A whole load of “up yours” to ttc

Up yours to waiting until we can move out of our flat.

Up yours to my spinal problems which mean it's medically unadvisable for us to be TTC in the next 6 months to a year at least until I complete physio.

Up yours to the friend who exclaimed "oh my god l, you're pregnant" when ordering a decaf coffee

Up yours to every fucking relative I saw at the weekend asking coded and not so coded "are you TTC?" questions.

Wanting to TTC but not being able to makes my heart ache.

I love this thread! Definitely made me chuckle which is exactly what I've been needing!

Up yours to waiting for what feels like a lifetime for "the right time" to start TTC, and the journey taking much longer than hoped.

Up yours to our friends who have announced their pregnancy after their first try.
Up yours to the same friend who moans about their precious pregnancy every day and that it "sucks"!
(I'm sure pregnancy is extremely difficult at times, but what I would give anything to be pregnant!)

Up yours to the guilt I'm feeling after my best friend telling me she's 12 weeks pregnant. I love her to bits and I'm very happy for her but it's 2 months since my miscarriage and it's opened up a healing scar, I'm sure I'll get it give her that news one day 🤞🏼

Yes to so many of these!!

Adding "up yours" to people who ask (after admittedly being unaware that we recently lost our 2nd baby) if we think we'd like to have another, as if the thought had never entered our minds before they so helpfully suggested it 🙄

Up yours to 11 months of TTC, to being convinced all the symptoms are there, to getting AF and to the app now saying I ovulated on CD11, not 15 as it originally said. There I said it. Bugger to all of it!

I'm with you @crazychemist...

Up yours to my brain telling me I feel nauseous, and getting hopeful about morning sickness (seriously brain - morning sickness will not start 12 hours after ovulation. Stop teasing me!!)

Up yours to early testing, getting that faint but there positive and then AF showing 2 days later and then repeating this cycle on the next cycle and pissing on £40-50 worth of sticks each month.

Oh, and I forgot:
Up yours to symptom spotting. I hate that I will almost certainly not be able to stop myself POAS tomorrow.

Up yours to the (actually quite nice) lady at work who jokingly asked me if I’d consider a second child. (The assumption being that with a gap more than 3 years we must have only wanted 1 child)

Up yours to not being able to sensibly plan finances because I can’t get out of my head “but what if I’m on maternity leave”

Up yours to my massive commute. (I’ve already complained about not moving jobs because of maternity rights. A 2 hour commute sucks)

I needed to see this and I actually had a good cry. Thanks ladies.
Up yours to BFN!!!
Up yours to the comments “it’ll happen when the time is right”
Hang in there everyone.

• Up yours to the stupid fucking scratch line on the FRER I took this morning right where the line would be, making it impossible so making out the faint line which I think I made up in my head
• Up yours to my friend whose baby shower I went to at the weekend (I really considered not going as I was so down about it as she had conceived ‘by accident’) who didn’t seem fussed about being pregnant and seemed truly ungrateful for all the gorgeous presents she received... mine included
• Up yours to your brain tricking you into thinking you’re pregnant at the end of your TTW, when you are pretty certain you’re not.. and you have pissed of shit loads of sticks and will still continue too...

Today it is...

• Up yours to Facebook showing me adverts for prams and cots every 2 minutes.
• Up yours to my DP, snoring away while I swear I am ovulating. WAKE UP!!!!!

Also, just found out my hairdresser is pregnant. Happy for her but rather selfishly I'm already thinking about months of appointments with my eyes at her bump height, followed by months of shit hair because she's on mat leave. Totally selfish I know, but need a safe place to grumble.

Up yours to the MNers who post really bloody obvious BFPs and ask for people to look at their ‘squinters’.

^this

I have to physically stop myself from writing sarky comments on the obvious gloaty smug BFP posts- to be honest I think they're just fucking stupid that they don't know how to read a pregnancy test instruction

Funniest ones are the digital tests ones and you get some dumb so and so asking if it could be a false positive 🤔

Also up yours to the "am I pregnant" posts - unprotected 🍆 = 🤰 - I'm not bloody psychic - take a damn test!

Up yours to the steroids, various supplements and daily injections I'm having to take, and the multiple OPKs each day...

Meanwhile, up yours to the fact that DH only has one (seemingly straightforward) job to do but often he can't/won't manage it.

Up yours to another month passing me by without even a glimmer of hope for a BFP.

Up yours to the women whose partners are always up for it - I so wish mine was, but after 3 MCs, TTC is not quite the same.

Oh @Chefwifelife I'm so, so sorry. How utterly shit after trying for so long. Hope you are being kind to yourself.

Up yours to not being able to give my DD the sibling she’s asking for.

Up yours to telling myself to focus on everything else this month and not managing it.

Up yours to the MNers who post really bloody obvious BFPs and ask for people to look at their ‘squinters’.

Up yours to staring at tests and willing them to turn positive.

@ChefWifeLife sorry about your MC

Up yours to the DPs who are ttc with you but really don't understand how invested you and your body and psyche are in the process. They just try to lighten the mood by joking about how great it is to be having loads of sex...

Up yours to the eager look of "I'm waiting for news" when you meet up with people you don't see regularly.

Up yours to the feelings of guilt when you get angry/sad/pissed off at other people's announcements.

Up yours to GPS that don't make having a basic knowledge of fertility issues their priority

Up yours to the women who claim they "weren't even trying" but obviously were on the DL.

Up yours to the gut wrenching fear that you'll have to continue to go through heartbreak for who knows how long.

And lastly up yours to the people you trust enough to confide in about losses that can't be brave/bothered enough to talk to you about how you're feeling.

A big fat up yours to "at least you can get pregnant" after a pretty traumatic medically managed missed miscarriage.
Up yours to the apprehension of when to try again because, after two miscarriages, I need to ready myself to potentially cope with another one first.
And a teeny, tiny up yours to BIL & his girlfriend for announcing their pregnancy at the same time as my miscarriage (muddled in with a lot of happiness for them, they didn't know I was miscarrying and they are lovely, but I am jealous, which makes me feel like a terrible person).

Just what I need!

Up yours to feeling stuck in a rut with TTC No 2

Up yours to my husbands performance issues which make me so frustrated yet I know I'm just being selfish

Up yours to having only successfully managed sex once, to completion during the right window in the last 8 months

Up yours to having been off the pill since last November to make sure it was 'well out my system' for TTC after our wedding but now wondering why we waited

Up yours to the horrendous guilt when my DD for the first time ever last week (she's only 2) said "mummy can I have a baby sister" - floored me

Up yours to the constant watching of Emma Willis delivering babies, OBEM repeat episodes and crying watching all the babies

Up yours to feeling like a failure

Just popping in for a quick up yours to the fact that I've just got a positive OPK, a week late, on the one night we're staying at our in-laws and sharing a room with our DC. FACEPALM x infinity.