TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

Hi @shanine I’m so sorry about your CP.
I can only speak for myself... I’ve been pregnant twice, once resulted in my little boy, one ended in miscarriage at 10w4d. Both times DH & I dtd only one during my fertile time, both times on the day of a positive opk. In total, we’ve been ttc for 11 months, and only had sex during the fertile time about 5 of those times. 2 we got lucky. So from my experience frequency hasn’t mattered that much, we’ve been incredibly lucky. General advice is every other day I think? In reality, if you’re happy and able to have loads of sex, I think it gives you the best shot, so why wouldn’t you? But if you can’t, don’t stress too much. Not great advice, sorry!

Very gentle congratulations @LASandOtto keeping everything crossed for you

Sorry you find yourselves here @kkr168 @Ldawg I miscarried in October and have found this board such a lifeline.

I found out about another pregnancy today, I’m happy for them as I know they struggled but still... I just really want AF to arrive. I’m CD28, but couldn’t tell if I ovulated this month 🤷🏻‍♀️ No idea what went on with my cycle so just hoping AF turns up by the end of the week and I can move onto the next cycle and hopefully actually dtd at the right time! (Or at all... 😏) DH & I have agreed to not drink during the week so hoping that helps a bit.

Hope everyone is doing ok this evening x

@Russkispy thank you!

@kkr168 @Ldawg really sorry to hear about your losses ladies! 😪

@SunStruck sorry about my misunderstanding! 😂😬 Supplements I take: Natalis Pre which is a German Multi Vit for Conception and Early Pregnancy with 800mg Folic Acid. I was also taking 300mg Ubiquinol daily. My DH takes Wellman Conception, and these: futureyouhealth.com/knowledge-centre/lactolycopene-lycopene-fertility.

I'm usually a very healthy eater (fruit and veg minimum 6 portions daily if not more) but in the run up to Xmas I ate whatever I wanted.

Hope this helps x

Thank you ladies, I let you know how it goes.

@LASandOtto tentative congratulations 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Welcome newbies and sorry you found yourselves here but this is a very nice bunch of ladies who support each other through and through.

So sorry you find yourself here @Ldawg

AF is here @SunStruck ☁️ ☁️ ☁️ ⛅️ ☀️

@sunshinecrocodile I'm so sorry to hear, it's always difficult to hear about other people's pregnancies that are so smooth compared to your own 😟 have you had tests if you've had 4 miscarriages? What's your age if you don't mind me asking? I've had 2 and I'm 36, so naturally I'm quite worried! Don't have kids either so I hope one sticks soon!

@avocuddles fingers crossed you ovulated! Did you dtd around then? I ovulated on day 14 actually which is unheard of 😂 I've just been for a scan, and both follicles ovulated so I'm happy! 2ww now so will try to take it easy.

@bunnythebluewhale oh that sucks, hopefully it will come soon :(

@kkr168 try not to worry about the cyst. I was also told I had one on my ovary when I had a MMC recently. I was told they expect to see them in all pregnant women as it's where the ovary released the egg and the shell (cyst) remains to sustain the pregnancy until the placenta takes over. I was told mine was almost 5cm but not to worry unless I felt any pain as it should just disappear on its own. They've not even offered me any follow up as they didn't feel it was necessary so hopefully your follow up scan will give you complete peace of mind

@kkr168 Try the flavoured ones! I can’t stand it on its own, but the apple and pear one is actually alright 😃

@Avocuddles going by my last period I was 5w6d when I 1st started bleeding on the 31st Dec, I passed what I assume was the sac on the 1st, I stopped bleeding a couple of days ago now.
@TerribleImagination I tried green tea years ago & wasn't keen at all, but I will give it another go

Hi again @kkr168 👋🏻 I can’t remember if I said in the other thread we’re chatting on, but apparently drinking green tea and a lot of water helps get your HCG back down faster. My friend who had a molar pregnancy did that religiously, as she was against the clock to get it to below 5 in a certain time frame in order to try again at the earliest possible date, and hers went back down really fast. Bless her she came round after my miscarriage with a box of green tea, so I did the same and I reckon mine dropped completely within a week, or just over, based on when the last (and earliest) pregnancy symptom went. So I’d definitely recommend green tea and water to help speed things along 🙂

@kkr168 sorry to hear about your loss, what an awful start to the year. In answer to your question it took me three weeks to get a negative after my first mc, and two weeks after the second. Both were between 7 and 8 weeks. If you don't mind me asking how far along were you and was this your first pregnancy?
Although the scan suggested everything was over, I had intermittent bleeding for several weeks after my first miscarriage. Your first cycle might be a bit longer than usual, and your first period (if you're bit pregnant by then of course) might also not be 'normal'. I hope you don't have to wait long for your rainbow x

Hi all, new here!

So sorry for all your losses.

I had an unexpected first pregnancy at the end of last year which resulted in miscarriage (blighted ovum) discovered at 8 weeks in November. Despite being unplanned we were SO excited and have now decided to TTC. I'm 33.

Since I miscarried I've not stopped bleeding! I'm going through cycles at the moment of painful, heavy bleeds followed by spotting then maybe 1-3 days of no bleeding just to start bleeding again. Went to doc yesterday who has referred me for bloods and a scan and she is expecting results to be normal. She then wants to reset my periods with the pill. I was a bit disappointed that my blood test is not for two weeks and who knows when the scan will be (I work for NHS so completely understand the struggles!) so I decided to go back on the pill as of yesterday in the hope that one pack will sort me out and I can then try again in one month rather than waiting! Has anyone had experience in this?

Re HCG levels, mine were going down for 3 weeks and still didn't reach the level they wanted (got to about 100 wanted less than 10) but they were happy not to see me again (!?). Told me to do a preg test in 3 weeks and if negative all was ok but to let them know about any changes. When I called them about the heavy bleeding they didn't want to know as my pregnancy test had been negative.

@SunStruck well not quite AF yet. I thought it would be here last night but still just a bit of spotting occasionally. I feel like I have PMT again 🙄

Morning everyone, I miscarried on the 1st of January, what a way to start the new year!!
Went to EPU yesterday & they confirmed my womb was empty, just waiting for the negative test result so that we can TTC again. My HCG was at 52 yesterday, they will retest tomorrow, how long does it usually take to go down? Or is that a how long is a piece of string question?
They found a cyst on my right ovary during the scan, told me it's nothing to worry about but to have it checked in 3 months time, how can you not worry!!

@SunshineCrocodile I feel your sadness re babies due around the time yours should have been born. Tomorrow is the due date for my first pregnancy, and a friend was due yesterday so I'm waiting for a baby announcement at any moment. You are right that comparison is the thief of joy, and whilst it's great that you already have DC it doesn't change the sadness of what you have been through over the past year.

@SunStruck not confident that I ovulated - I had a strong line on a cheapie opk (about as strong as I ever get) but it wasn't strong enough to be a clear positive. It's dropped off again this morning so I guess only time will tell. Last month I had a similar surge at a similar stage but it turned out to be a false alarm as that cycle went on for 60 days! My ovulation induction consultation is on Thursday so I'm hoping that they'll agree that if I go a couple of weeks without unprotected sex and have a BFN (highly likely either way given we only DTD once without protection!) that I can take the provera to induce a period if it doesn't arrive naturally and then start Letrozole.
On what day of your cycle did you ovulate with the letrozole?

@VenusStarr sorry you're down. I understand completely, I think we all do. You have to hold no to hope just to survive, but that does mean you come crashing down when the BFP doesn't materialise. You mustn't feel bad about feeling low, it's natural (and not helped by the PMT slump if that gets you too). I do find that hope gathers again quite soon each cycle so I hope you start to feel a little more positive soon.

@SunStruck I'm ok thanks. I think I'm a bit off balance at the moment as my friend is a month off her due date with the pregnancy she announced just as I miscarried for the first time last year. I should have been 4 weeks ahead of her - instead she's grown a baby and all I've done is lose four in the same period of time. Comparison is the thief of joy and all that and I am honestly pleased for her but I think the realisation that four losses in a row is a bleak outlook for future pregnancies, and how much time has passed just to get nowhere has hit me this month. But I'm making myself remember that I have a lot to be grateful for having already had DC and if it doesn't ever happen again I can live with that.

On the bright side am so hopeful for you! Hope the 2ww flies.

@sunshinecrocodile thanks so much! Yes fingers crossed. How are things going for you? ❤️

@lasotto oh I meant did you eat or drink differently, we're you on a health streak, did you try any supplements? 😄so happy for you!

@bunnythebluewhale sorry to hear AF came but at least you can have a big glass of wine this weekend and relax!

@avocuddles how is it going, do you think you ovulated yesterday? 🤞 I did, so officially in 2ww now! I hope at least one of those follicles will work out! I am starting progesterone pessaries today and baby aspirin. I don't have any problems with my progesterone I think but it's just a precautionary thing.

@venusstarr im so sorry to hear you're feeling down. We have all been there... I'd say every month 🙄 this is your first cycle since your surgery so please don't be hard on yourself. I know it's easier said than done. We will both get there in 2020, I'm sure! ❤️

I hope you’re ok @VenusStarr You’re not being negative and you don’t need to apologise. It’s tough when you are hopeful and then get a BFN or AF. After going through what some of us have we do well to carry on and I think it’s natural to worry about the future. I’ve been feeling that way the last few days but probably more so because I’ve had the bad PMT.

@LASandOtto I agree that hearing about your BFP gives us hope and you shouldn’t feel bad about sharing as it’s what we are all here for! I am hoping we have another round of BFPs like we did sometime last year...

Please don't be annoyed @LASandOtto. I am hopeful that we all get our rainbows ❤️ Xx

@MrsMGE well, out of nowhere I had a positive test this morning on my CB Monitor - it estimates when AF is due (today) and it asks you to do tests beforehand. I did two 3 and 2 days ago which were negative. Skipped yesterday as forgot and then couldn't be bothered as thought I was out. Did one this morning and it was positive.

Not sure what to think!

Early days... after two MC's I'm cautiously excited and if it doesn't work out, then at least I know I'll now be offered a referral!

I'll still be on the other thread anyway, I didn't want to post this today there.

I know how much a positive test would mean to others and how hard it is when you're hoping for it yourself and are disappointed.

@VenusStarr I didn't feel offended whatsoever, if anything I am just really annoyed because I didn't want to post this on a day when someone was feeling they're struggling. I know you're all happy for me but I also know how hard it is to hear of positive results, when you're waiting for yours. I really just want every woman on this beautiful thread of support to have their rainbows, that's all I want!

Wait what! @LASandOtto are you pg?? Omg, congratulations ❤️ Keeping everything crossed for you, I guess that health mission will have to be gentle now! Xxx