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The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

986 replies

duchesse · 01/08/2007 08:56

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

OP posts:
santasmissus · 08/12/2007 22:08

had always imagined i would have my babies just a ouple of years apart. i really wanted them to grow up close. i do know that age is only a small part of making them close but..well, you know....

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 22:08

2y2m now. we havent really stopped ttc tbh

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 22:06

what about you?

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 22:03

ikewym

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 22:02

we started trying again as soon as bleeding stopped from mc so this is cycle 13.

never "tried" before just didn't stop it iykwim. was a lot more relaxed before mc now positively desperate, although at moment being desperate is taking too much energy so have chilled a bit.

had mc before dd then dd conceived 9months after that but was still more relaxed then. i think part of it, is that now the children chapter has opened in my life, i don't want it to close again just yet.

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:55

lol. how long have you been ttc for now?

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:52

actually i might have twigged that given a lady on your antenatal ward gave birth 2.8yrs ago. you were probably there having ds

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:46

2.8 too, thats why i asked, wasnt just being nosey- honest"

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:45

how old's your ds?

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:44

not shropshire no! far north!

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:43

that reads badly! sounds like i wouldn't have thought she was fab if she had had more probs. of course that's not true. she never ceases to amaze us but any proud and biased parent would say that

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:38

wow, youre not from shropshire are you?

a woman on my antenal wards dd was born at 29w due to PE 2.8y ago

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:36

29+5
she's fab though and she did really well in nicu/scbu and 2.8 yrs later you'd never know

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:28

oh thats awful, how early was she?

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:18

they are looking into recurrent mc for me too, i've only had two confirmed but had dd v. early as a result of pre-eclampsia and they are looking into a link between the two. they said that if dd hadn't made it due to her being so early they would have tested me for this at the time before second confirmed mc, thank God she did though

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:14

yes have been trying to stay positive, symptom spotting for a laugh etc. etc but how long can you do that for without feeling like crap once in a while?

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:10

yes, we are being referred to Liverpool. they have a fab recurrent mc unit, so fingers crossed

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:09

i know. its just so hard to stay upbeat, thats why i reopened the hut. i couldnt be around people with bfp's iykwim

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:08

wow 7. that must be really tough i read earlier you are being investigated though right?

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:06

my 2 best friends babies are a few weeks and a few days respectively, and although i am genuinely delighted for them, esp. one as she went through i don't know what to get hers, it's really hard to speak to them. i haven't seen them yet as they live in diff parts of the country. i can't tell them how i feel either and normally i would, coz what kind of a bitch would that make me?? actually i think they know but they also know i am over the moon for them.

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:03

pmsl yes ds

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 21:02

lol thats it. im not NOT pleased for them. im just sad for us.

we've lost 7 babies in 2y and my heart is breaking.

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:01

xposted.
am guessing you meqnt ds and not dh

santasmissus · 08/12/2007 21:00

should also say, don't hate yourself. it's really hard hearing about other people, it's not that you're not pleased for them you just wish it was your turn. even if you're not pleased, it's just coz of stuff and not really because of you (that's what i tell myself anyway

merrylissiemas · 08/12/2007 20:59

i know. today we saw a baby in the market and dh kept stroking her face he loves babies so muchand is really sweet with them. he even said, when we were writing his santa letter, that he wanted a baby