A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

Thanks OP and everyone.

Up yours to not meeting DP til I was 37 and up yours to TTC for 2nd one at over 40.

Loving this thread!

Up yours to three unexplained miscarriages.

Up yours to the lack of understanding/sympathy over miscarriages, even from close friends and family.

Up yours to people feeling awkward when you talk about miscarriage. It's not a shameful taboo!

Up yours to over a year of secondary infertility.

Up yours to pressure and performance anxiety making TTC so hard and stressful every month.

Up yours to the strain of multiple miscarriages and infertility on my marriage.

Up yours to the steroids, aspirin and Clexane injections I'm having to take every month even though they might not be doing anything.

Up yours to the fact that I don't seem to have ovulated at all this month.

Up yours to the age gap between DC1 and a sibling getting longer and longer every month.

Up yours to being stuck in a miserable job for years because I'm too worried to move and lose my maternity rights/pay.

Up yours to everyone who has such an easy time of getting/staying pregnant.

There! Feel a bit better now.

Up yours to having to pretend you're drinking at a wedding or having to come up with excuses why you're not. Only to be met with excitable coos of friends assuming you're already pregnant...

Up yours to the TWW where you over analyse everything you eat, drink and do even when you're trying desperately not to.

Up yours to uncontrollably bursting into tears because your friends announce their bfps and pretending its because you're excited for them.

Up yours to taking supplements every day for nearly a year just incase you fall pregnant this cycle.

Up yours to both sets of parents not having any grandchildren yet and piling on insane amounts of pressure that we're their only hope.. even if they dont mean to

Up yours to carrying a hairspray lid in my bag so I can piss in it and test on an OPK but I'm effectively just carrying a piss pot everywhere with me.
Up yours to waking up and temping EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Up yours to looking at the tissue for blood every time I go to the toilet.
Up yours to the dreams where I've had a baby and then I wake up and it isn't real.

Chefwifelife

I’m glad my username makes you smile.

Yes yes yes to all of this!!

Up yours to those people at my work who ask me weekly 'are you pregnant yet?'

Up yours to ovulation as i have no idea whats happening with mine this month

Up yours to the lady at work who keeps telling me 'dont have kids' and 'are you sure you want kids'

Up yours to sex feeling more like a chore than being fun at times

Up yours waiting ages to start TTC and then 10 cycles in there's no hint of a BFP

Up yours people who tell me it will happen when we least expect it

Up yours people who moan about pregnancy and babies on social media without realising how ungrateful they sound

Up yours to the friends with kids who say we are lucky to be able to sleep in late and do whatever we like.

Up yours to the continued uncertainty and the constant worry about a potential infertility diagnosis

Yeah the temping is annoying

Up yours people who tell me to relax

Up yours to bleeding straight after a bfp

Up yours who pregnancy brings only joy and happiness when for me nothing is set in stone

Up yours multiple miscarriages

Up yours woman at work who had triplets

Up yours women who get pregnant first try

Up yours women who have accidental pregnancy

Up yours stoopid fertility crap

Up yours to having to piss on a OPK stick in the work toilets

Up yours to getting a BFP and then start bleeding two days later

Up yours to having to remember to take your temp every sodding morning

Up yours do the people who follow "Have you any kids?" with "Don't you want children?" Ok person I just met, let's discuss the breakdown I had when AF showed up yet again.

Up yours to the pregnant lady who repeatedly said she thinks after 35 pregnancy would be too hard, to the 34 year old TTC.

Up yours to the no pressure/relaxed way of trying not counting as trying to the NHS.

*my miscarriage

UP YOURS - THAT ONE FRIEND SPECIAL

*up yours to the one friend who has asked me every time I see her if we are trying (even when we weren’t)
*up yours to the SAME friend who told me ‘at least you know you can get pregnant’ right after her miscarriage
*up yours to the SAME friend who asked me to be guardian for her children if anything were to happen to her because other friends have kids and wouldn’t love them in the same way that little ol’ childless me.
*up yours to the SAME friend who told me I wasn’t getting any younger and would I really want to be an old mum.

• up yours to the SAME friend who after being told I wasn’t going to discuss it with her any further, just plain made up things other people had apparently said so she could shoehorn it into the conversation.

So probably up yours to that one ‘friend’ and not TTC 😂😂😂😂

Ps - not chuffed about the MIL’s neighbour who asked me in a crowded supermarket if there was any babies yet (we see them regularly not sure why she thought I’d had one and kept it secret) and then asked me why I was being so selfish as my MIL was missing out! 🙄🙄🙄

"Up yours to not moving job when it would make sense because you don’t want to lose maternity rights": AMEN!

Up yours to all the people I barely know who asked me if I was pregnant when I was massively bloated after a failed IVF cycle.

Also, up yours to the fertility clinic doctor who told me today that every other woman who had their embryo transfer on the same day as me got pregnant

Up yours to -OPKs this month and AF arriving a week early. And a massive up yours to folk at work who keep wittering on that they think someone is pregnant every time someone says they have news to announce. Also, up yours to people who keep saying that I should just enjoy life at the moment as having a baby changes everything

Can I also add;

• Up yours to the cashier in Asda asking me whether my purchase of pregnancy tests was due to an unwanted surprise in front of many customers ..

• Up yours to the people who say “at least you got pregnant”, after losing my baby boy to T21 after 3 years of trying.

• Up yours to those who tell me “it’s just bad luck”..

• Up yours to the endless blood tests, appointments and lack of answers.

• Up yours to everyone who keeps shoving pics of their newborns in my face.

& finally....

• Up yours to the whole bastard situation.

(I feel a bit lighter now!)

I definitely needed this!!

Up yours to people asking me when I’m giving DD a sibling.

Up yours to this god-awful month when DC2 should have been born but was lost to miscarriage.

Up yours to the smug person I work with who claims that she just wants a healthy baby and then goes on to say she is hoping for a boy as ‘they’re more loving’.

Up yours to the scan pictures I keep seeing on Facebook.

Up yours to all of the positive pregnancy test posts I keep seeing.

Up yours to all the MNers who made me feel pathetic for only being 10 cycles into TTC DC2.

Up yours to this whole fucking year of things not going my way!

Mines I think she's allowed to give an up yours to whoever she wants to. To be fair this is the conception board.

I know this is all in jest but to @ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia I'm one of those people and it can be quite a hard pill to swallow for many.

Up yours to people who got pregnant by accident 😕

thanks op, needed this today. up yours for trying for over 20 months for no 1 and no sniff of a BFP and all tests show nothing wrong. up yours everyone for the head tilts when they ask how long you've been married and how many kids you have. up yours to everyone who fall without even trying.

baby dust to you all x

Thanks OP!

Up yours to everyone telling me ‘Relax, you’re young and have loads of time!’

Up yours to the fact AF is 3 FUCKING WEEKS late and I’m not pregnant.

Up yours to the price of those bastard tests.

Up yours to it all!

Can I just say thank you as well to OP. This is exactly what I needed today and it has properly cheered me up and made me feel less alone.