Is it normal for pregnancy announcements to flatten you?

Yes, I've certainly felt like that.

A friend of mine is going through IVF currently. She told one of her best friends about it, and was horrified when this friend then announced her own pregnancy at an event (with lots of other friends there) without warning the IVF friend. Surely you'd send a sensitive head up in advance? The IVF friend told me she had to hide in the toilets as she was in tears.

I've gone through a miscarriage recently after months of trying, and have come off social media because of the announcements. It's heartbreaking when you've been trying for so long. Even when I was lucky enough to be pregnant with my little boy I didn't post an announcement or constant bump photos because I was so aware that people out there are struggling. I guess lots of people live in their own little bubbles - all you can do is remind yourself that it's ok, and the reaction is normal.

Totally understandable. I mute people on Facebook. We hit a new low a few Fridays ago we had 3 pregnancy announcements, all in ridiculous situations e.g. 1 mum a drug user. Yeah lm a bitch but l don’t care!

My best friend told me she was pregnant today and i'm obviously so excited for her but i'm just so jealous it's not me!

Especially when she came off pill same time as me and i've not even had a period since x

Just had my friend announce she is pregnant this morning and it has absolutely knocked me :( haven't cried like that in a long time! Really happy for her but totally threw me!x

I completely get it, even though we didn't try for a while because of circumstances it was still upsetting to hear others announce it when I so desperately wanted it to be me. 🤞🏻 it is your time soon.
Personally I wouldn't unfriendly or unfollow them if they are close friends (guessing they are to tell you in person) but that's up to you with how close you are
💕 you're definitely not the only one and it's hard when you are happy for them but at the same time it's ripping you apart 💕

I used to cry at Facebook pregnancy announcements and when my best friend told me she was pregnant it floored me for days. I'm so so grateful that I got pregnant not long after, I seriously don't know how I would have coped with the friendship if we were still struggling. It's normal and you shouldn't feel guilty. Please talk to your DH about it though. You need support and someone on your side to lean on when you're struggling

Thank you 😊
I'm aware 3 months isn't long and it can take years to conceive your first. I am trying not to obsess over TTC but that's a lot harder than it sounds!
Everything will hopefully work itself out x

@HCaroline not sure if this is helpful but 3 months is a short time in terms of trying. In my NCT group there were 12 babies. All came on the 4th or later months of trying!

We have been TTC #1 since June and had no luck to date..

Since starting TTC we have had 2 friends announce pregnancies, and although I am extremely happy for them, I find myself having to hold back the tears, wishing it was me who was announcing my pregnancy.

I have wanted to start our own family ever since I can remember, and I never knew how hard it would be.

Wishing you all the best of luck with your TTC journeys, hoping that one day soon we will be announcing the pregnancies 🧡

Yep, muted on social media. I had three miscarriages on the bounce but the first one was by far the worst emotionally speaking.

A few months afterwards my DSis announced she was pregnant. It was a complete accident, and she was really upset about it having already had two children and thinking she was done.

Oddly enough, I think for me the fact it was obviously a bit of a struggle for her to deal with made it easier for me (I realise I sound like a prick saying that, but that's how I felt).

Be kind to yourself, OP. You can unfollow people on Facebook without unfriending them, and then you can decide when you see their posts.

Totally understandable don't be hard on yourself

I've never been as upset as I was to hear a friend's pregnancy announcement while TTC. It was weeks after my miscarriage. I was distraught. Really irrationally angry with her for how she announced it too. But yet happy for her at the same time? Talk about a roller coaster of emotions. The stress of it all really plays havoc on your emotions.

I hope you get to make your own announcement soon

Pick up I unfriended them* that should say!

I felt the same. I did the 'mute' on certain friends who would do more than one daily post about their pregnancy and baby once they were here. I didn't want them to pick up I I friended them as it would be awkward like you say. I felt really bad for doing it but it was to save me feeling bitter! I'm glad I'm not alone. On fb and Instagram there is ways you can hide a specific persons posts and things from your feed

Missed out the word ‘months’ there

I’ve been TTC for 13 unbearably long with a MC in 12 months ago. I’ve wanted to kill everyone who seems to have what I don’t, so totally normal I’d say
Doesn’t make it any easier though does it

Recognise this feeling, in Jan my colleague announced hers and then in Feb my SIL announced at a family meal to us (everyone else already knew). We were in month 10 of TTC and I wanted the ground to swallow me up.

We got our BFP in the 11th month

I was floored when my sister told me about her first pregnancy. It was Christmas time and I had not long been diagnosed with a fertility-reducing condition (after years of never falling pregnant ever). It hurt so so much and I've never had to use so much strength to smile and put on a happy front because I didn't want to hurt her or ruin it for her. (I have my miracle baby now, fell pg at 29, it can happen no matter how impossible it seems :) )

Totally normal!! No one knows we are TTC and have experienced a miscarriage along the way, as we wanted to keep our first pregnancy a surprise!
So people aren't tactful when telling us about their pregnancy news - which they shouldn't have to be but still grrr!! X

100% normal. I have hidden many posts from those who have announced, particularly since my mc. I can’t even watch anything (even old videos!) with Stacey Solomon on as she gave birth just after my mc.

1000% me!

My BIL and wife announced they were expecting just after our last unsuccessful cycle last year - I felt like my insides were being ripped out. They're due their baby next month. I avoid talking abut it or anything to do with baby (not necessarily the best coping mechanism mind 🤷‍♀️🙈)

We're currently back on TTC now so fingers crossed we'll be to busy to pay them much thought.

I felt envious today that Joe Wicks, The Body Coach announced they were having another baby 😂

Yes 😞

I spent yesterday at a family kids party where there were loads of kids. I had 15 separate people tell me it’s about time we ‘got on with it’ and news of 2 impending births.

My BBT plummeted this morning after what was looking very promising - it’s not been a good day 😞

You can still be upset and happy for them but it’s super hard some days

I believe you can hide people on Facebook so you don't see their posts but they are still a friend. Maybe look into that as they won't know then

Oh gosh I totally had this. It's really upsetting. I can only imagine what it must be like for those who have been trying for years, or who are unable to have babies.