TTC Second but having no luck :(

I've been peeing on clear blue sticks for 4 or 5 months now between days 10/11 until the pack of 7 runs out. In all that time, I've only had one positive - on cd 17 following a 35 days cycle but then AF arriving on day 28 that month.
I reckon I am addicted to these blasted sticks even though they never produce anything!
I had some reflexology last Thursday which would have been cd 17, and the reflexologist said she was very drawn to my reproductive areas! They were "hot" apparantly! She couldn't say what that meant exactly thought - could be OV or something else..... Here;s hoping for a something else! I've got another appointment with her on Thursday so I wonder whether they will still be hot? If not then I guess it means I OV around day 17. For future reference!!
Now on CD 22, with AF expected next Tuesday. Anyone else got news/similar CD?

Hi,

Am using CB Digital monitor and have had a peak reading the last 2 days so plenty of bding at the moment sorry if TMI. At least shows that I appear to be ovulating. After last time before DS I had been told that I didn't ovulate and that the best course of treatment would be clomid. Picked up the prescription only to find out 2 days later I was alrready pg! Here's praying (quietly but not wishing to get my hopes up) AF due 26th whilst I am on holiday but will try to hold out testing until early October if no AF by then. Could be a nice birthday and wedding anniversary present as celebrate both of these on 2nd October when still on holiday!

Also in the same boat. Took 4 months for DD born July 05, been trying 9 months now - had mc at 6 weeks a couple of months ago and started ttc straight away again. Feel the same as others - gap now bigger than I hoped and envious of friends etc who've already got no.2. One friend fell pregnant first month of ttcing both times!

just wanted to add my name to this list! have only just started trying for dc2 but have heard a lot of anecdotal evidence that it often takes longer 2nd time. will watch with interest, good luck everyone!
x

Am in the same boat too!
DS born June 05, after 3 months of trying following a mc in June 04 (after 3 months of trying!).

We've been TTC number 2 since March. I caught straight away although I didn't know until my "period" continued for 2 weeks, and then discovered that this was in fact a mc. Despite losing that one, I felt quite upbeat then, as thought , great, caught dead easily with attempt number one. Guess what, still waiting for that BFP, 5 months later. And now its really starting to get me down.

Loads of my friends are either pg with number 2 or have just had number 2 and thankfully, I am fine with that. I had a big wobble at the baby clinic last week though. Took DS for a weigh in and every other woman there was there with baby number 2, or was pg with number 2 or in one case, telling her mate that she was pg with number 2.

i'm becoming a bit obsessive about it. So I am trying relexology this month to see if that may help and also calm me down. Its not calmed me down (see above!) but am currently on CD13 so am hoping that it may have a positive effect elsewhere. Second appointment on Thursday this week.

Am glad to find I am not the only one in this boat!

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That's another month gone down the drain. AF turned up on Wednesday 2 days early!
Although didn't really expect a BFP this month due to the problems I had with my back a few weeks back. Hope it's not going to take me 3 years this time. I'm going to use a CB Digital MOnitor this month. Is anyone else using one? Any tips or stories to hi-light?

glad i could help my gp told us to do it when we fancy or every cpl days! caught whilst tipsy with dd after trying for 18m

Meandmy that's interesting news and really hits home for me. After reconstructing notes from my dd's babybook I had to have OVed earlier than normal. DH & I only BD once at CD7. I felt odd by CD26 and tested BFP on CD28.

This past year I've just been doing things by the book, so to speak. Focusing on mid cycle CD15 OVs. The babybook stuff made me think I'd been missing the mark. Your test results lead me to believe it's possible. I think I might have hit the target !

i am doing the clearblue trial at moment am in my 2cycle it has been good for pin pointing ov it kind of forewarns you with a high then you get a peak when you are oving as it reads the test stick for the different hormones last cycle was as expected but this one is a bit of a shocker as im cd8 and yest i got high so i should ov soon iv always thought (by cm) that i ov cd 12-14 so was bit confused but dp hasnt complained

Never tried fertility monitor.
Does it confirm or contradict the OV times you were using when you were ttc without it?

hi i had my dd june o6 it took me 18months to conceive so i started trying early this time and have been trying on and off since dd was born i am on my second offical cycle of trying (with clearblue fertility monitior) so know the situation and hormonall rollercoaster

Today is CD20. Maybe this is the month.

Anyone else here playing the waiting game right now?

Evening all,

Thought I would say hi on this thread. I started a similar one called TTC for older Mums. My story is on there but basically very similiar to lots of you on here. Lucky enough to conceive my lovely boy without too much effort and having too put in lots more effort, worry and stress this time round .

DH and I have an appointment with a consultant this Thursday unless we find out before then that we have hit the jackpot this month, AF is due any time around now. I am trying and failing not to read anything into fact she is a no show so far............Most months i don't get beyond day 27 and that is what i am on now but we shall see. I have quite easily resisted testing as I prefer to live in hope but will test on Thursday so as not to waste the consultants time if it turns out to be positive.

Until then I can dream...............

Babadooba - I went after about 7 months I think given that I had conceived twice easily. I wasn't sure they would actually do anything but thought if I at least got in the system it would help. As it was, they did start tests then. Given your age (if you don't mind me saying) I think a gp would definitely take you seriously after 6 months and it might be worth you going after 5 just to get started.

Trib - my age gap ideal wasn't based on anything really. Mainly I think that I gave up work to have dd and she is due to start nursery in September when she'll be 2.7 ish. I always thought by that time I would have another as it feels a bit wierd her going off for 12 hours a week and me twiddling my thumbs (or shopping too much).
As it goes, I have 2 older brothers the younger of the two is 3 years older than me and the other is almost 5 years older than me and I can safely say the age gaps have been nothing and have never been an issue. As it stands now, if I conceived this month I would have a 3.4 yrs (or maybe a bit less if dc2 appeared as dd did). But actually, someone just posted on another thread - the age gap you get is the one you're meant to have - and I think I just have to believe that.

40 is still young!!
I have faith.

BUT I'M 40!!! AAAghhh!

Same boat here.

33 stopped pill in Feb, started ttc in Apr, preg by Jun. Now 36 ttc almost 1 full year. My head hears the clock ticking but my body is ignoring it.

Welcome one and all - hope that all of us only need our special club for a short period of time.

Wheely - my ideal gap was 2 years, essentially because me and my bro are almost exactly 2 years apart. Is your 2.5 years based on something similar? I feel a bit daunted about the possibility of sibs three years apart, I don't really know why! I have older [step] siblings with a bigger age gap and it doesn't really matter in the slightest, but it just feels wrong somehow. Sigh.

Best of luck to all, ladies!

Wheelybug - how long do you think I should leave it b4 getting checked out? Just want to make sure that I don't miss the boat for IVF if need be.

Bababooda - I'm ok, frustrated and fed up and have been through some really low points but am off on a relaxing ish (with 2.5 year old in tow?! ) holiday at the w/e and then after that intend to have acupuncture and get fit etc. I have had preliminary tests done which are all clear and dh is going to get a sperm test done this week hopefully. We can be referred any time now but I kind of want to give alternative treatment a try first (so will probably go and get the referal process started as it will take a few months).

I'm 'only' 32 so in that respect have some time on my side but always envisaged a 2.5 year gap between dc's so that is my main frustration.

Sorry Wheelybug - how are you feeling and if you don't mind me asking - how old are you?