TTC baby #1

Ooo one thing I’ve been wanting to ask you guys is what are you doing about drinking while TTC?
I’ve had a bit of a detox and haven’t drunk over the last few weeks, but don’t want to give it up altogether as I won’t be able to have a glass of wine for nine months once we’re successful! I’ve read that one drink every couple of days has no statistical impact on conceiving - what are you guys doing in practice?!

Hey guys! Still having off and on cramping feelings here even though AF isn't due for another 1.5 weeks. I have no idea what's going on!

Otherwise, I'm meeting up with some friends tomorrow and then going out for a sushi lunch with DH on Sunday. That should keep me busy enough to not be thinking about TTC all the time!

@notalwaysalondoner House viewing is exciting, although it does tend to get boring if you have to do it for a long time. We were viewing houses for 6 months before we bought ours and after the first few it gets frustrating not finding the right house! Hopefully you'll find something that you like in the first round!

We’re doing some house viewings over the weekend - trying to figure out if we want to stay in London or move to the commuter belt, it’s such a difficult decision! My sister-in-law who lives abroad is over for dinner on Sunday, so that will be great. She’s moving even further away in a couple of weeks so it will be goodbye for a while...

Then I think I will ovulate Wednesday so going to start DTD enthusiastically Sunday onwards!

@Itsemily I definitely think trust the Clearblue over the Boots test!! In which case you totally could have DTD in time! Keeping my fingers crossed for you.. and welcome to the 2WW, it's fun hahaha.
Thank you for your positivity, it's much needed. This journey so far is such a rollercoaster of emotions. Doesn't help when the weather is gloomy.

@Niffler1988 that's good news about your cycle though, hopefully it'll be easier to track this month ☺️

My plans for the weekend are to stay as busy as possible and NOT think about TTC/the fact that AF should be coming on Monday 🤞🏼 the cramps have stopped today which is nice because otherwise it's like a constant reminder haha what about you guys?

I’m 5/6dpo, have very annoying lower back pain but I do get it from time to time so I don’t know if it’s cause I’m sitting weird or I’m overthinking it! Also cramping/feeling af is coming but it’s not due until 21st! Other than that I feel fine, wish I just knew either way!!

Sorry ladies I've been so busy the past few days!! So AF has arrived Bang on time, typical! However, one positive is that my cycle seems to have regulated again so I should be able to track my O better! And looking at it, it doesn't seem like we actually DTD at the right time! How are you all doing?

@Itsemily I don't know what might have been happening with the OPKs, but from my understanding sperm can remain viable in the uterus/tubes for up to 7 days so you should still be good 🤞

@Konbanwa I'm keeping everything crossed but I don't know.. I'm such a negative person that I have it in my head that I will just never get pregnant (I know, SO negative) so I don't truly believe it will ever happen to me, which is really sad when I think about it. If I let myself believe I could for just a second I get too excited and know I'm just setting myself up for disappointment 🙁

@han2291 Your symptoms seem like those that some people say can be a sign of early pregnancy! That's so exciting! Fingers crossed for when you test!

@Konbanwa yes there's definitely a lot of Asian dramas, I saw a Korean one that looked good but in the evening after I've been staring at a computer screen the idea of reading sub titles puts me off haha.
Not heard of either of those but I'll check them out! I love a good cooking show ☺️
That's awesome, love that he knows what he's talking about!

@han2291 I bet HK Netflix is amazing though! I love Korean and Chinese dramas so I'm sure you have loads of choice!

In regards to other Netflix shows, I quite like the cooking ones like Sugar Rush and Nailed It. They are good for a laugh!

And yes, my DH surprised me with all his research although he is very scientifically minded so was also talking about oestrogen and progesterone curves! Ha!

@Konbanwa that's awesome and so good that he's done some of his own research! I mentioned my cramps today to husband and he said "but that could also be implantation right?" 😂 I was like whaaaa??

Thanks for the article, will definitely have a read.

@notalwaysalondoner welcome!! And it's NEVER too late to jump onto the gossip girl train 😂

@Itsemily ah I'm sorry 🙁 there's always next month and you never know, you might still catch it in time anyway!

@Konbanwa same, it's tricky to figure out what normal symptoms are supposed to be after not having any for so long. I'm on my 3rd day now of on and off cramps.. they feel like very mild period cramps but I don't feel bloated (yet, still 4 days until AF) and this may be TMI so I'm sorry in advance haha but this evening my underwear feels damp.. I keep dashing off to the loo to check but there's no bleeding just a lot of white CM 🤷🏻‍♀️ I didn't feel this way my last 2 cycles but who knows if this is also just another "new" PMS symptom for me. I don't want to pick up on everything but I literally can't switch my brain off.

On a lighter note, since I can't get English TV here Netflix is my best friend! I just finished the 3rd season of 13 Reasons Why so now I'm in a bit of limbo deciding what to watch next.. give me your suggestions 😁

@itsheapsswell Welcome to the group and good luck on your TTC journey!

@notalwaysalondoner I've never watched Gossip Girl but have heard good things about it!

I had a good chat with my DH last night about TTC and he was really helpful and reassuring about being just as fully on board and excited as I am. It made me feel so much better and less stressed about the whole thing. Especially as he showed me how much research he had also been doing!

Something that I found referenced in another thread, and had a read through last night, was the SMEP (sperm meets egg plan) method. It sounds really good so if I get a BFN this month we might try that for November (maybe with or without the OPKs!)

spermmeetseggplan.com

Welcome @itsheapsswell!

My DH seems happy to talk about the dates, but it's only month 1 so we'll see whether it puts the pressure on or not! What days pre- and post- ovulation are you planning to DTD? I understand you are recommended to do it every other day to boost the sperm count, but is that on Ovulation minus 2, then on Ovulation day, then 2 days after? Or is ovulation -3, -1 and +1 better...? Any evidence?

@Konbanwa, I'm working pretty late right now so typically get home between 1930 and 2130, but in the couple of hours I have I have recently got very into Gossip Girl (ten years after the rest of the world haha). Meeting my mum and sister tonight who are up in the big city which will be great - my parents live 3 hours away and I wish I could see more of them. We're starting to househunt and I'd love to move more in their direction (west of London) but we'd still need to commute so 1.5 hours is probably the closest we'll be for the time being :(

@BubbleBathLover I know what you mean. I'm having the same issue here and I'm trying not to make my DH feel pressured or bored with talking about it!

Hi all. I’m 24 and live in the countryside- this our first cycle trying after getting the copper coil out but I’m 99% sure we’ve missed our window this month. My period is due in 4-7 days so we will see...

I am trying not to show my husband how much I’m obsessing/stressing over it because I don’t want him to feel the same. I keep telling myself that it will happen when it happens!