TTC first baby 1 year + thread 2

@FlapJackered and @PineappleC thanks so much for your support, it really helps! I'm still waiting for a date for the tests on the nhs, going privately it would now be 22 Feb, so that basically means ivf in June at the earliest. I'm really anxious as it's out of my control now, as the clinic won't do the ivf until they have a letter from the consultant confirming the tests are OK, and I've no idea how long that will take. The only good news is that all our blood tests apart from HIV and hepatitis are valid for two years so were not quite back at square 1 with the ivf. She also said they have women with hayfever doing ivf all the time and it's not know to affect the success rates, it will just make you feel doubly crap. I'm regretting not going ahead with the ivf to be honest, I knew whatever I did I would end up regretting it. Sorry for the rant everyone.

@KatBeCool why is adoption impossible apart from a special needs child? I had been hoping adoption might be a possibility if all this fails. I like to have a backup plan!

@ValidUser go figure... Although until I started ttc, my lipids were always perfect. How's your weight loss going?

@KatBeCool when I was 19 and underweight, my LDL cholesterol was through the roof.

At 30 and slightly overweight, all my lipids are perfect.

The human body is weird.

@FlapJackered you might and to give it more than a few days to even think about symptoms 😂

My triglycerides are really high, likely due to TSH. I had it tested again and it's 2.07, so my gp is going to increase my dose again by just a little bit. For some reason my cholesterol is super high. I don't even know why. I'm normal weight, go to the gym, eat more or less healthy. They say taking oestrogen prescription can raise both. It's like a f*ing trap. I don't know what to do. We'd love to adopt, but that is close to impossible unless I want a special needs child. This stupid Clomid better work, I can't be jostling my hormones anymore.

Thanks @FlapJackered and @PineappleC. Technically I can't have more eggs, but I'm hoping the score means they might be more inclined to make themselves available? Either way, it's good to know I'm not running out. It's not a great score for my age, but it's ok.

@Flapjackered yes, totally agree and I've read that too. I wish I could share his positivity. I guess I'm feeling neutral rather than negative - this is our best ever shot so I absolutely see that it could work, I just can't quite make myself believe it's a definite.

And I totally wouldn't worry about no symptoms, it's still really early plus some people never get symptoms. But completely understand the Googling. I think I'm gonna need to take the internet away when I get there 😅

@validuser happy belated birthday! Hope you had a lovely day! That's great that amh went up of its own accord😊. I also didn't realise that could happen!

I just googled 'no symptoms in tww, sign of pregnancy' 🤦🏼‍♀️ someone take my phone away!

Happy belated birthday @ValidUser !! 🎂🎉
A great birthday present to hear your AMH has gone up! I didn't realise that was even possible.

@RosettaR how did it go with the consultant? I think you're right about the money, I think when you compare spending that money on making a family compared to a holiday etc there is no contest.

@starkid that sounds promising with the b12? Hopefully you will get some answers with the blood test.

@KatBeCool that's great you're back on the clomid again. I will keep everything crossed for you! 🤞

@PineappleC I can understand it's hard when your DH is so sure it will work, but maybe he is right and it will work first time? Some people say a really positive attitude can effect outcomes. I am definitely in the prepare for the worst, hope for the best camp though so I totally get your feelings about it!

Off topic, I'm 30 today!

@PineappleC no! I've been taking pre conception vitamins of many brands (whatever was cheapest) and tried a bit of acupuncture and didn't like it, but otherwise it just happened!

Thank you all for your kind words 💕 You guys have been so supportive and really glad i found this group 😊 It is a really testing time. DH and I have talked, and it's all fine, but he still seems to think this IVF is guaranteed - he keeps referring to this baby that we're having in November and the morning sickness that I'm "going to have" in the spring. It's like it's a done deal in his head which I don't really agree with, and so I'm feeling the pressure a bit! Any way, only a week left on the pill and I can then start the next bit 🤞

@FlapJackered that's fantastic! If I got 3 good embryos I'd be over the moon! I've been following the other thread too and sounds like things are going really well for you, I am really keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞

@ValidUser congrats! That must be really good to hear! Have you done anything specific to try and increase it?

@starkid Hope you get some answers! I am taking a high dose Vit B (for a short luteal phase), seems to have helped!

@RosettaR Sorry to hear that. All the waiting is so frustrating! I would probably pay too , as I am eternally impatient, but you're right it seems so unfair that we have to shell out so much for all this stuff, when getting pregnant is "free" and so much easier for most. Hope you get some answers soon

Xx

@FlapJackered three good embryos is fantastic! Fingers crossed.
As for me, I'm trying Clomid again this month. Hopefully it works this time.

@Lina365

@RosettaR that's exactly what money is for! Imagine ten years from now, sitting in a pile of money and nothing achieved. Hopefully you get your answers soon.

@ValidUser congrats on amh!

@Lina365 I'm sorry IUI didn't work for you. What were your DH numbers?

@ValidUser - woopwoop! It's always good for news of things to be improving on this thread :) I need to ask about AMH at my specialist appointment.
Also, pretty sure I have low B12. Going to hopefully have a doc appointment Monday morning then blood test to confirm but I'm showing a lot of the symptoms right now, and due to having large parts of my intestines removed, am susceptible to it... and what are one of the side affects of low B12? Temporary infertility! so fingers crossed will actually be getting somewhere with all this in the next few weeks! Course might not be it, but would make sense...

In good news, my AMH has actually improved in the last year!

@FlapJackered crossing everything for you!

And thank you for your encouragement.

This thread is wonderful!

@FlapJackered thats fantastic, I'm so happy for you! Hopefully the fact that you've got two in the freezer will mean you can relax this week. I'm sure the 31st will come round really quickly.

I think today we probably will end up paying. I'm going back to see the consultant tomorrow to beg and plead over timescales, but today I got told I won't even be allocated an appointment until next week and at that point it's a 6 week wait, so that's really 8 weeks in total. I feel bad spending so much money but then I just think what's money even for? Plenty of people I work with probably spend that much every year to go skiing! I just need to talk my DH round somehow because I don't feel I can do this without his buy in.

@FlapJackered brilliant news!

One top grade embryo transferred and 2 Frosties! 😁 So happy, couldn't have asked for more. I just have to keep my fingers crossed for the next week. Testing is on 31st. 🤞🤞🤞

@Lina365 sorry to hear the IUis didn't work but good to have a plan of action. If it helps I have found the ivf process much easier than I anticipated.
Boxing sounds like a really good idea!

@ValidUser sorry to hear you've had to delay your appointment, I was in a similar position before my appointment but the other way. It is really frustrating but as you say, better to get it right first.

@RosettaR I am sorry you're having a hard time. It is horrible to feel like your taking steps back. Will your DH really not be moved on paying for the private tests? What is the wait if you go with nhs?

@Mrs71 Congratulations! I can't remember if I said that already, but congrast again in case I did! :)

@FlapJackered Great news, hope the transfer goes well!

I've been quiet because I've not had much energy to talk about this. We had 2 IUIs, no BFP, and it's become clear now that my partner's sperm count isn't good enough for us to continue with IUI. We'll be put in the queue for IVF or even ICSI now.

I decided that this experience will make me stronger - there's no other way to deal with this. I also signed up for a boxing course. I couldn't think of a more suitable form of letting off steam!

I have a slightly embarrassing situation. I need to drop my BMI a little bit for IVF (in view of my million and one causes of infertility).

My appointment was this week, but I've delayed it 2-3 weeks as I have a few more kg to go. (Like 3-4.)

Kicking myself! I'm a doctor. I know better. I could have gone along anyway, but I'd feel better doing it properly.

@starkid sorry you're having a rubbish af this month, glad you're looking forward to your fancy opks!

I had a major meltdown today: af started, I found out someone at work Is pregnant, and it turns out the waiting time for my tests is longer than I expected, meaning I have a choice between paying to go privately and have it done sooner, or not having ivf until June which will also be at the height of hay fever season. I would probably pay but my husband is really against because we've already spent so much. Don't know what to do and just feeling so angry with myself that this is where I am.

@FlapJackered - good luck with your 3 embryos, so exciting!!

So I'm on day 7 of my period which sucks. It's easing off a bit now but I never have them this long, was heavy earlier on too :( And been sicky and lightheaded today. So weird and unpleasant!

But I've got a pack of the fancy clearblue advanced ovulation sticks for this next cycle which I'll start using tomorrow, been maybe a year since I had those - what a treat haha

@FlapJackered that sounds like a great number to have made it to day 3 and be looking strong. I have everything crossed that you will get one to transfer and one to freeze!

@KatBeCool sorry af turned up for you. She's done the same for me today. I shouldn't still be disappointed after this many cycles but I am!

@KatBeCool I am sorry af turned up. What are your next steps with it all?
They are just transferring the one, hopefully if they survive. I just read the day 3-5 maturation is the most likely time for failure. (I need to stop googling!) 🤦🏼‍♀️

@PineappleC I'm sorry your DH isn't being more understanding. However, people can process and express things differently. Sometimes I'm very similar to your husband about things like that where you basically force yourself to think positively because being realistic hurts too much. I don't let myself say "well if this fails, or that fails...". And trust me, it's not easy. So your DH is most likely doing the same thing and it absolutely doesn't mean he's not being supportive or not on your side. It's a way to cope and his is that. I recognize I'm doing it, but he might not. Maybe you can talk to him and try to see his side? It'll make things easier for both of you.

@FlapJackered @RosettaR AF is here in full swing. Frustrating. And it again seems lighter, although it just started yesterday so I'm hoping it'll be more normal still.

@FlapJackered Wednesday! It's so exciting! Three is great! How many are they transferring?