TTC First Baby Thread 23

Thanks everyone - @kiza feeling less hopeless than yesterday but it will come in waves i imagine :) has AF finished yet?

@Lozzlepop thats really hard coming up to your due date ❤ will be thinking of you. Yep i return to work on monday after almost 2.5 weeks off so i am sort of excited to get back to normal

@whatsthecraic91 thanks for your support lovely! Onto the TWW for you then!

@orangeloo had a better day today thanks lovely

@shuckle welcome to the crew:D are you using any ovulation tests etc?

@lottiepink thanks ❤ how do you and DH feel about the results?

@Anny27 I hope you’re feeling better today

@Shuckle omg tell me about it, there’s nights where I pretend I’m really into it to get the job done quicker 🤣 he so good though he always wants to make sure I’m looked after but towards the end of SMEP you’re like ok hurry up please 😂

@Anny27 yeah I don't blame you. I appreciate just for fun sex now when I'm not in my fertile week.
Sorry to hear you had a bad day. I hope today you are feeling a bit better? X

@Lottiepink sorry to hear about DH's sperm try not to worry too much as there's things that can help and it only takes 1.

Welcome @Shuckle you've come to a good place.

Morning everyone! Been getting in on a few other threads but as we are also TTC #1 I thought I'd join you lovely lot too 😁 I'm 24, DH is 32, and we are currently TWW'ing on cycle number 1. Thoroughly enjoyed reading through messages so far, you guys have given me some great ideas for next month! Sorry to hear about everyone who is having a tough time at the moment and sending lots of luck for a better BFP filled near future 🤞

@whatsthecraic91 your quickie comment did make me chuckle, we spend so long moaning about romance and seduction and then TTC happens and you think "just bloody get on with it!!!"

@orangeloo woohoo! You go girl!

@Kiza haha did you find anything on your consultant? Mine does work for the private hospital here so that made me feel more settled!

@Lottiepink hmm that is odd, have you been ill or stressed? Good idea keeping an eye on things and hopefully you’ll get that temp shift! So do you have to try and increase DHs sperm count? (Sorry I’ve I’ve got this totally wrong)

@Anny27 it’s a really rough stage, allow yourself to feel sad if you need to, we cried A LOT! I still cry now sometimes- next week would have been our due date so it’s been tough in the run up to that! Talking about it with your OH and friends will help and maybe get something as a token of remembrance- we bought a rosebush. Don’t go back to work until you feel ready- I took almost 2 weeks off mainly due to scans and timings of appointments but that time helped me heal! Sending lots of love your way!

Traffic is really bad today when I really need to be at work early 😔 typical! Hope everyone has a fab day!

@Kiza thank you for the advice. It's so confusing isn't it! Hopefully it's all helped. You got your date through? Again I'm so sorry, I'm sure you will have already said this 😱

@Lottiepink yeah the tomato purée due to the lycopene (although he's now taking capsules!). Apparently between 4-15% is 'normal' range for morphology but we will be grilling the fertility consultant when we get to meet her as it's confusing that 1 GP made it a big deal and 1 GP was really chilled about it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Aww @Anny27 so sorry to hear that, you are doing amazing and so good considering. Sending my love!
Thank you, I know, it's better to know, just a crap thing to hear I suppose especially for dh! Hopefully we can work on it though 🤞🏻

@Kiza was this the tomato purée? I think DH was only 2%, as he said something about a result should be 4% and he only has 2% but he wasn't sure what it was, so think it's low count and this too, I'll know more tomorrow when I get the call! He was at work so obviously couldn't comment too much without suspicion. He thought the morphology was ok though, but sounds too much of a coincidence with the figures I think!

@Anny27

Think I’ll skip DTD tonight then! Said to DP when I got in there and he’s saying we should do it in the morning just to be safe 🙄 - really cba as I have an early start and it’s probably too late now anyway!! Away to wash this mop of hair before I’m a celeb at 9 🙂

@Lottiepink it's ok, there's so much information shared on here it's difficult to keep track. Yes that was the only thing, his result was quite low at 1%. We did our own research and he made some lifestyle changes.
@Anny27 sorry to hear you're feeling so down, it's understandable though with everything you're going through. Take it easy and cry as much as you need.

@Kiza that's odd isn't it. Was the morphology the only thing wrong with your DH results? I'm so sorry, I'm sure you've already said this before! I've got a terrible memory!

@Lozzlepop haha i would be googling them too! If i am honest i am not doing too good. Think the hormon changes, all the antibiotics i am taking and the fact we miscarried are getting to me a bit. I have cried prettt much all day. I am hoping when hormones settle and i have finished my antibiotics i wont feel so helpless!

@timswifey ooh i might use that app then if it counts down to when you test that sounds quite cool!

@lottiepink ahh not great but atleast now you have some answers and can work on increasing sperm count etc!

@orangeloo as we arent ttc again untill next period i am actually looking forward to having sex when we want and me not obsessing about making sure nothing "leaks" out towards the end haha!

@Lottiepink good that you got some answers. It's peculiar how different areas do different things. Our GP didn't offer a retest for DP with his morphology results, instead referred us straight to fertility clinic as the GP said they wouldn't retest for 3 months due it taking that long apparently for new sperm to grow? 🤷🏼‍♀️

@whatsthecraic91 love the fact your sacking off dtd to wash your hair 🤣🤣 it is an effort, and one effort is enough when home later 😊

@Lozzlepop no which is strange, apart from starting the tests with doctors... I think it's odd, carrying on the LH strips just incase I get a second rise, my temps haven't fully elevated to confirm ovulation, but did shift a bit, so unless it's going to be an a an anovulatory cycle, which I've never had before... hope you are enjoying a chill night!

The doctor rang DH, it's not very good new tbh!
He has a very low sperm count, high PH level but he said morphology and motility seems good - but I'm getting a call back tomorrow to log down the actual figures. So it's just a retest in 6 weeks, but I think surely they would want you to maybe change a few things, otherwise what's the point?? Unless I'm wrong. You know what men are like with asking questions, so I will feel better when I get to interrogate them ha! There was no one able to talk to me when I finished tonight 😩😩

Anyone have any advice for me please 🤞🏻

@whatsthecraic91 I'm with the other ladies, we never manage the 3rd day... too exhausted!

@Lottiepink did the doctor call re the retest?
@Lozzlepop googling the consultant sounds like a great idea... I'm going to fish out my letter now to do the same! 😄

@Kiza definitely give it a go with retroverted uterus or cervix 👍

@whatsthecraic91 agree with you the last one is exhausting and seems a bit pointless a lot of the time. The others are more important.

@Anny27 yes we are the same I'd love to not have to plan dtd but realistically, I just don't think we'd do it enough either if I didn't have a plan in my head.

@Lozzlepop @timswifey positive OPK this morning! Three times in a row starts tonight 😬

@timswifey I use fertility friend and it counts down to test- it's the day after my period so sadly I've never made it that far or not tested early haha

Hi Ladies!!

How are we all today?

@orangeloo haha sounds like a bit of fish getting flipped over. I tend to lie for about a minute then I get bored- DP seems to have fast swimmers if nothing else lol! Any sign of that positive OPK?

@Anny27 how are you doing? Yes not long to wait, I googled the consultant - is this normal behaviour? Lol 🙈

@Lottiepink did you take any new supplements or anything this month that might make for early OV? Did you manage to speak to the doctor regarding the SA?

@Kiza that may not be such a bad idea, bit uncomfortable to sleep in mind haha

@whatsthecraic91 I have never done the last day of SMEP either, we have always caught DTD in the run up to OV- it just gets too tiring and I dont want it to seem like a chore! I am with you- washing my hair is a total effort, its really thick so its never a morning task lol!

@timswifey yup, minus 4 here this morning BRRRRRR!!

Almost hometime, looking forward to a chilled night in with MasterChef!

@Anny27 @Lottiepink thanks for the reassurance! I’ll maybe skip tonight then as I will be home late & I have to wash my hair tonight - such effort!! Wouldn’t be so bad if my DP was into quickies, he says they aren’t fair on me 🙄 he’s too considerate sometimes 🤣

@anny27 hope you’re keeping okay 🙂

@timswifey thank you, I just wasn't sure if they do normally repeat the test or not. The receptionist said there was percentages against the motility etc so sample must have been viable, but they aren't trained to give them out, hopefully the doctor will ring soon ha!

I love that part of the cycle ha! What date is ovulation predicted? I don't use that app, I use natural cycles which I like, and started Fertility friend but I find it all confusing ha!

@Kiza hope AF is gentle with you. Fingers crossed for a Christmas BFP.

@Lozzlepop it's freezing where I am too - minus 2 this morning! 😱 don't mind it too much though, any excuse to get cosy!

@orangeloo how's SMEP going?

@Lottiepink maybe the sample got contaminated or it was unclear? I would try not to overthink it, they haven't told you anything bad yet 😊

CD16 here, DTD last night and will do again tomorrow I think 👍 I like how Ovia counts down the days til I take a pregnancy test, is anyone else using that app?

Thank @orangeloo @Kiza @Anny27
Hopefully the doctor will give us some answers today 😊

@Kiza that made me laugh 😂

I don't plan it we just do it when we want usually, I'll sometimes throw in thr 'today's a good day' and he knows what I mean 🤣 I think we would resent the whole thing of it if it's planned. But it's whatever works best for both of you 😊 I love how organised you all are though 👏🏻😂

@whatsthecraic91 I wouldn't put yourself under stress to do it tonight if you don't want, thing is if you've already ov'd I don't think it will matter 😊

@whatsthecraic91 we never do the days at the end, only 2, i can never be arsed after i know i have ovulated haha!

@kiza one sonographer said i had a retroverted uterus but the other (4) didnt! Perhaps it was just harder to find the one day

@lottiepink thanks lovely! I know it can be worrying, i had an inconclusibe test for antibodies when i waa pregnant and had to retest and i spent days worrying about it but the retest came back absolutley fine, they just hadnt used enough sample in the lab so fingers crossed itsnothing bad!

@orangeloo i am also a dtd planner and it does suck a bit of joy out of it but i dont think we would do it enough if it wasnt scheduled haha!

Morning all!! Officially 1DPO, working 12 hours today and tonight will be our 3rd DTD in a row and I honestly don’t think I can be arsed!! We have DTD CD5,7,8,11,13,15(Static) & 16 - today is CD 17 would it do any harm to miss it? I really wanted to complete SMEP but it’s so exhausting 😓 but then if I get a BFN I’ll be like it’s because I missed that one day we should have 🙈

@orangeloo it's hard to be compelled chilled about DTD when we have to plan it and remember the days, seems like an impossible task! I'll try the lying on my front, I've got a retroverted uterus so do wonder if sometimes if it's harder to find as the doctors always struggle to find the Damn thing so the blind semen are definitely going to have a hard task! 😆

@Lottiepink could be a number of reasons, even that they weren't able to analyse, let's hope the call tomorrow brings clarity and better news for you.
@Lozzlepop I imagined one of those old chastity belts when you told your story!

@whatsthecraic91 thanks! Think I've got another month left of my current ones so will order those recommended by your acupuncturist and just take my time swallowing the huge things.