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Increasing your chances of pregnancy at 35+

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 13:20

Is there anyone 35 years old or over trying to conceive their first child? What are some of the thing that you are doing to increase your chances?

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 20:38

@coconuttymummy If it works then it doesn’t matter how cheap they are. I need a device that tells me what’s what. I can’t read strips. I would probably see things that weren’t there – wishful thinking! Haha!

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 20:31

@MissBridgetJones Have you spoken to your doctor who should refer you to a fertility clinic for investigation. Two and half years is a long time and definitely warrants investigation. There could be an underlying issue that could possibly be resolved if discovered. Have you done this already? If not, are you open to it?
I’ve been trying for 5 months so I do understand how you feel. I spoke to my doctor almost immediately as I didn’t want to waste any time. She was very supportive. I hope your doctor would be too.

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MissBridgetJones · 02/09/2019 19:18

@Rainforestandshine

Me, 39 - just had a little cry as period arrived. You think I'd be used to it!

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 02/09/2019 17:58

I'm 36 and was trying to conceive my second naturally but after 5 mc and 2 ectopics I have no tubes left so doing ivf

I really recommend Proceive Max for women (and men) - my egg quality massively improved whilst taking this and also 200mg of coq10

I would book in for a fertility mot with a private clinic if you can afford it and also get DH tested to know what you are working with as if the results come back bad you haven't got a lot of time to wait x

MissBridgetJones · 02/09/2019 17:09

Well nothing's worked yet but I'm on folic acid, metformin (for PCOS) Inositol and co-q 10.

Found pre-seed a bit, well, runny!

Can I have a little moan? Why are period symptoms and early pregnancy symptoms the same! Ffs.

My cycle is 25-28 days. By day 28 (today) I'm climbing the walls.

Been ttc for 2 and half years. Fed up.

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 16:44

@MyFartWillGoOn That’s heartening news. I actually have Pre Seed. Although, I don’t use it as much as I should. I may make more of an effort in future.

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coconuttymummy · 02/09/2019 15:26

@Rainforestandshine I bought a Clear Blue dual hormone digital OPK for this cycle. It was faulty and wouldn't display any readings. I was so frustrated. Had to go back to the cheapie Amazon strips. xxx

MyFartWillGoOn · 02/09/2019 15:25

39 and currently 24 weeks with first.

I had an early MC end last year after TTC for two months. My current pregnancy was month 3 of TTC. I swear preseed was the difference!

I used Ovia app, dtd every other day in fertile window and used preseed every time. Each of the months I got pregnant was when I consciously used it every time-other months I was sporadic

Of course it could have been a million and one things but also mentioned it to a friend who had been ttc for 10 months and she is now 6 weeks pregnant...

Absolute best of luck! 💐

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 15:11

@ coconuttymummy. I don’t think I’m yet in a position to endorse. It was frustrating to get error messages quite often when I inserted the stick in the mornings. However, it supposedly detected my peak days – which were completely different from what Ovia app predicted. Quite naturally if I conceive this month I will be screaming about it.
I bought mine on ebay. It was new but it was about £30 cheaper than the major retailers. But I agree, it is pricey.

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 15:09

@Each2TheirOwn Good attitude as DTD is the only way it’s going to happen. While some supplements are good and are advised, there can be a tendency to go overboard. While I may not do it, I do understand it – the desire to feel that you are giving yourself the best possible chance of success.

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coconuttymummy · 02/09/2019 14:59

@Rainforestandshine I didn't take anything when I conceived my 1st child. I was 19 and so fertile back then that I got pregnant the first month we tried. If only it was still like that! Much easier! haha

I took quite a few of the same things TTC my 2nd. Not the Myo-Inositol or Co-Q10 though - theyre new additions!

Whats the CBFM like? Is it worth the £££? Id love to be able to afford one. x

Each2TheirOwn · 02/09/2019 14:56

I'll be 35 next month and currently TTC #1. I was taking Pregnacare Conception for a while but it gave me wicked heartburn and headaches so I stopped. I don't take/do anything now, just DTD regularly and keep my fingers crossed x

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 14:55

@ Megan2018 Congratulations. Prosecco and gin – never tried them together, but could be persuaded. HaHa!

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 14:52

Haha! Did you take the same things when you conceived your first two children, or are you more conscious about your food and supplement intake now you’re 35+?
How long have you been trying for your third child? This is my fifth cycle. I recently bought the CBFM and I used it for the first time this cycle. It was then that I discovered that I actually ovulated a lot earlier than the app I was using predicted.
Btw, be mindful of the green tea as it contains caffeine – although, as you have a multisource tea it probably doesn’t contain much.

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Megan2018 · 02/09/2019 14:42

I conceived first baby at 40 (DH was 45) and we took nothing and did nothing, all it took was a very boozy Christmas. Not what is recommended but in our case it was gin and prosecco cocktails. We were barely even having sex really! Just managing 2-3 times a month.
I’m not convinced that any of the supplements make much difference. It either works or it doesn’t.
Currently 38+5

coconuttymummy · 02/09/2019 14:33

ooh, and I forgot to add NAC (N-acetyl Cysteine) to my list. xxx

coconuttymummy · 02/09/2019 14:32

It really is quite a list! I'm a bit of a supplement addict I think! It just makes me feel better that im "doing something" to hopefully improve my chances, you know?

Everything I listed is separate - I added extras in because the prenatal vitamin doesn't have a high enough dosage for certain vits/minerals that can boost fertility. xxxx

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Rainforestandshine · 02/09/2019 14:19

Wow, that is an impressive list. I assume that some of them are contained within a single product, or are you taking them individually?
I’m taking Seven Seas Trying for a Baby, which contains Folic Acid, Iron, and Vitamin D, among other things. As a vegetarian, I can’t get my omega oils from fish, so I take the vegan equivalent. I read that it helps with CM.

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coconuttymummy · 02/09/2019 14:07

Im 38 and TTC my 3rd child. My youngest is 8, so its been a while.

I'm taking a ton of supplements, but whether they are doing any good I have no idea! All I can do is hope!

This is what I take:

Ubiquinol form of Co-Q10,
Myo-Inositol,
Maca,
Prenatal Vit,
Zinc,
Vit C,
B-100 Complex,
Magnesium,
Chromium,
Omega 3 Oil,
Evening Primrose Oil from CD1-OPK+,
Raspberry Leaf Tea from CD1-OPK+,
Nettle, Dandelion & Green Tea from OPK+ to CD1.
Grapefruit Juice in fertile window,
Bromelain or Pineapple Core after OPK+ to CD1.

This cycle I also used Vitex, and I drank Red Clover Tea from CD1 to OPK+.

I've decided not to continue the Vitex as it doesn't appear to be helping much and ive read stories where Vitex has messed up people's cycles/ovulation. Lots of success stories too, though, so it's worth considering.

Next cycle I've decided to use Soy Isoflavones from CD3-7, as its supposed to be "nature's Clomid". I'm hoping it will help me to ovulate better. Worth a try.