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Start TTC November/December, fresh off the mini pill, anybody else?

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Blondeandbroody · 24/10/2019 14:03

I’m due to stop taking the mini pill next week and then hopefully going to start TTC properly once my periods return to normal but in the meantime I’m aware that anything can happen and I for one am hoping that I’ll be one of the lucky ones to get a BFP quickly but I won’t hold my breath!

My OH is somewhat less enthusiastic as me so I think I need to proceed with caution and not mention when I’m ovulating or schedule DTD - I’ve waited years for him/us to be ready I daren’t scare him off now!!!!

Anybody else looking to start TTC soon after the mini pill?

Anybody else got any tips on how to proceed in terms of TTC, ovulation kits etc...

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Blondeandbroody · 02/12/2019 14:14

@MayDay27 I forgot to reply directly to you haha still not for the hang of this yet!!

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Blondeandbroody · 02/12/2019 14:14

Welcome! ❤️ How exciting for you both, TTC and a wedding coming up xx

I’ve been off the mini pill for 2 weeks now. I came off at the start of a bleed so I’m not sure whether I can trust the typical fertile window that follows a proper AF but I’m acting as if it was a normal one and that I ovulated as I should, until I get my first AF being completely off the pill.

I’m driving myself insane too thinking about it. I’ve waited years for my OH to be ready to TTC so I’m finally allowing myself to be excited after so long waiting haha. It’s hard because you know you shouldn’t get your hopes up but up they get anyway!

I’m not going to suggest you don’t think about it or worry Or obsess cause I’d be the biggest hypocrite! Every man and his dog could tell me to relax about it but I won’t, I can’t haha.

I just remind myself that it might not happen quickly or at all, and let myself enjoy the excitement of it all for now and see what happens. I’m not using OPKs sounds too complicated so I’m just using the Flo app and making sure we DTD in the window but not forcing it on the right dates because my OH Does not want it to happen that way.

In the last two weeks since coming off I have looked at maternity clothes, sourced some good non alcoholic mulled wine just in case hahaha, stood in the spare room and pictured it as a nursery, browsed nursery furniture, looked at baby clothes, downloaded baby names apps, bought and started taking folic acid, bought FRER tests, obsessively researched conception and ovulation. So yeah, this is me when I’m consciously telling myself that it may not happen quickly but the side of me hoping it will is still running wild!

I have a Christmas party next week around what I think may be “10dpo” so I think I’ll take a FRER test then and see what that says if it’s even slightly possible it’s positive with the faintest of lines I can avoid alcohol and if it’s negative I can enjoy myself still in moderation and wait until when I suspect my AF is late to take another if she hasn’t shown her face!

It’s a good idea for you to let your cycle settle for a few months so you don’t have the uncertainty I have now not knowing where I am in my cycle! But I’m far too impatient to wait and I have nothing holding me back, if you were to fall pregnant now you’d be due around your wedding date! Haha that wouldn’t be ideal now would it.

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MayDay27 · 01/12/2019 23:03

Hi guys can I join!
Came off the pill last week and had my withdrawal bleed. Just can't wait to have my first natural period now so I can start logging stuff on the Ovia app! We're going to wait a couple of months till we start trying properly, I think use condoms for a little while but I wanted to come off the pill to give myself chance to see what my normal cycle would be. I've been on contraception so long I can't remember what not being on it was like! Since we've decided we want to start trying soon it's literally been all consuming!! We've both known that at some point we would want children but it's only recently we've properly discussed it and since then I've been reading so much about conceiving I've become obsessed! I'm 30 and the OH is 32, we've been together 12 years and getting married in August. We're only having a very small registry reception so being pregnant wouldn't be a bad thing but ideally I wouldn't want to be late on by then hence why we're going to wait a few months before trying. We get a new puppy in 2 weeks so hopefully that will keep me busy and keep my mind off obsessing about the future! It's just nice reading that I'm not the only one! You end up feeling silly when you keep bringing the subject of TTC up with friends!

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Blondeandbroody · 01/12/2019 22:34

@Elmlee the ones I’ve got are pregnancy multi vitamins x from Asda but I’m just taking folic acid atm!

Does anybody else feel scared at the thought of taking a pregnancy test, soon as you do it there’s no going back haha!?! Just me?

I’m wondering whether to try those early ones or just wait until the date I’m expecting my AF...

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Elmlee · 01/12/2019 12:08

@Blondeandbroody I would try and speak to a pharmacist or GP about multi vitamins.
I was going to start taking some a couple of months ago and they said avoid of pregnant or trying to conceive. So not sure what was in them to make them say that 🤨🤷🏻‍♀️

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Blondeandbroody · 01/12/2019 11:46

@Elmlee
I’m due my next AF on 15th December and we have been DTD whilst I’ve been in my alleged fertile window (if I the app I use is correct which it may well not be after so long on POP) so it’s possible but I’m not going to get my hopes up toooooo much 😂

I got some pregnancy multi vitamins, being a vegetarian I worry that I don’t get enough of everything in my diet so wanted something like that but also have just straight folic acid.

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Elmlee · 01/12/2019 10:05

@Blondeandbroody

I've replied to your inbox ❤️😊

I've got folic and vitamin D combo. It's just from boots.

I'm not taking anything more like you said until I know I need it.

Awww that's would be cute but remember we've left it quite late for Christmas.

Likelihood is you could get pregnant now and you wouldn't 100% know anyway as it's only 24 days away! That's what my MOT said?

Start TTC November/December, fresh off the mini pill, anybody else?
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Blondeandbroody · 30/11/2019 11:27

I’ve just bought some folic acid and some pregnancy multivitamins i think I’ll take just folic acid for now and save the multivitamins for when I get a BFP.

Is there anything else I should take?

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Blondeandbroody · 29/11/2019 23:45

@Elmlee that was meant for you haha still not got the hang of this yet!!!

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Blondeandbroody · 29/11/2019 23:45

That’s good advice I’m trying really hard because I have a feeling that first AF after being off the pill for a full cycle will crush me. So I could do with trying not to get so hopeful to protect myself from the disappointment I’ll feel if I get my hopes way up, but then my mind starts to think wouldn’t it be nice for it to happen the first cycle, how nice would it be to give the positive rest as a Christmas “gift” to my OH! Haha I’m my own worst enemy, I obsess over things that I’m excited or worried about and I’m both! Excited for the journey and worried it’s gonna take forever!

I have PMed you as well ❤️

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Elmlee · 28/11/2019 22:29

@Blondeandbroody my mum just said don't think about it. She said just enjoy being off the pill and seeing how you feel. She said you'll stress and stress can prolong the wait and delay stuff 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm just going to plod on.. log on ovia and just enjoy time with the hubby in between seeing family, working and preparing for Xmas.. I think we will smash it.. having Christmas to keep us side tracked might really help!

We shall have to keep in touch 🥰

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Blondeandbroody · 28/11/2019 22:22

@Elmlee

Well when I came off the pill I was in the middle of a bleed which I think is a period as I had them on and off whilst on the mini pill. So I don’t really know WTF is going on until I get my first AF after coming off.

I can’t help myself it helps me not focus too much on the upset of waiting and being so impatient if I focus my energy on something else haha even if it is planning the nursery or maternity clothes window shopping online haha!

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Elmlee · 28/11/2019 21:59

@Blondeandbroody I know how you feel about looking at things! Soon as we had the chat 7/8 months ago I was looking at prams and cots 😂

We've been together 8 years and married for a year. He was always fairly anti kids to start... I think since a couple of his friends have had children it's became more of something he's thought about. His mum is so excited she is dying to be a nan!!

I've started to log stuff on the ovia app... have you had a bleed or anything yet? I've been bleeding since Tuesday and spotting since Sunday...

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Blondeandbroody · 28/11/2019 21:34

@Elmlee I saw your post on the other thread first. Yay TTC buddies!!! Xx

Me and oh discussed TTC in august whilst on holiday but he was going to be really tied up on a work thing for a few months so we said we would wait til December so he can be there for me in the early days if I’m sick etc. We’ve been together nearly 6 years now and have been waiting for the “right” time for a couple years now. I’ve been so ready for it that whenever anybody around me In real life says they’re pregnant it makes me cry just with pure jealousy! So I’m so happy that we are now finally trying, I’m just so impatient and I’m a planner and an overthinker I’ve already been looking at maternity clothes for Christ’s sake haha but it helps me to soothe my impatience so I don’t care haha I’m not harming anybody with my extraness. I am so glad I joined Mumsnet cause we’re all the same when TTC it seems! Or at least similar degrees of it!

I came off officially on 20th November and we’ve only DTD once since then And technically close enough to ovulation but he withdrew cause we hadn’t officially discussed anything then... so I doubt that’s gonna result in anything. If my app is right I should be ovulating this weekend so you can be sure I’ll be making sure we DTD this weekend haha! i know my cycle is probably all over so I am not expecting anything this month but I can’t help but hope.

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Elmlee · 28/11/2019 20:20

Hey ladies hope you don't mind me jumping on this thread too?
I've been on the part 3 thread but I came across this thread.
@Blondeandbroody I think we might be on pretty much same journey give or take a few days! That's pretty exciting 😍 feel like I've found a little buddy!

I stopped on the 23rd of November. Been half arsing my pill anyway tbh. We decided about 7/8 months ago we were ready to start a family.

Have you and your OH been together long? 😊😊

FutureMrsSmith · 28/11/2019 19:27

It's all one big guessing game!
I don't like how out of control we are when TTC! It's good you've got some data from previous months so you can compare this next period to. My mind has been boggled but I'm so glad there's forums like this where you can ask away without judgement and get all sorts of advise and have people to wait with during the TWW!
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Blondeandbroody · 28/11/2019 19:08

I was on the mini pill so didn’t take breaks and I still bled and it was just like a normal period, same length, same symptoms etc but I don’t really know how it works to be honest it’s all very confusing. I don’t drink much anyways but do love a glass of mulled of two at Christmas so unless I am lucky enough to have a BFP before Christmas I shall indulge myself a little haha!

Acting as if my “periods” That I’ve been logging for the last 6 months are periods and wait and see for any changes to my “cycle” and adjust as needs be x

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FutureMrsSmith · 28/11/2019 19:02

Yay @Blondeandbroody welcome to the TTC club! 😍
You should also join the TTC chat called End of November part 3 , loads of advise on there.
What I would say is that the breaks inbetween the pill aren't proper periods, they are known as withdrawl bleeds so just be mindful when symptom spotting (because you will!) that any different niggles to what your used to can get our hopes up!
Definitely start with folic acid, good if your OH will take some too. There are loads of other pregnancy vitamins but Iv read mixed reviews about them messing people's cycles up so Iv decided just to go with NHS advise and just do the folic acid - have a read up!
I don't drink anyway but I did read that during the 2WW you should act like you're pregnant (because you could be!) but given it's your first month and it's Xmas I'd say don't put too much pressure on things and enjoy both 😊

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Blondeandbroody · 27/11/2019 20:51

Hey guys!

So I’ve come off the pill earlier than planned. Woo hoo!

I am so excited!!
I need to start taking folic acid. Also and I only ask this cause it’s nearly Christmas haha but does anybody stop drinking when TTC or just when you get your BFP?

I had a period last week and my pains were horrific and my OH suggested I come off it because they have all been bad the last 3 months and we’re never this bad before the pill so I stopped taking it a week ago now.

We have had the chat tonight and agreed to just proceed naturally and see what happens.

I’ve been on the pill for years now and my periods have been on and off with it but they’ve been quite regular the past few months so fingers crossed it doesn’t take too long for my body to adjust! A Christmas Day BFP now wouldn’t that be wonderful! Won’t get my hopes up though!!

Also I’m going to start a pregnancy bullet journal when I get my BFP to document my pregnancy and it can be something to give to the little one when they grow up.

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FutureMrsSmith · 16/11/2019 20:25

@Jam234 you should join on a big chat called End Of November, jump on board part 2.
The girls there can offer loads of advise and there are 2 BFPs this month.

Jam234 · 16/11/2019 11:10

Hi everyone. I have nothing new to report ha. Im off the pill about 7 weeks now. I feel like i have read every thread on here about TTC. And each persons symptoms are so different. I have already convinced myself i am infertile and pregnant 😂😂
I think i ovulated during the week but only because i had some EWCM all week though? Im stressing myself out trying to symptom spot already.
@FutureMrsSmith im like you i need to plan everything. But this you just cant. I dont even know what cycle day i am on!! Atleast you got your AF now hopefully you can start your journey.

FutureMrsSmith · 16/11/2019 10:20

Well AF made her arrival known this morning!
Here's to our first official cycle of TTC!

FutureMrsSmith · 12/11/2019 19:49

Sounds like a good idea!
I stopped the pill 1 month ago (today) and no period as yet. I have tested but BFN which was expected so not disheartened at all given it's our first monthly the pill. Hoping AF arrives soon so I can get started properly

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Blondeandbroody · 12/11/2019 18:59

I’ve got 2 and a half more weeks of the pill to go! It happens to be a full 28 days worth until we have agreed to come off it, so it’s good to see those little white pills going down on the sheet!

Anybody had any progress this past couple weeks? X

I’m getting sore boobs so I think I may have a bleed in a week or so, if I do I think I’m going to discuss with OH and come off it then because it’s only a week and I can’t get pregnant whilst bleeding either so makes sense! Gives my body an extra week to adjust.

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FutureMrsSmith · 12/11/2019 17:41

How is everyone doing?