TTC first baby

@littlelisa34 Thanks hun it's really gutting!! How's the 2ww going? Are you getting any symptoms?
I got some news for you 😊, I got my BFP!

@tryingforbabyone we are on cycle 4 as we started as soon as we got married at the end of June but we had been trying on and off for 2 years but during that time my OH had a accident and also because we got married in France I didn't want try for the 9 months coming up to the wedding which I think now was probably a mistake!!

@tryingforbabyone my cycle had gone from 28 days down to 26 and some months even 23-25! My period was only 2 days so after 1 session of reflexology my cycle was 27 days and my period 3 days. I know not a massive difference but from what the reflexologist and my gynaecologist said every extra day helps!

@Nicsfh80 do you mind me asking how long your AF now? I'm finding mine only last 3/4 days and are only very light. I'm not sure if that's a problem or not? Also what cycle are you on?

Tryingforbabyone my OH has been fine this month, it happened a few times over the last few months but every month is different so I've tried not to worry too much.
Reflexology is brilliant, my cycles were getting shorter each month and my period was only lasting 2 days but after 2 sessions of reflexology my cycle and period are both longer so I'm really pleased. I would definitely recommend it!

@Nicsfh80 thank you for your reply! It's happened the last couple of months which is what has worried me but is your OH okay now? Also how do you find reflexology? It's something I've looked into.

Hi tryingforbabyone this happened to my OH last month and I was really upset and couldn't sleep the whole night thinking what if he is feeling too pressured and is never able to, I worried the whole next day thinking that he was worrying to but that night we tried again and he was fine! I spoke to my reflexologist and she suggested he had reflexology too to relax him and also for me not to make a fuss when it happened so he didn't feel worse about it. Hope this helps to make you feel a bit better!

Has anyone else experienced where their OH is unable to ejaculate? I'm sure it's all psychological and largely to do with the pressure of having been trying for 9 months with no success and that fact he sees me so upset (which I feel dreadful about and really try to hide) but I don't really know where to go from here? What happens if he can't ejaculate? It'd never been a problem before.

@Hewie30 Hi Hun good to hear from you.. really sorry to hear about the cp Hun I know how hard all that is.. I'm good thank you I'm the TWW at the minute so that's dragging like mad but other than that I'm good xx

@littlelisa34 Hey hun, how are you? Sorry I haven't been about. I ended up having another chemical an oh felt pressured so we've just been doing the laid back approch and dtd when we want this month so far to see how that goes.

How are you?

@littlelisa34 yes I agree I'm going to wait a couple more and then go to

@Nicsfh80 yeah makes more sense to have as much info as possible.. I'm giving myself two more cycles then going to see the doctor and try and push forward that way.

It was my reflexologist that said the more info I had the quicker they could give me answers as they will want to know all that so if you don't know then they will have to wait a couple of months to get all the info together. My cycle was down to 23-26 days and my period only lasted 2 days but this month my cycle was up to 27 days and period lasted 3 days, don't know if it's because of reflexology or not but I'm happy. I would definitely advise seeing a specialist as I was really stressed but since I have been I feel like I've passed my worries onto her and she will sort it all out lol!!!

@Nicsfh80 thanks.. I was wondering if you had to have a lot of specific information for when you went for tests etc. X

Hi girls, hope you don't mind me commenting but I have been seeing a reflexologist and a gynaecologist and hadn't realised the importance of the length of your cycle etc. They seem to shorten as you get older so it's important know how long they last, what day you ovulate on and how long your period lasts and to keep a record so you can give all the info if you end up going for treatment. As far as I know they can give you medication to make your cycle last longer. I also have noticed that mine are longer since I've had reflexology so that could help you too.

@tryingforbabyone from what I've sort of gathered on line if my follicular phase is too short then it doesn't give my egg time to mature enough which causes poor implantation.. I'm no expert so I'm not 100% on all the "facts" but it's something I'm definitely going to keep an eye on and mention to the doctor when I have to go.. you've got four more cycles before you hit that year mark yet hun that's still four more chances to get your positive. Your AF changes over the years anyway hun so maybe that's what they would of been like even without the birth control after a few years. Been looking into foods and different things to help implantation so going to give some new things ago next cycle instead of sticking to the same routine. X

@littlelisa34 thanks for your message. I spent the weekend feeling sorry for my self but back in the real world now I think. Oh that's interesting what does that mean? I've been worried because I was in the pill for years and cake off in December. My AF started pretty soon after that and is very regular however since coming off the pill my periods only last about 3 days and are very light which seems strange because it never used to be like that! But then that was years ago before I was on birth control :/ I feel like now its cycle it's not going to happen and there just be something wrong because statistics say like 80% of people conceive in the first year and so I don't have long now!

@tryingforbabyone I don't know why that post didn't go to you first time lol x

I'm sorry to hear that hun.. I know you must be feeling pretty rubbish and I know it's easier said than done but try not let it get to you.. I've decided to give myself the next two cycles and then get myself booked in at the doctors because I've been doing some research and I think my follicular phase is too short and maybe that is contributing to not being able to conceive and the miscarriage.. I hope your okay today and I'm here if you want to chat or just have a moan about anything.. x @tryingforbabyone

@Izzimai20031998 I'm sorry to hear that hun.. I know you must be feeling pretty rubbish and I know it's easier said than done but try not let it get to you.. I've decided to give myself the next two cycles and then get myself booked in at the doctors because I've been doing some research and I think my follicular phase is too short and maybe that is contributing to not being able to conceive and the miscarriage.. I hope your okay today and I'm here if you want to chat or just have a moan about anything.. x

And like clockwork we're in to cycle 9. I just don't know what else I can do. I'm feeling particularly emotional this cycle 😔

@tryingforbabyone yeah I'm glad I seemed to get back on track pretty quickly thought it was going to go on for a while. No they just said that these things happen and you only get tested for reasons or anything else if it's reoccurring miscarriage which I'm hoping and praying I don't get to. Hopefully if your not as focused on it you won't feel so stressed about it so that is always going to be better for you Hun.. I know what you mean about them sorts of programmes I can't watch anything like that anymore but we will get there hun I'm positive 😁xx

@littlelisa34 so glad you got back into your cycle quickly. I'm sure you will get that far again soon! Fingers crossed for you. Must be so heartbreaking for you! Did you find out why? Yes hoping the relaxed approach helps soon! I used to love one born every minute and programmes like that but can bare to watch them now!

@tryingforbabyone glad your doing okay.. hopefully the relaxed approach will work for you this month 😁.. yeah I'm on CD5 today got my AF exactly 28 days after miscarriage so went back to normal pretty quickly compared to some women after miscarriage.. I'm going to test for ovulation but then I'm not testing early again until I'm at least two missed AF that's if I ever get that far again.. x

@littlelisa34 yes I'm okay thank you. Im not checking ovulation this month as just trying to relax a little more but I'm assuming I am now in the rest stages of the tww as AF is due next Sunday 13th but not feeling positive. Have you now had AF and back in the game? How are you feeling?

@Hewie30 how are you getting on?