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A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

356 replies

Chefwifelife · 24/09/2019 14:44

I saw a post like this on a non conception board and thought it was quite funny and cathartic so I thought I’d start one.

I’ve got a whole bag of “up yours” to the trying to conceive process. Who wants one?! I’ll start.

Up yours to 10 months of ttc #2 and everyone telling me it’s quicker the second time around as your body knows what to do.

Up yours to indent lines on one step tests and frer’s

Up yours to people telling me to “relax and it will happen”.

Up yours to the age gap which is quickly getting bigger and bigger between DS1 and potential DC2.

That’s me done.

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Positivity2019 · 24/12/2019 23:37

Absolutely up yours to AF showing up today three days early when I was so sure we had possibly done it this month.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 24/12/2019 08:57

Up yours to AF being a week late.

Up yours to this month marking a year since my BFP and not even a shadow of a line since.

Up yours to trying to negotiate TTC sex around Christmas and staying with my family and DH’s family.

Up yours to me avoiding the message from my cousin because she’s pregnant and I don’t want to talk about it.

Positivity2019 · 23/12/2019 10:51

Not posted in a while but enjoying reading everyone’s messages of up yours. With Christmas on our doorstep I have a massive up yours for being convinced I would have a lovely Christmas pregnancy announcement for family and friends and alas I do not.

Up yours to my best mate with her absolutely gorgeous four month old who keeps telling me to keep a positive mental attitude, that this is the key whenever I try to have a moments moan or weak emotional moment with her. I try to stay positive all the bloody time but you know every failed month takes it’s toll on that.

Happy Holidays everyone, I really hope for some Xmas miracles and 2020 bumps for us all.

MentalHealth101 · 19/12/2019 22:55

Flowers to all you ladies.

I’m not ttc, after multiple miscarriages, 4 years of crying my eyes out, almost broken marriage and mental health deterioration due to making massive career choices to maintain Mhamad precious pregnancy, I managed to conceive my son. The love of my life.

I would like to offer you all hugs and let you know that the one thing I wish I had done more is look after myself better.

For every time I feel so shitty for seeing an add or a friend pregnant and rubbing it in my face, I would put a few quid reflective of my hurt feelings, towards my future dream.

This could either be used to fund things for a baby when it does come, or IVF if it comes to it, or a nice holiday or whatever.. but it would be well deserved to spoil yourself a bit while enduring this emotional labour.

Just a thought if it might help anyone not wear themselves down Like I did and find positives in crap situations

AliSxo · 19/12/2019 22:08

Ovulated today... 1dpo as of tomorrow. Determined to not rest too early this time x anyone else in the same boat? Xx

AliSxo · 19/12/2019 21:31

Up yours to the 4th person to announce their pregnancy..

Wearenotyourkind · 18/12/2019 19:40

Up yours to the 5th person I know announcing their pregnancy today...

Banoffeepie91 · 17/12/2019 22:22

Up yours to being right in the middle of my fertile window but OH is too tired to DTD tonight. I suggested it when we got home from work and he said yes in a bit and then promptly fell asleep on the sofa. I wouldn’t mind as much but then he’s the one that worries and stresses that we haven’t conceived yet! Grrr really annoyed with him this evening.

Morgane777 · 17/12/2019 20:06

Up yours to AF that arrived this morning!! Another big deception!

Up yours to the fears I have because I'm 38 and just began trying for my first baby (TTC since August!) and don't know how many months I will be able to live with this anxiety because I feel the pressure of time!

Up yours to people constantly asking if I'm planning on having a baby soon!

Up yours because my dear boyfriend and I want to get married after I give birth so we have been waiting to choose the date because yes! I want to be able to drink alcohol on my wedding day!

This feels nice! Thanks ladies for this thread!

Needallthesleep · 16/12/2019 20:45

@Chefwifelife your opening post is exactly the way I feel at the moment. I’ve spent the evening crying because I was so convinced I was pregnant, and imagining the Christmas announcement, then came on my period.

AliSxo · 16/12/2019 19:59

Up you're to having to attend a close friends baby shower when I'll be 10dpo and wanting to test that morning but knowing that if it's negative it'll ruin my day.

zoomies1 · 06/12/2019 07:39

@LouH1981 Flowers

LouH1981 · 06/12/2019 06:22

Oh and one more, up yours to the neighbour who when he saw me carrying my 4 year old from the car yelled ‘isn’t it about time you had another?’ while I was still actively bleeding and miscarrying at 11 weeks.
Up yours.

wannabebump · 06/12/2019 06:20

Up yours to clinging on to every last bit of hope every month. (Current CD31, pink when wiped on CD29 & brown Cm since...cd29 was 9dpo). Secretly knowing deep down that AF is a bitch and is playing with me. Praying that it's implantation. Worrying my luteal phase is too short.

Up yours to my best friend who continues to reiterate that I must be doing something wrong or something must be wrong with me as TTC was a one month journey for her. We've been trying since Sept 2018.

Chanel05 · 05/12/2019 18:26

Up yours to a full day of spotting which means cd1 again tomorrow.

Up yours to cycle 16.

Up yours to the fact that I should have had a baby this Christmas.

Up yours to making a wish last Christmas as I put the star on the tree and praying I'd have a baby in a years time.

Up yours to not having that baby, making the same wish again and wondering if I'll be in the same position in a years time.

Up yours to feeling fucking angry that I'm not pregnant.

zoomies1 · 05/12/2019 09:30

Up yours to DH who says 'I have a busy day at work today' when you ask him to photocopy the paperwork needed for the referral when I have had to take two days off during a REALLY busy week for procedures and recovery time. Gah - violence is bad right?!?

AliSxo · 04/12/2019 19:30

Up yours to shadow/indent lines on IC pregnancy sticks and up yours to my period that's just showing up now and also to my boobs that stop being sore at 12dpo which is a sign I'm not pregnant

zoomies1 · 04/12/2019 10:55

Oh - one last one -

Up yours to knowing that my family are gossiping about me behind my back because I'm not pregnant and knowing that I should have had a three and a half month old baby this Christmas.

I know they are gossiping because even my eight year old niece, when we are alone, keeps asking me why I don't have any children and my Sister in Law told me my mum has been talking about it to her.

zoomies1 · 04/12/2019 10:52

Up yours to waiting so long that I don't even bother symptom spotting any more

Up yours to pregnancy announcements including two of my closest friends, one of whom wasn't actively trying, smokes, drinks, doesn't even have anywhere proper to live and was only seeing the guy for four months! (I'm actually very happy for her, just resentful that everything in my life seems to be such hard work even when I'm taking 5 vitamins and drinking raspberry leaf tea etc etc). Also happy for the other friend who has been trying for three years.

Up yours to work colleague who is telling me how she knows 6 people who are pregnant (including my director) and 'is there something in the water?' - well if there is, I'm clearly not drinking enough of it.

Up yours to questionable blood test results that have me on google and upsetting myself because I don't know what they mean but they don't look great

Up yours to having no one to talk to

Up yours to missing important work events because I have to go for fertility procedures

Thanks - needed that!

Dollywilde · 04/12/2019 10:17

Up yours to... going for my flu jab today at work and the nurse asking if there was a chance I was pregnant. Telling her we are TTC and her response 'have you prayed on it'?! Confused

As it is I do go to church and she's only trying to be helpful but I really could have done without that one today (although it has made me laugh so hey ho!)

Up yours to mentioning to a friend when we were talking about podcasts that I was listening to a fertility podcast, and her response being 'is that healthy'? Yes, it's healthy - none of my close friends have children and there's no-one who gets TTC so I need the fertility bloggers who feel like friends to me right now (sad but true). Trust me, none of you want me banging on about cervical mucus and Pre-Seed! I think she thinks that it will magically happen if I don't think about it. I'd love to see her response if I told her that would happen with some of the things she is worried about...

Sorry, up yours to me going slightly off topic on the thread!

Up yours to no CM at 10dpo and being resigned to being 'out' this month. Up yours to the fact I will be away with the above friend when I get my period and I won't be able to shout and cry because she'll take it as a sign I'm getting 'too obsessed' with TTC. Despite the fact that it's been 11 months now.

wannabebump · 03/12/2019 10:11

Up yours to TTC... CD28, 8 dpo after positive OPK on CD20, symptom spotting like a mad woman & craps today so AF is round the corner. Fear of a short leutal phase and being doomed of negative tests forever.

whatsthecraic91 · 03/12/2019 08:18

Up yours to having every pregnancy symptom only for AF to show up 2 days late!

Up yours to it being near Christmas and at the start of this year I thought I’d be pregnant now or even celebrating my babies first Christmas!

Up yours to not getting the only thing I want in life!

Dollywilde · 03/12/2019 08:11

Up your to the TWW. Up yours to this one feeling so much more pressured because we start tests if I get my period this weekend. Up yours to having zilch symptoms.

Up yours to it coming up to Christmas and not being pregnant after a year. Up yours to the fact it’s all I really want now.

Up yours to the fact I am due on Saturday while on a lovely weekend away and will inevitably be awful company to my brilliant friends.

PottersonDayz · 03/12/2019 07:15

Up yours to not knowing if I've not ovulated this cycle or if I've missed it

Up yours to uncertain CM

Up yours to being 40 next year

Up yours to having bought first Christmas clothes in the sale when I was pregnant at the start of the year but having to leave them in the loft

PottersonDayz · 03/12/2019 07:14

Up yours to not knowing if I've not ovulated this cycle or if I've missed it

Up yours to uncertain CM

Up yours to being 40 next year