November Bus - testing first week of November 2019

@omikron I came off the pill at 23 and we said we would just let it happen I didn't use OPKs and OH worked evenings so not that much DTD prob once a week I had no idea when I was ovulating and my cycles were a bit all over the place 28-34 days. I got pregnant at 25 it took over 2 years. I didn't have the PMS symptoms I do now then though I only got cramps day before and day off and sore boobs. Now my cycle is very regular I O CD 15,16 or 17 and always get AF 13 days after O but my cramping and backache is very bad and can start 6/7 days before AF. Sorry for essay x

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia sending you lots of hugs! I feel you, it can get so hard sometimes especially when you hear people around you with their success stories. I've definitely had my ups and downs so please don't feel like you're alone, I'm here if you need to vent 💖
And you're not out yet!

3DPO, a very long shot for a positive but I'll see how it goes. Fingers crossed for some good news. I feel a bit more relaxed today but I'm sure that'll change come 7-8 DPO 🙈

My message above meant to include you @Nic555 instead of just @

@ItsAlwaysSunnyinPhiladelphia

Hope you are feeling better. It’s so hard to not obsess. Here for you, I’m hoping it’s your lucky month!

I feel so negative about it at times and I am only starting this journey. Trying to live in the moment and not stress about whether AF is gonna arrive or not. Easier said than done!

@ I can really relate to what you are saying, I never tried for my son, we just weren’t using protection so I’ve never had all this checking when ovulation is gonna happen etc but I just don’t want to waste time not actively trying!

One more day of the 2ww down anyway!

Hey Ladies

Hope its OK I join I'm not due till the middle of Nov.

My stats
TTC no 2
Age 30
Cycle 10
AF due 17th November
Def ovulating got my Progesterone levels checked in May
Doctor has referred me to a Gynaecologist as she is pretty sure I have Endometriosis.

Oh guys!! Thank you so so much for your responses. I am genuinely floored. It has cheered me up so much. I was just expecting to vent and everyone just to carry on as normal but it was just lovely to get some replies of encouragement from people who understand. We are stronger together, right? ❤️❤️
I will try and keep positive, you guys have certainly helped xx

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia so sorry to hear you are feeling so down. It's completely normal and natural this TTC business is just a constant stress. I wish I'd never Googled it and just used OPKs. from CM to position of cervix to symptom spotting there's always something to worry about.

What I would say is how our OH feel as well is also completely normal. Luckily my husband wants a baby even more than me but he is very open and has discussed the pressure with his mates and brother and they have said they felt the pressure as well to perform. Luckily he will perservere and make sure we manage to DTD even if it seems to take forever 🙈 we struggle with thinking let's leave tonight so that it's easier the next day and then something happens the next day and we don't get chance.

The fact he managed three times the week before is fantastic though. Now you know your body more it'll be easier to time it right. If I was you I wouldn't tell him you're ovulating it may make it easier. I can't do that as my husband asks me daily if I'm ovulating.

Sending you lots of love and hoping you feel better ❤️ xx

Hi ladys had a few days away so hard to catch up... hope your all well... according to my app I am due to ov today but I do not feel anything but I did yesterday moody little bit crampy bloated so I wonder if I did early I have dtd evey other day leeding up.. but oh did not want to dtd yesterday. Here to the tww

@Ellsbells112 & @Peachyx2505 My dd is 8, 9 in April so I'd be looking at a 9y gap 😲 must be mad!!

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia my dd was conceived through donor insemination on a Thursday & I ovulated Sunday night so try & keep positive.

@Peachyx2505 hey girl! Yeah my one is super excited for the prospect of having a baby bro or sis! So hopefully we both get preggo soon lol xx

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia I am so so sorry you feel like this. Its really hard not to feel like this I know because I go through ups and downs in trying to conceive too we all do and its super hard when you feel alone! It really takes over and then you feel like you cant talk about your symptoms because it's a bloody monthly routine! I'm here for you I know you dont know me but vent away! 🤗❤🥰

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia sorry you're going through a rough time at the minute. TTC is such an emotional roller-coaster.

I got into an argument with my OH over the weekend as he feels like I'm just focussed on ttc and not our relationship since our MMC a few months ago.

I've started to try to 'set the mood' more rather than tell him I'm about to ovulate and DTD every other day. This has helped for us as he feels I want to as opposed to need to. Maybe try this a bit this evening but don't feel disheartened if he's still not up for it. As @CooperLooper said, you've done it in your fertile window so you're certainly not out!

I'm so scared of trying this month as it's the first cycle since MMC. Scared that it wont happen, scared that it will and I won't be able to relax. Its nice we all have each other on here to vent.

Sending lots of hugs 💕 x

Hey @ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling rough at the minute. You've definitely come to the right place as I can imagine a lot of us are feeling the same things you are.

I do think with all the info and research we do into ov and opks and cycle lengths and lute phases, it's so easy for it to become a mechanical routine and all you can think about, honestly I can say I feel the same way as you. Every time I pick up my phone I'm looking at stuff online to do with getting pregnant and baby name threads and all sorts. It takes over!

You've still had sex in your fertile window this month so you're not out - keeping my fingers crossed. It only takes once 🧡 If your DP is feeling under pressure, then try and use your TWW now as some time to focus on just the two of you, without the pressure of ovulation.

It will happen for you eventually 🧡 how long have you been trying? X

Hey ladies.
Hope you are all doing good.
I’m feeling a bit rough atm. I need somewhere to vent and you all seem lovely and I think this is a safe place.
I think I’ve just ovulated, or it’s very imminent. I had my positive OPK last night.
DH couldn’t perform Sunday night and made it very clear he didn’t want to DTD last night. So I’m hanging on Fridays so now I’m hanging on the fact that sperm can live for up to 4 days.
I just feel like shit because I know in my heart of hearts that that is very unlikely and I’m out before TTW has even begun.
Last night I was just silently crying trying to get to sleep because I just felt so overwhelmed and disappointed. I know it’s not DH’s fault; but it’s really hard not to resent him and I’m worried that this TTC shit and calculated sex is having a negative effect on our relationship.
It’s just so hard. I think about being pregnant day, night, sleeping. Just daydreaming that someday it will happen to me but it just seems impossible.
I am looking ahead to next cycle already. I don’t want to use my OvuSense, I don’t want to carry on using it this cycle as it just becomes obsessive. I’m just thinking about getting CB OPKs so I don’t have to look at those green sticks every time I pee. I don’t want DH to resent me because we have to DTD ‘again’ and I will get secretly upset if it doesn’t go to plan.
It’s hard ladies. I hate this. I guess I will try try try not to obsess over symptom spotting in the next 2 weeks but we all know that’s near on impossible. At least one positive I can take from this cycle is that DH and I DTD 3 times in one week. I now know when I am ovulating at around CD 18, so I can start mass DTD later in my cycle as I think that that was the issue this month in that we started to early and DH just ran out of steam.
I hope you are all having much more luck that me this month. Xx

Predicted ov over here is on my birthday..... might try and just dtd Fri,Sat,Sun and Mon (birthday) and see if that works out 😂 Also going to start opk today's as I normally start them too late... 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Ellsbells112 my DS is 7 in December.... big age gap but I think he would love to be a big brother! Xx

Hey guys can I join??
I'm 27 ttc number two 8 years later! This will be my third month so smooched over from October bus.
I'm fertile starting 30th October! Hoping this month will be the month I cant stand the feeling when AF comes I just want to cry every time! I hope you're all okay, anyone fertile around the same time? I think I ovulate around the 2nd November

@ceebee21 ah I know you’re right! Venice sounds amazing, enjoy your tww!

@Nic555 I’m also feeling positive 🙂 We’ve done what we could and as it’s mostly down to luck anyway!

I’ve ovulated a bit late so am pushing my test date back if I don’t get AF.
I am not going to test early!! (Repeat to self)

So just rechecked my app and as I'm back on a 28 day cycle AF due on 4th and not 9th so don't have as Kong to wait to test 😃

Now can't decide whether to test first thing in 4th or leave it till 5th 🤔

Don't feel like you're out @wannabebump. If you're in your fertile week then you'll have a good few days in which to dtd? Hopefully your hubby won't be ill all week?
I'm sorry to hear of your miscarriage, I had one in mid January. We left it a few months before trying again, I naively thought I'd fall pregnant again straight away 😕

Hi all, these are my stats.
TTC #2
Age 38
Cycle 7
AF due 3rd November

I'm 1dpo today (I think.) I got my static smiley on Saturday and ov twinges that evening. What with one thing or another we only managed to dtd on Saturday. Plans to dtd yesterday and today went out the window. Prior to dtd on Saturday we hadn't done it for the last two weeks what with hubby having an operation, af arriving, I've not been well, etc. Dtd on Saturday was our only shot for this month so I know how you feel @12goldstars! I'm hoping it just takes that one time for it to happen 🤞

I'm off this bus already, fertile week and husband isn't feeling well, doesn't want to baby dance. First month after 3 month wait after miscarriage, so upset 😢

Good luck to everyone else x

@CooperLooper AF due on 9th and I also going away for the night for my friends birthday so I'm gonna try and just hang on until then. Got a spare test left in a drawer so figured I could hang onto it and not waste it by testing early.