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Fecking TWW limbo torture

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 10:15

We are currently TTC #3. DC are 7 and 4 going into Juniors and Reception this year. DP has always been on the fence about whether to have anymore until early this year and now he’s as enthusiastic as me that it’s the right thing for us.

Both DC took 12-18 months to conceive and we got our hopes up so many times each time only to feel rubbish when it wasn’t to be. We haven’t been trying half as long this time and yet I’m convinced this month is the month, not for no reason. I had what I think was possibly implantation spotting yesterday evening and I’m crampy but milder than with AF and I feel a bit sick and knackered today.

I know it will take a couple of days for HCG to build up enough for a BFP if this is the case (didn’t stop me POAS this morning and getting a BFN). The sensible part of me is trying to stop myself from getting my hopes up as I know it could just as easily be my body messing with me and the start of AF a few days early but I can’t stop convincing myself I’m pregnant. Arrrrggg

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Crazybunnylady123 · 07/08/2019 14:01

Hey, can I join because I’m driving myself mad.
Tww is almost over and I appear to be spotting today. Ovary pain yesterday on the right side.
Feel like af is on its way and tmi but I’m quite wet down below. What do you reckon? Agh!

AlmostLondoner · 07/08/2019 13:42

Hi girls, I am new here. TTC 1, currently 10dpo.

My symptoms:
Day of ovulation - weird feeling in belly, like emptiness
1dpo - cramps
3dpo - sometimes cramps after bm and boobs sore (never sore so early)
7dpo - brief feeling of warmness in belly, like burning but not painful, BFN
8dpo - BFN
9dpo - boobs even worse, faint line, nausea
10 dpo - boobs still sore, nausea and faint line

Not sure if the photo shows it good, it's a test from Poundland.

Should I hope?

Fecking TWW limbo torture
Fecking TWW limbo torture
Bigfatwiggle · 07/08/2019 13:40

Glad I'm not alone. I've got the muchies which is classic one week before period symptoms for me.....so I don't think I will be this month. I have a gut feeling that me and my bf just won't get pregnant without help and I don't think I could go through ivf.
Someone has brought their baby into the office today and I'm finding it really tough so I've come to the work cafe to eat my feelings. No one at work knows I'm trying and how long it's been going on for. It's crap. The thing that keeps .e going is
How's everyone else today?

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 07/08/2019 12:48

How are you all feeling today? X

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 07/08/2019 10:22

@Bigfatwiggle I can’t eat dairy or too much high sugar stuff but every now and again I accidentally inhale a pizza and/or a massive bag of sweets and regret it almost instantly and yet I never learn. I’m being extra well behaved at the moment though, unless AF arrives then my willpower will collapse 😂

@Alice8688 I’m not calling you delusional it would be calling myself delusional too 😁. I’m exactly the same, I’ve peed on that much money in the last few months only to be gutted and half blind trying to spot a hint of something in different lights.

I can add stabby boobs to the list this morning. I may have caved when that started and tested. Despite the spotting on Monday afternoon which totally disappeared by Tuesday afternoon, feeling sick, crampy, knackered ever since and now having stabby boobs I still got a snow white BFN... FFS.

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Alice8688 · 07/08/2019 08:13

Thank you!
I'm going to do my damndest not to test before next Friday. But I have ic in the house. So you'd all be right calling me delusional 🤣 but I really feel this may be the month. It breaks my heart when af shows and I have to tell dh that it's "not the month"
Hope you're all ok today ladies. 💕 xx

Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 23:44

Also feeling rough this evening. Terrible gas and feeling so sick. Probs self inflicted......I have cut out loads of foods, gluten, dairy, soy etc and tonight devoured a chicken and bacon pasty. Not mynfinest hour Grin

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 22:20

Of course you can @Alice8688 the more the merrier. I don’t think the time to start testing is an exact science anyway. It depends how long after ovulation the egg takes to implant as well as the date you actually ovulate. Some people get faint positives as early as 8 days after ovulation, others don’t get a positive till they’ve missed their period. I reckon just hold off testing till as close to AF being due as you possibly can and make sure you use a high sensitivity test if you cave and test early but don’t count yourself out unless AF shows.

I feel properly rough right now so if I still don’t get a BFP in a couple of days I think I might have some sort of bug 😖

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Alice8688 · 06/08/2019 21:39

Hello!
Can I jump on here please?? I think I ovulated today or yesterday. (Been using opks. Had a positive on CD12 and ov twinges yesterday and today-days 13 and 14)
I had a short cycle last month (24 days. When I'm normally 28-29) and Flo says af due 21st August and Clue says due AF 19h August. I've no idea when to test 🤦🏼‍♀️ either way the tww has begun! And I'm crazy.

Hope you're all ok? Xx

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 19:03

I’m due AF on Saturday I think going off my last few cycles and the Ovia app.

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Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 17:56

When are you both due on?

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 16:42

No we tried for about 18 months with my eldest and just over 12 months with my youngest. My hormones have always given me issues but it was actually worse in my 20s than it is now. I have put a lot of effort into balancing them through diet and stuff though.

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Chops14 · 06/08/2019 16:08

aw! cute!! did you fall easily with your other kids?

I'm on a course tomorrow for a few days with work so that should keep me occupied... work is very quiet as most people are on hols.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 15:39

@chops14 let’s try and stay strong together. I’m still a bit crampy this afternoon and bloaty too. No more signs of spotting so I’m still really hopeful but driving myself nuts. My house is a lot cleaner though from trying to distract myself and me and the kids have done a treasure hunt which was fun 😁

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Chops14 · 06/08/2019 15:00

@secret I have one test left at home, could buy more but they are so expensive!! I will wait until Friday too I think.

I am so bloated at the moment, if this month is a no go I seriously have to go on a diet - right now I can blame it on a non-existent baby! lol

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 13:16

Good plan, and an excellent way of distracting yourself too Grin

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Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 13:13

Af not due till 16th/17th. Gonna try and dtd again tonight in case I have ovulated late.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 13:09

@bigfatwiggle when is AF due? I technically have enough tests now to test every day till Saturday when AF is due for me but I’m determined to hold out till Friday now at least so that I don’t knacker my eyes squinting to try and see a hint of a line that may or may not be faintly there. I stared so hard at the test this morning that I couldn’t see straight for an hour 😖

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Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 12:50

I could still do with losing more but I will continue what I am doing now so hopefully more will come off.
Just desperate to do a test. I don't have any in the house which is probs for the best as it's way too early.
That's a good point about dp....I will try and use that in my argument to convince him to book an appointment. I have said to him if he does have a low sperm count I'm not worried, I'd just like to know one way or another. The not knowing stresses me and I already know my issues will hamper our efforts.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 12:26

@bigfatwiggle congratulations on the weight loss too, that’s a massive achievement Smile

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 12:24

Oh poor guy. I totally see where he’s coming from there but it could be something totally fixable if there is something going on like vitamin or mineral levels or something but you can’t fix it if you don’t know what’s going on. If all is well with his swimmers it will put both your minds at rest and take some of the stress out of it for you x

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Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 12:18

I've had some tests already.....my progesterone levels were raised but gp wanted to repeat these to check as apparently it can spike for loads of reasons. I haven't managed to go back and repeat the test yet as work has beeb manic but I have been being really good health wise. Lost over a stone in weight and have been using Arbonne products which are apparently good for levelling out hormones, they've also massively helped my tummy issues.
Dp has mentioned that he thinks it's him and I think he's scared to go get checked because he will blame himself. We have had ALOT of sex this month so I'm hoping we have caught it but if not I'm going to march him up to the GP Grin

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 12:11

Triplets 😂 I have IBD/IBS too although I think I have that mostly under control at the moment. I have not resisted the urge to test. I was doing so well too. I didn’t even have any in the house and planned to wait till at least Thursday. I caved and put in a same day amazon order when I started spotting yesterday though and tested this morning despite logic telling me that I need to wait at least another couple of days. I’m 32.

@Bigfatwiggle it might just have taken this long due to bad luck with timing from the sounds of it but no harm in getting things checked so you know whether there’s anything else going on.

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Bigfatwiggle · 06/08/2019 11:54

Chops I have been trying for over a year but due to dps job it can be quite tricky to dtd when I am fertile- he works away a lot.
I am going to get dp to see his gp if we don't have any luck this month- he's very reluctant.

Just would love it to happen. It's quite sad how desperate I am. I feel a little bit crazy!

Chops14 · 06/08/2019 11:48

@Secretsquirrelisfedup my cycle is only 25 days so quite short.

It does feel like a never ending wait eh? Have you resisted the urge to test this cycle?

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