AF arrived on cycle 11. Losing hope.

@PlanBea they were coming down. I came off the pill in January. It was 74 days, 56 days, 40, 40, 38 and now 39plus... positive OPK day 24... I had a doctors appointment (as I have long but light periods and last time 5 days of spotting old blood before my 6day period) but it was cancelled. Next appointment scheduled is 11th November..

@bluevelvet1 thanks. I've been temping with a Daysy fertility monitor and tracking CM but haven't had any ovulation indicators yet. Been DTD 3-4 times a week just in case! I'm at the GP on Monday so we'll see what he says, my GP is great so hopefully I will have some news before then.

@Mycrazylife85 38 is quite long, are they generally coming down from the 74? I think a few wonky ones post BC are normal. Fingers crossed AF comes soon so you aren't in such pain any more!

@bluevelvet1 it sounds like you are doing everything right. I’m on cycle 7 and really hoped that I wouldn’t be in this position but I am taking hope from a really good friend who tried for 2years and was under a fertility clinic with unexplained infertility and then got pregnant naturally. She’s 35+ weeks pregnant now and it’s definitely not been an easy ride but if you can keep trying and stay healthy then hopefully things will work out in the end for all of us. The stats do suggest 80% of us will be pregnant by the end of the year. So hopefully next cycle will be yours. FX for you and all the other ladies on this thread. Xx

@bluevelvet1 haven't gone to the GP yet, I'm currently in the TWW, if we have no luck this cycle we're going to make an appt.

I've tried lots of different things, not tracking, using OPKs, tracking my temperature, various apps and vitamins, pre-seed etc. We're going for a more relaxed approach now, just taking vitamins and logging when my AF is. My cycles vary from 28-35 days which is annoying 😖 every time I think I'm late, I take a test which is always negative and then AF will show up later that day!

Good luck at the fertility clinic - hope you get your BFP soon!

@bluevelvet1 @PlanBea same here. Came off the pill in January but due to long cycles I'm only on cycle 6. Took 74 days for my first period. Average 38 days now. I have been using OPK and have got positives then af around 12 dpo. 13dpo today but backache has been AWFUL last night and this morning. 😒

@bluevelvet1 have the most amazing trip, try not to think about ttc too much (easier said than done!) and same to you, hope you get good news soon

@bluevelvet1 no success story or advice, just want you to know you are not alone. Im in the same boat, started TTC end of December last year and no sniff of a BFP.

Added pressure of my DH's family constantly asking us when we're going to have a baby and have we thought about children? 😞

TTC since March - #1, never conceived before. Also feel rather hopeless. I’m 30 and DH 33, OPKs suggest I’m ovulating but haven’t this month I think . Entirely with you on feeling hopeless. Taking vitamins and have regular (if long-ish at 35 days) cycles. Feel like I’m just killing the next 3 months before the GP will look into anything. Everyone pregnant around me. It’s total shit

I started ttc in September 2018. I've had 3 chemical pregnancies and AF arrived today. Feel miserable. I have always conceived easily before. I feel redundant too. And time is running out for me. I'm 41 and it's going to be too late soon.

Hi @bluevelvet1, we started TTC at the same time as you did, but due to my long cycles I'm only at the end of cycle 9. Finally got the doctor to do a CD21 test this period as my BBT shows I'm not ovulating (on CD26 as I'm usually 33 days) and now my period has buggered off entirely. It's so frustrating, so what little progress I thought I made getting the test has been for nothing as they now want to test again next cycle (whenever that is!)
Good luck, take a few days to feel sad then baby dust for next cycle x

@bluevelvet1 your use of the word redundant really sums it up perfectly! That's exactly how I feel. I'm 34, ttc number 1 and only 6 months in, I know people try for a lot longer than that but still feels like a long time when your going through it. Could you possibly asked to be referred to a fertility clinic/hospital in a bigger nearby town? Completely understand you wanting to go private though.
I've done my BBT, if it is something you decide to try I'd recommend getting a thermometer that links to your phone via Bluetooth, it's a pain putting the info in when your half asleep!
I was taking pregnacare but have this month swapped over to just folic acid and vitamin d, husband is now on vitamins, I've lost a stone & 1/2 and starting reflexology next week. I find having a bit of a plan or something different to try each month helps me have a focus.
The thought of doing this for months/years scares me so much but I have to keep going, can't give up.
I hope your feeling a bit better and you can get a plan in place for seeing the fertility clinic. X

Same here @bluevelvet1 😔 ttc second since Feb, due on yesterday, took test earlier bfn. We conceived DS first try. I’ve had bloods and all came back okay. Have referral for scan, but been waiting 6 weeks for letter!
Gone through upset, frustration, anger, confusion, let down, and now I just feel like I can’t be arsed with this anymore.
I’ve used OPKs, tried SMEP, no caffeine etc etc but I’m 38 see and DH is in late 40s.

Hi @bluevelvet1 I didn't want to read and not reply, I haven't got a success story to share unfortunately as only been trying for 6 months. I completely understand how your feeling, I feel like I spend the 2 weeks leading up to ovulation being positive and hopefully and the tww slowly in a dwindling state of mental torture only for AF to turn up. You said you ovulate every month so I assume you've been temping to check that, have you considered your partner taking some conception vitamins if he isn't already. I've read about people trying alternative therapies and then getting there BFP's, rathsr than go to a fertility clinic privately would you see your GP and get referred for tests. I hope some of that helps even if just a tiny bit, didn't want to read and run. Be kind to yourself xx