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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies #2

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Katie1109 · 25/09/2019 09:44

Hi girls, started new thread because the old one is running out.
Tag anyone I have forgotten:
@Gigi318
@Hewie30
@Raizelrea
@claireb707
@flossy12
@Nicecupofcoco

@Makeafamily19

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Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 19:11

@Hewie30 oh absolutely, and so much pressure from friends and family - whether they mean it or not. But I just always try to remember that I'm on my own path and I want to do things my own way. And it will happen when it happens.
Absolutely, we may look into that. Although I want to buy a fixer upper in the sticks, so I'm not sure if help to buy covers that?

@claireb707 try to stay positive, chick. Don't let that see you next Tuesday make you mad. Not worth it. You've got this, and by the sounds of it, now with the right partner and someone who would make a great father. So you're on track 💫

claireb707 · 07/10/2019 18:39

@Hewie30 I'm in the same boat and I have 10 years on you xxx

Stuck with a child hating ex for 10 years will do that to you...

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 18:03

@Raizelrea Oh hun I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents and your chemical. What a double blow, especially on your birthday too 😔. TTC is such a hard process especially when you have other health issues going on in the family. Please take some time out for you and to focus on yourself. I understand what you mean with not tracking etc, I'm finding its making me a lot calmer this month. Lots of love to you ❤️

@gigi318 Yeah we all most definitely do and like you say it's natural. There's just so many thoughts out there with where you should be and at what age. But I'm determined to remain positive and calm this month and just leave it up to mother nature 🤷. Awh you'll get your house! That's a tough market to get into at the moment. We only managed it with the help to buy scheme otherwise we would have to wait years until we've saved up

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 17:48

@Raizelrea oh babe, I'm sorry to hear that. Your grandparents are in my thoughts, hoping they get better soon! But, as you said, at least you know you can conceive and hopefully you will be extra fertile next month. A relaxed month could be just want you need (in the TTC sense, as I'm sure you'll be a bit all over the shop this month now). Yes, stay with us and just DTD whenever you feel like it, no need to add something else to a busy month.
Do you have any nice plans for this evening to try and take your mind off of everything? X

claireb707 · 07/10/2019 17:42

Oh @Raizelrea that's tough chick 😢 that's been a rough old birthday for you, I'd say I hope it improves for you but it doesn't sound like it will xx

Raizelrea · 07/10/2019 17:32

Thank you for the birthday wishes lovelies, admittedly I've had better birthdays, both me and OH now have grandparents in hospital with not so great prognoses. My bleeding got stronger than regular AF and I'm still nauseous, safe to say it was a chemical. Spent the day at work so managed to pull it together. Onwards and upwards.

Not sure if I'll be doing any FW/ovulation tracking this month as will likely be all over the place with the family members health problems, but I will be around rooting for you girls - don't want to miss those BFPs!

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 16:50

@Hewie30 thanks chick. Just a bit worried (not worried, but conscious) that OH is away til Thursday now and if O happens later than today/tomorrow, will we have it covered? So hard! Will watch out for any EWs just to be sure. Oh chick, don't put so much pressure on yourself. Age is just a number. It's so silly to expect certain things by certain ages - but we all do it. I would like to buy a house, and still no where near, but we will get there. How exciting that it's your birthday this week - that came around quickly. Hope you have nice plans for it!! X

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 16:25

@gigi318 Eeek sounds like you've covered yourself really well hun 🤞🤞, I've got everything crossed for you it sounds positive. Erm... So so but I think it's because I'm turning 31 on Friday. I thought I'd have a child by now or at least be pregnant. I'm trying to remain positive though 😊🤞 xxx

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 16:15

@Hewie30 I am, yes. We DTD last three days and I'm feeling twinges now, so hopefully O is happening right now!! But I also think that I'll be able to just relax this time, as last month showed me that stressing over it and symptom spotting doesn't help in the slightest 🤣🙈 exactly. We've got this. How are you feeling today? Xx

claireb707 · 07/10/2019 15:51

Spotting seems to have stopped again

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 15:41

@gigi318 Like you say we've got this 🤞. We've got eachother through this mad time!

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 15:41

@gigi318 You feeling positive hun? I'm hoping so, I feel in two minds but going to keep as positive as I can 🤞🤞

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 14:13

@Hewie30 @Katie1109 me too girls, I think you're both in a good place right now, we've got this 🤞🏻💫

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 14:12

@myttcjourney oh girl 😞 I hope you can relax soon. Although I think that I was very much like that last month, I think testing every day isn't a good idea. It will drive you crazy. After all, whatever has happened has already happened. It's not easy, chick. But try to throw yourself into something to be able to find a distraction. What will be, will be my love!

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 13:41

@Katie1109 It's definitely easy to be in the mind frame but as negative as I am at the moment you should be positive 🤞. Your doing everything you can to catch this egg and that's all you can do. Your right it will happen when it's meant too but your definatly giving it a good go and a boost 😊. The boobs symptom is a very good one! I've got everything crossed for you!

myttcjourney · 07/10/2019 13:40

Does anyone else feel all consumed with thinking they’re pregnant.
I’ve just ordered 10 FRER so I can manically test every day like a lunatic

Just feel like I will only relax once AF comes

Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 13:32

@Makeafamily19 that's good to know - what's normal for you. Mine was brown spotting 4 days and then AF kicked in. So I've noted that down! That's very true, it is rate, it's just a shame when we're trying to keep the hopes up. Really hope you have a good week though and it's not going to bring you down too much!

claireb707 · 07/10/2019 13:24

Still there but much less than yesterday.

Makeafamily19 · 07/10/2019 13:15

@Gigi318 yes AF is due Saturday and yes the last 3 cycles I have spotted 5 days before. Which seems excessive. It used to only be 3 days before.
Tbh I have read that IB is actually fairly rare and considering this is bang on cue I'm not getting my hopes up. Might do an IC tomorrow just to get it out my system! It just sucks how much waiting there is!

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Katie1109 · 07/10/2019 12:56

@Hewie30 I’m ok hun x I’m neither positive or negative, for now I think what will be will be, but I’m sure it will change as days go by. Sore boobs already which is a bit too early for me, normally they hurt 3-4 days before af, but they started yesterday which is 9 days. I experienced that when I had my mc in August x but I am really trying not to get ahead of myself x

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Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 12:45

@Gigi318 Haha! Sorry! 😂. I just feel dtd when we want won't nessasarily be in the fertile time so we'll stand less chance but we'll see. Yeah I definitely don't want to tell OH, although he went in the draw where they are kept yesterday so he probably saw them. He said he didn't mind me doing them when we spoke before but I do feel as soon as I see them getting darker I'll go into we got to dtd mode so I might not do them this month and see how it goes. Eeeek how exciting!! I've got everything crossed for you that this is it 😁😍. That's good you got cramps definatly feels like it's coming for you! How's your weekend been?

@Katie1109 Eeek the tough tww! Only just over a week to wait now though so your halfway there. How you feeling? Positive? Yeah I felt I needed too looking back I was getting obsessed with dtd to cover ourselves and oh didn't like that it felt like a chore, I feel so much more relaxed this month

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Katie1109 · 07/10/2019 12:36

@Gigi318 yes hun I’m 6/7 DPO. Glad you had a busy weekend DTD. I’m not doing too much symptom spotting yet, but I’m sure it will change around 9DPO.
@Hewie30 hi there! No updates from me, I’m in the middle of my TWW with af due on the 15th x glad you’re having a bit of more relaxed approach now, I think I may do the same next cycle if this one doesn’t work for me x
@Raizelrea happy birthday!! Hope you have a lovely day planned! :) x
@claireb707 how’s your spotting hun? x

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Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 11:39

@pixelflower yayy pleased you are chilled. I am too. Planning to just keep myself as distracted as possible. And chat to you lovely ladies too. Glad we're all taking a relaxed approach and talking about life, rather than just TTC. It really helps 🙌🏻 yes stay strong. Not toooo long to wait!

@Hewie30 stop that skepitcalness now! Positivity all the way baby!!! With the OPKs I say go for it if you feel like it, but obvs don't tell OH and maybe don't use the apps. Just do them for your own peace of mind so you're not worrying if and when it's happening perhaps? How are you feeling in yourself? I think I either am right now, or it's about to. Have some cramping now. So I think it's happening. And last time I think I had twinges 3 days before, so it would be right on queue. Flo says it's tomorrow. We shall see!!

Hewie30 · 07/10/2019 11:34

@gigi318 Thanks Hun I'm hoping it'll work although I'm a bit skeptical about it I now just feel it'll happen when it's supposed too. It does cross my mind on and off but definitely alot less then last month which is good. I'm in two minds to do opks only just to see when I ovulate incase I have a long month again so I don't waste my money on tests thinking I'm late 😂. Eeek how exciting!! Good stuff your dtd alot 😊, you think you've ovulated or close too?

pixelflower · 07/10/2019 11:23

Happy birthday @Raizelrea FlowersCake

This thread is so lovely that I'm feeling quite chilled out this month. I say that now though on CD 20 with 11 days till AF/BFP 😆🙈 Hoping hanging around will help the rollercoaster of symptom spotting/testing early etc.