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Fecking TWW limbo torture

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 06/08/2019 10:15

We are currently TTC #3. DC are 7 and 4 going into Juniors and Reception this year. DP has always been on the fence about whether to have anymore until early this year and now he’s as enthusiastic as me that it’s the right thing for us.

Both DC took 12-18 months to conceive and we got our hopes up so many times each time only to feel rubbish when it wasn’t to be. We haven’t been trying half as long this time and yet I’m convinced this month is the month, not for no reason. I had what I think was possibly implantation spotting yesterday evening and I’m crampy but milder than with AF and I feel a bit sick and knackered today.

I know it will take a couple of days for HCG to build up enough for a BFP if this is the case (didn’t stop me POAS this morning and getting a BFN). The sensible part of me is trying to stop myself from getting my hopes up as I know it could just as easily be my body messing with me and the start of AF a few days early but I can’t stop convincing myself I’m pregnant. Arrrrggg

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Bigfatwiggle · 13/08/2019 13:35

I feel you.....it's the not knowing.

When I get my af I'm going to order some pressed from Amazon. Think I need to have a very honest convo with dp about how much I want this.

Tested with a clear blue this morning so I'm going to get a frer next. Ovia says I'm due AF on Friday but I think it should be sat so maybe it is still too early to test and get a result.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 13/08/2019 13:25

I’m on CD35 today, no AF, no BFP, sore boobs and loads of either AF or preg symptoms for the last week which is totally unusual for me and I have had regular 30-31 day cycles for about 2 and a bit years since I stopped breastfeeding my youngest. I’m really fed up now, at this point an answer either way would be welcome.

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Crazybunnylady123 · 13/08/2019 11:33

@Bigfatwiggle your not out of the game yet.
Have you tried using pre-seed? It does seem to work for some people. I am getting stressed as well. My cycles are all over the place. But this is my longest ever cycle as well. Im so scared to test and it’s negative and I’m just some crazy person. Just trying to keep calm and busy with my little girl. X

Bigfatwiggle · 13/08/2019 09:48

I did another test this morning and got a BFN. I just know it isn't going to happen, I've literally driven myself mad with the symptoms, can't sleep properly. It's redicculous. I don't think I can do this again next month. It's unbearable. Sorry to sound overly dramatic. Just feels like the story of my life, the good stuff only seems to come with unbearable struggles Sad
I feel like this is the only place I can express it. No one in rl knows or would get it.

littledinosaurs · 13/08/2019 07:05

Now on CD39 and no AF. Longest one I've had has been 41 days. So waiting anxiously until Thursday... and going to try to wait until Saturday before testing. Hate my long irregular cycles so much. Although it looks like the mild cramps I was having were ovulation not AF and we dtd a lot around them so fingers crossed.

How is everyone? @Bigfatwiggle @Crazybunnylady123 those symptoms sound good! Crossing everything for you!

Bigfatwiggle · 12/08/2019 12:01

Fingers crossed for you. They all sound like good signs. I feel like I'm getting angry pmt today Sad

Crazybunnylady123 · 12/08/2019 10:06

I’m scared to @bigfatwiggle my boobs are actually tender today and I’m feeling sick. I can’t believe my symptoms. I don’t believe it took us 6 months only.

Bigfatwiggle · 12/08/2019 09:45

How's everyone today? I'm fed up.of wishing the days away and scared of another BFN.

Bigfatwiggle · 11/08/2019 23:04

Here's hoping they are all good signs. I'm going to try and put off testing till weds.....I should ry wait till Friday.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 11/08/2019 22:13

@bigfatwiggle me too. My boobs are bloody killing me and I’m bloated as hell. I’ve felt sick for the last week and still no BFP or AF.

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Bigfatwiggle · 11/08/2019 17:56

Been really sick again.....if I'm not pregnant this month i'm divorcing my body because it's clearly an absolute prick Grin

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 11/08/2019 14:09

No AF for me either but I caved and tested and got another BFN. God knows what my body is playing at this month. I’m having a glass or two of my wine tonight.

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Bigfatwiggle · 11/08/2019 13:08

@littledinosaurs I guess we really have to spell it out to them. They just don't get it, how it will affect our job prospects, make us like walking whales, undo all.tje hard work of the diet. I could have throttled dp when he said he wouldn't get his sperm checked. If I have to go get checks they are more than likely going to want to check if my remaining tube is blocked.....not a nice procedures but one id be willing to go through and he's moaning about a bit of sperm in a cup!!!!

I spent all of last night throwing up.....totally self inflicted. I have loads of food intolerances and ate things I shouldn't have. Bad bad me! Back on the safe eating plan today.

When is your AF due dino?

littledinosaurs · 11/08/2019 12:26

I had a row with my DH last month and ended up spelling out how much I'd thought about in terms of my career, what would happen to my body, money etc etc etc. Some of it we'd discussed but a lot that was just about me we hadn't and his face after my big rant was priceless. 😂 He still doesn't fully get it all but it definitely clicked a bit for him.

I feel rubbish this weekend tbh. Might join you guys in buying some wine! AF still hasn't come but I know it's going to & I'm starting to worry my cycles are v irregular.

Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 21:49

I think that's men all over, they don't know what to say.
I'm only 31 too......my dp is older. It is frustrating when they come out with stuff that sounds frustrating.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 21:34

My aaarrrg men moment today is “if it doesn’t happen this month babe, maybe it’s your body’s way of telling you you’re too old”. A) wtaf I’m 32. And B) it’s not an exact science he seems to have forgotten how long it took for the first two.

Turns our he didn’t know what to say when I felt crap so he picked something at random and regretted it instantly but bloody hell.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 21:29

Arggg men. Tell him the issue wouldn’t be his fault at all if there was one but not giving you both the opportunity to find out if there is an issue and fix it would be.

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Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 21:16

Yeah.....it's quite a detached process for them.
I suggested to dp that he get his swimmers checked and he got a bit upset and doesn't want to. He's bad enough about going to the Drs at the best of times because he thinks they re going to say there is something seriously wrong with him. He also said he'd feel like it was his fault.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 20:37

Mine doesn’t quite get it either. Probably because they aren’t the ones who have to figure it out then deal with the changes. They do the fun bit then they get told whether they are going to be a dad in 9 months.

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Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 18:53

Thanks Smile

Snuggled on the sofa now dozing off to crap tv. Dp gave me a mega foot rub as I was feeling a bit shit. Gotta get my head together. I feel redicculous! Haven't told dp about the BFN as he told me not to test yet. Don't think he quite gets it.

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 18:40

Oh wow I can’t type @Bigfatwiggle 😳

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 18:35

@Bigfatwiglle you are not pathetic at all. Have a massive hug 🤗.

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Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 18:05

Well I'm absolutely pathetic.....caved in and did a test which was obviously negative. I'm not due on till next fri/sat.
There we go. Either not pg or just not far enough along. Must be stronger. I wish men could go through this instead!

Bigfatwiggle · 10/08/2019 17:20

Oooh wine sounds like good plan. I might follow suit!x

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Secretsquirrelisfedup · 10/08/2019 14:38

I am going to buy myself a bottle of wine in preparation for AF showing up. Hopefully that will trigger Sod’s law and I won’t be able to drink it 😁

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