Trying to conceive at 39!

Hi everyone. I'm 38 (39 next month) and my DP (40) and I have decided (following a somewhat unexpected and urgent coil removal last month) that we really do want to TTC. I have had 2 previous pregnancies (now 19 and 10 year old boys).

Because of the coil, I have literally no idea about my cycle. So I got some OPKs and started testing yesterday. Apparently today is a high fertility day.

@Maybebaby2 haven't been to the GP yet. This is failed month 5.

AF is playing silly games with me, I'm now cycle day 26, I've not had a cycle longer than 24 days in the lat 4 months. Expected AF yesterday but only had some spotting so was sure AF would arrive today, but nope and the spotting has stopped. I'm booked in for blood test for FSH levels on Thursday, should be day 4 of AF so I'm going to have to cancel and hope they can squeeze me in on Friday or even possibly Saturday. Test has to be done on day 4/5 of AF or in my case as I've only had 4 days max it has to be day 3/4. So frustrating I swear my body is conspiring against me to make things extra difficult!

@Icouldstillbejoseph I get you, luckily I've not told anyone we're ttc yet so not getting all the not very useful comments. I'll blab before long though so I'm sure it all start then. In all fairness your shorter cycle could be stress related, how long have you been ttc now? When you got your FSH results did you say about your mothers history and what did they say?

@Nicsfh80 so would you reccomend the reflexology? I have heard good thigs about it before so think I might give it a go.

@StormBaby really hoping its a sticky one 🤞Let us know if you get the 1st response.

Another bfn this morning. Period was due Sunday and still nothing as of yet.
So frustrated now. I just want af to turn up now so we can get on with the next month of ttc. It’s the not knowing how long it’s going to take for my body to get back to normal after the pill.
With my previous pregnancies I got my bfp’s relatively early, well 11dpo so today being 16dpo I know I’m definitely out.
Just no signs at all of af showing up yet

Super hopeful for you @StormBaby 🤞🏻

Well another super faint line this morning and period 8 days late. I think at this point if I start bleeding its another early miscarriage rather than period. Fingers crossed for a sticky one this time. We've been trying a long time!
Might treat myself to a first response later

@Nicsfh80 I have my first reflexology session next week, is it better to have done any time during your cycle or are there certain days it's best to go?

So I've been away a lot this week and I forgot my thermometer so I'm guessing according to my CM and OPKs that I ovulated yesterday after a positive OPK and watery (not sure if ew) CM on Saturday. 2ww started. Fingers crossed 🤞. I was thinking of buying some baby aspirin in the hope that helps?

@Maybebaby2 sorry this probably isn't your month either

@Icouldstillbejoseph thank you. And don’t worry, I know what you mean, my friends that are turning 35 and moaning about their ages, I’m just like, you’ve no idea, what I’d give to still only be 35 lol.

@Maybebaby2 it’s really reassuring to hear from someone else who left a large age gap and then started ttc again at 37. It’s difficult, I’ll read some stories that will really boost my positivity about ttc in the late 30’s and then I’ll totally ruin it by ready done really depressing stories about all the extra risks and stuff and how much your fertility declines. Ugh!

Really looking forward to this ttc journey with you all! Here’s hoping we all get our bfp’s!!!

@Maybebaby2 - when I'm not ttc my cycle is 28 days, set your watch by it. Now, first the first time in my life, my cycles are shortening and this one was 26 days.

I'm trying to convince myself this isn't portending menopause (my mum was perimenopausal at 40).

If one more person tells me "it'll happen if I relax" or similar well-meaning shit I may explode. I have 2 children already and I didn't need to "relax" then

I'm sat here - mooncup in, eating biscuits and googling fertility acupuncture :/

Mood!

@Whyhaveidonethis hahaa well I guess that does help! 😁

@StormBaby fingers crossed this will be your month 🤞

@Icouldstillbejoseph me too'ish' I started spotting today so AF will definitely arrive tomorrow. What are your cycle lengths?

Hi @Moominmiss I was 37 when I started ttc dd, it took 7 cycles after taking coil out. I had a big age gap 16 years between ds and dd so I was worried I'd left it too long but looking back it wasn't as difficult to get that bfp as I'd thought it would be. Hopefully it'll happen quickly for you once your cycles have evened out from the pill x

@icouldstillbejoseph sorry you are out for this month

@Moominmiss im not the OP but you're certainly welcome, the more the merrier! I feel like 37 seems really young to me now (in terms of conception, not trying to be patronising!)

Hi guys, hope I can join....I’m 37 and ttc my fourth.
I have a 9, 7, and 5 year old with my ex husband.
I’ve been with my current partner for 2 years. He is only 29 and has no children of his own.
We decided we’d like one of our own and so I came off the pill at the end of August.
I usually have 29-30 day cycles and ovulated on cd17, I’m now 15 dpo, so 2 days late now, but I’ve had bfn’s so I’m fairly confident it’s my body and cycles adjusting to being off the pill. I just want and to hurry up so we can start trying again.

I do worry about my age, and I also worry that after 3 previous c sections it could be risky have a fourth, but what will be will be!

Good luck to everyone else trying!!!

@StormBaby sounds like a great sign :)

My delightful AF has arrived 2 days early. Yay.

Thanks ladies! Well I peed on a cheapy this morning and nothing to report really. If I squinted in the light I could see a shadow but I've been here a million times before it feels like. 7 days late today. Had a minute, tiny bit of tinged cm on Friday, thought that was it starting, when I got home from work it had stopped, nothing since, so I'm taking that as a good sign.

As an aside, when pregnant with both my boys it took me ages to get a positive test even well after a missed period.

@StormBaby I'm hopeful for you too. Hugs, fingers crossed this is your month. X

@StormBaby it's ok, you can delegate getting your hopes up to me. I'm hopeful on your behalf

I've honestly had my heart broken every month for 38 months now, I'm so over it. I used to test from 9dpo and also do the opks but I just can't get my hopes up any more. I'm done with it to be honest.

Currently 6 days late. We've had sex this evening and that normally starts me off bleeding if I'm due on, yet still nothing. I will do a cheap test in the morning.

Hahaha @Maybebaby2 we do seem to have a lot of sex!! 😂😂 He is incredibly sexy though 😉

I Kind of wish the holiday was earlier as its the day after AF is due so know I'm going to focus on that instead of the holiday. After so many CPs I just know I shouldn't test though. Plus I've had a CP every other month and had one last month so feel like I'm not going to get a BFP this month.

Wow you have been busy! Got fingers crossed for you for a sticky bean 🤞 Having the holiday to look forward to is a good distraction in the tww. I am terrible for POAS too, it's so hard to resist testing early! Good luck x

Hi @Maybebaby2 according to OPKs I got my peak yesterday so ovulated today probably. Bbt dropped this morning so seems about right.

We dtd Wednesday, Thursday, Friday twice Saturday and twice today so hopefully we've got it covered as I'm not seeing DP for a week. Determined not to test early this month and we go away on 6th October so hoping to test while away, but I'm a POAS addict so we shall see!!