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The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

986 replies

duchesse · 01/08/2007 08:56

The new hut. Ta-da!

This one is a snug little basement World War 2 type nightclub, with dim lighting, snug velvet sofas, red walls and certainly no politically correct smoking bans. Occasionally certain selected men may be admitted at our convenience.

Sit down, make yourselves at home, and never, ever apologise for feeling like shit. That's about it.

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santasmissus · 19/12/2007 21:32

i was am in a really good mood, christmas on it's way, all the shopping done, just a few minor things to organise, on work day left, blah, blah, blah...even managed to have coffee with pg friend.... and have just heard about yet another conceivee only three months post mc what a cow i am i am happy for them but....

i'm going to pick myself up, dust myself off and carry on with my good mood, pretend i don't care and continue trying to conceive

ladylush · 19/12/2007 17:28

Thanks becca and wheely. No, not too early to drink. I have put off my no drink in the week rule til after xmas/new year. Doesn't seem to be helping much anyway. This month I got brown bleeding on CD18. Wtf It's still going on 2 days later. No idea what is going on with my deviant body. Pretty sure I didn't ovulate either.

wheelybahhumbug · 19/12/2007 09:21

Oh LL - hard news to take - as its the festive season it can't be too early for a drink can it ?

becaroodolf · 19/12/2007 09:18

Oh dear lady....how hard for you.

Everywhere I look at the moment I see babies...

ladylush · 18/12/2007 22:22

sorry becca Here's a VERY large one A friend announced that she is 6 mths pg on saturday. She doesn't know about my m/c's. She said she was pleased to say how it had been such an easy pregnancy so far. Gulp.

becaroodolf · 18/12/2007 18:08

Dont mind if I do

wheelybahhumbug · 18/12/2007 17:55

I'll 'ave anover... hic hic..

Sorry to hear about your day Bec (and thanks for the sympathy when clearly my day was nothing on yours) - its the pits, it really is. Please have a large drink (or 10).

becaroodolf · 18/12/2007 17:53

Wheely....thats really awful....how very insensitive of her.

Had my scan earlier today, and as expected I have lost my baby. Feel completely bereft...more so than the other times for some reason.

The nurse from the EPU just rang and said my HCG levels are already completely back to normal levels and I only mc on friday so maybe the pregnancy wasnt viable from the start....

Anyway, after this awful, awful day, how about a drink (now that I can!)???????

wheelybahhumbug · 18/12/2007 17:37

Bec- how did the scan go ?

I need to the hut for some self-indulgent winging for a few minutes.

I have a v. good friend who I met as we used ot live opposite each other and have DCs the same sort of age. We see each other a number of times a week and she of all people knows how rubbish I feel about failing to conceive etc. She has just had a second dc although she wasn't sure they wanted another (she did try for a long time for no 1 so even more reason why I'm cross about what she said). Anyway round there playing today and dd has a big melt down about something so I ignored her and it went on and finally she got over it so I gave her a cuddle and thought that was it. Anyway my friend says 'that's why in the end we decided to have another one because we thought 1 just gets too much attention'. WTF. I didn't say anything at the time and have been really busy today but just sat down and thought about it and thought HOW F**KING INSENSITIVE CAN YOU BE. She's often making comments about 'we decided to have more than 1 because this that and the other' and she knows about m/c, how long we've been trying, how we originally wanted a big family etc etc....

AAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

Thank you. Sorry.

ladylush · 17/12/2007 18:23

My dear, in the scheme of things I don't think anyone is scrutinising your grammar. Good thing you have your scan in the morning rather than having it hanging over you the whole day. Just tonight to get through. Wishing away the hours for you. Sonographers - yes their bedside manner leaves a lot to be desired.

becaroodolf · 17/12/2007 17:39

Scan tomorrow at the EPU at 10.20am...my main feelings are "whats the fucking point, theres no baby in there and I dont need some bloody sonographer to tell me that!"

(Not a big fan of sonagraphers - you may have guessed!)

Ate half a box of green and blacks chocolate this afternoon and now feel a bit dodgy - well, dodgier

(Is that even a word????????????)

ronshar · 17/12/2007 09:35

What a load of shite. That is all I can say really. To the whole thing.
I have finished the absinth just off to the shops. Anyone have anything in particular they fancy??

Other than a baby. Cant get one of those in Sainsbury's yet!!!
Bastards

ladylush · 16/12/2007 23:16

at postcode lottery

imdreamingofawhiteKITTYmas · 16/12/2007 23:00

thanks LL I knew you were staying away from the ttc/pregnancy boards but just wanted to send you a wee message so quickly jumped in the hut, nuchal fold don't be daft, I get one sodding scan up here at 12 weeks, am having to pay for a 20 week one (hopefully will need one IYSWIM).

I am scared witless right now I cannot even begin to imagine what women with more than one mc go through, you are all bloody amazing you know that?!!!

ladylush · 16/12/2007 22:57

Hi Sk - so sorry to hear about the bleeding . Got everything crossed for you. It's encouraging that you haven't had any more bleeding since then though Hope you don't think I'm being anti-social by not catching up. It's just a bit difficult going on the ttc/pg boards at the moment. Try your best to take it easy over xmas and new year and hopefully you'll have some great news when you have the nuchal scan I don't think the other hut dwellers will begrudge me sending you some positive vibes (normally against hut rules)in these circumstances xx

imdreamingofawhiteKITTYmas · 16/12/2007 22:44

hey ladylush just saw you were in the hut and popped in with some chocolates, mince pies and some mulled wine for you ladies.

I'm 10+4 weeks now had a bit of bleeding last week, EPAS won't scan me as they have no appointments and it's not urgent apparently so I am in limbo land, no new bleeding since Thursday so I am hoping everything is OK, I almost don't want a scan as I don't want to even start to think if everything isn't ok yet at the same time I refuse to acknowledge I am pregnant if that makes sense. I can't imagine holding a baby at the end of this can't even begin to hope this one is fine, hate it when people talk about the bump and names and things.

Anyway wish I had some words of support and comfort for all you ladies in the hut, take care of yourselves x

ladylush · 16/12/2007 22:38

Yes it will be becca but I find alcohol helps trememdously in these situations. I hope 2008 brings you much better news

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duchesse · 16/12/2007 18:21

Definitely a flagon or a yard or a schooner of whatever you fancy, yes.

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becaroodolf · 16/12/2007 18:19

Thank you.

Going to be a bit of a rubbish xmas this year

ladylush · 16/12/2007 17:14

Hi becca - so sorry about your m/c (and the other 2) I've had 3 too. It's horrible when you know but you have to get it confirmed. The days drag by.

becaroodolf · 16/12/2007 14:17

Lovely.....Is it a large one?????

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duchesse · 16/12/2007 14:13

hello beca- by all means mope- you're in the right place, but the (virtual) drink is mandatory, so have this. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. They stink.

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becaroodolf · 16/12/2007 11:24

sorry, that should have read 3rd....brain turned to mush by two days of crying.

becaroodolf · 16/12/2007 11:23

Hello,

Not sure if I am in the right place....I mc on friday and feel very low. £rd one for me, with a ds in between.

Got a scan on tuesday but its academic.

OK if I mope around here for a bit??

Mich10 · 16/12/2007 11:07

santamissus - If it makes you feel any better my AF is 2 days late after my 2nd M/C and I can't even bring myself to pee on the stick. I'm so scared it will be a BFP and in my heart of hearts I feel if it is I've lost this one already as well. Being crying in the toilets for 2 days, at what point do we think my dh will realise something is amiss?

Just want to crawl under the covers. pull the duvet over my head and stay there.