili8 100% ... Im spending money on supplements, opk's, reflexology and accupuncture treatments to try and make sure that I can ovulate and be in the best position possible and realistically all the oh has to do is bluddy perform. I can't get my head around it 🙄

@tmc14 your story sounds exactly like us. 6 months to get pregnant too but only a few of those months were at the perfect time. Sending you a massive hug ❤

Hi ladies ... happy new year to you all. I hope you all had a lovely night however you were celebrating.

Thank you so much to everyone who commented on my last post. Apologies for just getting back to you. I needed a day away from social media.

We tried again last night and it was a fail too. Afterwards we had a chat and I said I was sorry for making him feel like he was under pressure. I said that I am not putting my life on hold till he sorts the contact issues with his ex but we both need to make more of an effort in the bedroom dept. If he doesn't want me to tell him when the right time of the month is then we need to have sex more and it can't be me instigating things. He agreed and I just need to accept that its not gonna happen this month 😔

Its reasurring to know that its not just us that are going through this. I genuinely am so grateful to all the support on this thread.

I hope 2020 is a good year for us all ❤

Happy New Year everyone, may 2020 bring successful pregnancies for you all and make the journey of getting there a peaceful one x

Happy new year all. Thank you so much for the support the last few months, you’re all amazing, strong women. Wishing us all a kind 2020 xx

Happy new year ladies. I'm glad to see the back of a shocker of a year but I'm so pleased that I've found you lovely lot. Every person here is dealing with their own loss or grief but finds the time and strength to support others going through the same. Resilient, determined, generous women, all of you. Thank you.

Here's to peace and happiness in 2020 for all of us, however we find it.

Happy new year to all of you and thank you for all your support over the past six months. I hope this year is kinder to all of us, and that the next few months bring a positive step forward xxx

Happy New Year!

I feel a bit emotional, thinking of our daughter who was with us in 2019, thinking of the last NYE when we thought 2019 was going to the the best year ever because we would meet our daughter but not knowing she wouldn’t get to stay.

Thinking of all of you, the babies who didn’t get to stay with us and the ones that we are yet to meet xxx

❤️❤️❤️ Happy New Year, ladies xxx

@BunnytheBlueWhale @Twinklelittlestar1 @Avocuddles @VenusStarr @MrsMGE @tmc14 @Mumlili8 @Seahawk80 @SunshineCrocodile @Anny27 @JuniperAndRose @SunStruck @ReeRi and all you other ladies!

It's early but wishing you all a Happy New Year! I'm sure as mention below on the thread we will be seeing a lot more announcements, years in review, blessing shoutouts, etc. Social media never shows the true colours of all facets of life. No one will post the sad, tragic, life shaking events.

You ladies have all been my rocks this year. I know we've said it before but - I credit you all with keeping my sane. Thanks for listening. Thanks for replying - always. Thanks for your advice, support, virtual shoulder to cry on!

I am wishing every single of you only the best of what life has to offer, healthy, happiness and satisfaction for 2020. May we be treated kindly in 2020! We've got each other! You're all my inspiration!

Xxx