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High BMI?

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MrsMc2019 · 15/08/2019 23:39

Hi, I hope it's ok to start this thread, but I'm hoping for some positive stories as I'm feeling really pessimistic just now.

I'm 39 with a 40+ BMI and lost my first pregnancy earlier this year (not weight or age related). My GP has advised me everything is fine and just to try and lower my stress levels.

Does anyone else in my shoes (age & weight) have any positive stories that I can try and build my hope back up with?

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Sipperskipper · 17/08/2019 08:21

You look fantastic OP!!!!

Sipperskipper · 17/08/2019 08:21

So sorry for your loss OP.

My BMI is nearly 40 and we have just started TTC for DC 2. DD is 2 and my BMI was 30 when I got pregnant. (Didn’t put on too much weight in pregnancy, but have just had a nice 2 years of coffee and cake!)

My mum keeps warning me about getting pregnant at this size (she is also very overweight) . I’m starting to try and lose some weight, but I’m 34, and don’t want to wait too much longer or have too much of an age gap. With DD I fell pregnant in the first month, but who knows now.

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MrsMc2019 · 17/08/2019 08:15

Thank you @Ivy83, it’s not been an easy time but now I’m so glad I started this thread.

@LazyDogFox swimming is a fantastic exercise, I was doing Aquafit every week until some vandals broke in and smashed the pool viewing glass at my local pool. Don’t let your head go to what other people might think, when I had my loss they commented on how healthy I was and I was shocked and mention my weight and size and they told me not to worry about that. I’ve discovered that being bigger doesn’t necessarily mean you’re unhealthy.

@RedRuby25 I had terrible acid reflux when I was pregnant, I think it added to the horrible morning sickness I had. My midwife at the time said she thought it was due to my IBS but when I had my loss I was told that my body was doing everything it should have done.

I’m struggling with grief just now as I’m so close to what was my due date and I think that’s adding to the stress. I had to come home from work yesterday as I felt suffocated with the grief and I’m worrying about how I’m going to explain that to them - really hope this reiki works as I’m ridiculously stressed just now.

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Redruby25 · 16/08/2019 23:39

Hi, yes, I am 39 now, had my son last year in January, so was 38 then. Always been big, not sure of my exact BMI, but probably not far off from yours. Weight was brought up quite a bit, but I had a healthy pregnancy, and worked throughout, so was busy and active. Only thing I suffered badly with was acid indigestion, and was up for quite a long period of time, in the early hours night after night. I did have a c section, and had to use the blood thinning injections prior to birth and just after, but I think sometimes being bigger and sturdy 🤔🤣 it gets you through it. I had my son at almost 10pm on a Wednesday evening, and was up out of bed the next day. Despite really needing the rest really.

LazyDogFox · 16/08/2019 23:30

I’m not married but can imagine the stress! I’m
Hoping to lose weight while TTC, going to start swimming so hoping that is relaxing and also burns calories.
I feel like if I tell people I’m TTC they’re like “oh... at your size?” So it’s nice to have people to chat to!

Ivy83 · 16/08/2019 15:40

Definitely not alone! Weddings can be a seriously stressful time so do what you can to look after yourself. We are in this together Smile

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MrsMc2019 · 16/08/2019 15:21

Thank you @LazyDogFox @Ivy83 and @sofiathe2nd, I just felt like I was out there on my own. I’m starting reiki on Monday and I’m so hoping it makes the difference, I get married next month so I’m admitting to myself I need a bit of help getting my stress levels down. xx

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sofiathe2nd · 16/08/2019 14:28

Hi,

Wanted to add my positive story. My 1st was conceived when I had a bmi of nearly 40 when I was in my early 30s. We'd not used protection for about 6 months (but also didn't dtd much in that time).

At the time I was super stressed due to wedding planning/illness in the family but for some reason it just happened for us then.. the trigger I needed to manage that stress and take time for myself.

Sending positive vibes your way and please don't lose hope xx

Ivy83 · 16/08/2019 10:05

I’m in a similar situation, 36, high BMI and had an early miscarriage at the end of last year (not age or weight related). Really gave me a boost that you have been advised to lower stress as whilst I am trying to lose weight I don’t feel age wise I can wait another year to ttc. This is our first month ttc since our miscarriage as it has taken this long for me to feel ready.

Good luck and I am going to focus on lowering my stress!

LazyDogFox · 16/08/2019 01:23

May not be helpful at all but I also have a high BMI and TTC. Otherwise my health is fine, I’m also a bit younger at 26. Here for support if you want :)

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