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Smug? Please answer honestly

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Basil90 · 01/10/2019 08:43

Hi all,

A bit of an odd question to ask perhaps - but if you fell pregnant quickly, do you feel smug about it?

Please only respond if you're able to answer honestly.

Thanks

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Crystal87 · 01/10/2019 17:31

No. Ive felt surprised and pleased, but not smug. I've got four children. I conceived 2 of them the first month of trying. But my 2 middle children took over a year. So I know what it's like to get frustrated. You can feel smug about conceiving a child quickly but that doesn't mean your next will be so easy.

keepingbees · 01/10/2019 16:57

I fell pregnant first attempt with all 3 of my children. I feel nothing but grateful, relief and sometimes a bit guilty that I never had to try when others have so much heartache. Never smug, it's not something that was in my control, it was just biology and luck.
It's also made me very fearful of accidental pregnancy.

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 01/10/2019 16:54

Smug...no, not at all, I felt incredibly lucky that I was able to conceive quickly.

RoLaren · 01/10/2019 16:08

Smug? God, no. Relieved.

1st child took 1 month to conceive
2nd child took 2 months
3rd child took a year

My ages were 38, 39 and 43.

Redwinestillfine · 01/10/2019 15:53

No. I felt relief. We had just had an eptopic pregnancy and the leaflets we were given suggested it could take a while.

Nelly325 · 01/10/2019 15:45

I felt immensely grateful because my dh had a test which showed low sperm count ... But we fell pregnant in one month . Just pure gratitude

Aria2015 · 01/10/2019 15:37

Not at all. In my experience falling pregnant quickly doesn't guarantee anything anyway - I fall pregnant very easily, but I don't stay pregnant sadly.

ivfbabymomma1 · 01/10/2019 15:25

I had to have ivf and luckily my first round of ivf was successful and I now have an 11 week old baby boy! Smug? Absolutely not! Eternally grateful and proud of my body? Absolutely! There is a lot of focus on not only infertility but also miscarriage and it was the first time I had been pregnant and thankfully I didn't miscarry! But I would never ever feel smug about this! Just absolutely and eternally grateful!

kitchensinkdrama19 · 01/10/2019 15:18

I wouldn't say smug but I have a great sense of empathy for those who haven't conceived. Life isn't fair.

Whoops75 · 01/10/2019 15:03

I’m sitting in the CAHMS waiting room with my easily conceived child.

If I was smug I’d have nobody to talk too and nobody would empathize.

Smug people must be very lonely when things get hard.

earlynightneeded · 01/10/2019 14:58

Not smug at all! I actually was scared shirtless and was shocked it happened so quickly and I was v unprepared 😂

Probablyshouldbecleaning · 01/10/2019 14:46

I had a loss and when a friend came to tell me privately about her own pregnancy (she knew about my loss) she was grinning from ear to ear and said something very flippant about my pregnancy being over when hers was beginning. I'd say she was smug about it. I've never forgotten what she said and how she told me. Or forgiven her tbh.

Only a certain type of person would be smug about one persons pain while they had by pure chance of Mother Nature been lucky.

OneForTheRoadThen · 01/10/2019 14:43

No not at all. The way I see it is conception wasn't my struggle but plenty of other things are.

StylishMummy · 01/10/2019 14:40

I felt guilty, so many friends were trying for 12-18m and we fell pregnant within 2 weeks with a very wanted baby. But then I gave birth at 28 weeks and friends went full term, so swings and roundabouts. No smugness, fucking awful term

WhizzingFizzbee · 01/10/2019 14:39

Maybe a ‘congratulations, good for you?’ My experience won’t be spoiled for a minority of people.

Whoops75 · 01/10/2019 14:38

mostly surprised and slightly overwhelmed as hadn’t had much chance to mentally prepare

I felt like this too.
I also felt anxious that because I hadn’t trouble conceiving that something else would go wrong.

Such an emotional time.

PurpleDaisies · 01/10/2019 14:06

"Took me 3 days to get pregnant."

How do you expect people to respond to that?

verticality · 01/10/2019 14:04

"Took me 3 days to get pregnant."

Why do you feel the need to mention that like it's some sort of personal achievement? Why can't you just say "We haven't experienced the struggle, but ..."

Lacking in compassion and classless.

SecondTimeCharm · 01/10/2019 13:35

nope, mostly surprised and slightly overwhelmed as hadn’t had much chance to mentally prepare. occasionally feel a little guilty about it knowing it can be difficult for others

mumofftwo · 01/10/2019 13:33

Never tried for my first 2 so I dont know but am currently trying for number 3 but I wouldn't feel smug about it

WhizzingFizzbee · 01/10/2019 13:30

Took me 3 days to get pregnant. I wouldn’t feel smug but I don’t see anything wrong with being happy or announcing it, it’s a great thing to happen. Why rain on someone else’s parade because you might have issues.

verticality · 01/10/2019 13:29

Oh this is very, very definitely A Thing.

Confused38 · 01/10/2019 13:27

What terrible friends to have! Who would want friends like that!

theoriginalmadambee · 01/10/2019 13:01

Guessing OP is out ditching her friends Smile.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 01/10/2019 12:56

Guessing the OP won't be back.....not sure why they would write such an inflammatory post and then disappear.....