The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

No it wasn't - no need to apologise. I think you meant scans of live babies that then make it to term/delivery.

'm sorry Ladylush - that was very insenstive of me I'm so sorry.

I saw a scan at 8 weeks when baby was alive but it died just after. Good thing I started bleeding just before my nuchal scan otherwise we'd have gone to the hospital full of excitement.

Sancerre gladly received - will drink it tomorrow though as hungover today Claire - the only criteria for joining this thread is that you must feel like shite. So it seems you qualify Please don't think you are less worthy of the hut than anyone else. Sadness is not objectively measured and no one has a monopoly on it.

oh yeah and I know it is jealousy but I'm not too proud to admit that I'm jealous of every pregnant woman there is, especialy those 24 weeks pregnant right now. And those that have actually got to see scans of their babies whilst still alive. Hey ho.

I feel like a stalker here because I have never posted in here although I read the thread. Part of the reason I come read here is because I feel like I don't belong in the ttc after m/c thread because of the very issue you all mention, its kinda like having your face rubbed in it re so many pregnancies so long after their BFP's, so I stopped reading and posting pretty much.

Yet then again re this thread you have all gone through so much more than me I feel like I can't really contibute anything here, well I can contribute a nice sancerre but that's about it. So sancerre it is for tonight. Several bottles.

Many congrats wheely - enjoy your champagne I am looking forward to some on Christmas Day. I was too sick to wallow today. Self-inflicted post xmas work do hangover. Ironically it was only when I popped the max strength vit c that I puked My body was probably horrifed and yelling "gimme more booze"! How u doing Becca? It's horrible miscarrying so close to xmas isn't it I discovered I had a likely ectopic just after New Year. I remember being really annoyed that I hadn't found out earlier so that I could get hammered on NYE instead of watching everyone else drinking.

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Thank you merrylissiemas.

Am sad to be here, but glad of your company IYSWIM????

Merry Christmas and in the words of Robin the Frog in "Muppet Christmas Carol"...

"God bless us....every one!"

aaaaaaawwwww

Evening fellow wallowers ! Nothing to report here just thought I'd agree re: ttc after m/c thread - it seems a bit mean saying it but there is a pregnancy after m/c thread (not that I would know of course because pregnancy after m/c appears more elusive than me becoming queen at the mo) so whilst it nice to keep up with those who have been on the thread they could just come and pop in and say hello every now and then whilst we get on with our own misery and frustrations. Its a shame because there are some lovely people there but it is just soooo hard..... oh god I'm such a miserable mean person...

Right the sun has been well and truly over the yard arm for hours so must be time for a drink (should be champagne chez wheely as wheely and mr wheely met 10 years ago today....1 2 3 aaaaaahhhhhh)

of course beca. dont think we've met. can i just say that im sorry you have to be here.

You wallow all you like lady....can I join you???

I feel the same ladies - this is the only place I feel free to express myself at the moment. I want to go on the conception board and ask a question but can't do it in case I get a hundred replies saying "ooh I had that and now I'm 8 months pregnant" etc. They are being kind in replying, but I just don't want to hear success stories atm (because it's someone else's success - not mine). I think I am wallowing in self-pity and negativity. It's not like me at all

Thank you Santasmissus. I know we are all in the same boat. I know we are not horrible we are just human.
Lissie you are also only human. Try not to beat yourself up for something which is totally beyond your control. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change your situation. I know that doesnt make it better but try to keep it in the front of your mind.

ikwym. i hate myself for it, buti cant be optimistic

Hello to you Lissie. I have been trying to avoid the thread a bit recently. It does seem to be full of pregnant ladies. I dont mind but I think some of them are a bit insensitive. Some girls are in the middle of MC and the next post is all about how great it is to be pregnant and everything is perfect.
It isnt that I think they shouldnt be there but I think that most of us dont want to know what precise day it is and the exact details of every twinge.
Sorry but I am feeling a little testy at the moment.I think I may be (whispers) jealous. Which is an ugly emotion and I am ashamed of myself.

you're not a horrible person ronshar or if you are i am too. have you read my last few posts on here recently: that is my continual whine aswell, not from the mc thread necessarily just generally. i think it must have been one of the worst things i could have been told (by nearly everybody) "oh you're really fertile after mc; people conceive really quickly after mc." yeah right, where's my baby then??
and no, i don't need a blow by blow account of other people's pregnancies either, like my friend whi was due around the same time as me continually told me how ill she was because she was tired. aren't most people unbearably tired when pg?? at least she was pg and healthy, i've had 2 mc's nearly died when i was pg with dd aaaaaarrrrrgghhhh. actually ronshar, i don't think you're a horrible person to frankly state the fact; i think i might be to let it upset me so much and actually sound quite bitter i'm not as bitter as the typed word makes me sound - honest.

i feel the smae way ronshar. thats why i am back here.

Never too early for wine at christmas!
I am looking forward to going out tonight. I am going to get smashed. DDs will be at my mums. Life is grand.
I am however supposed to be doing the cleaning. But really I cant be arsed. I hate housework.

There are too many pregnant women on the mc thread. I am so happy for them but I am not sure I want a day by day account of their pregnancies.
I know I am a horrible person.

Wheely - v gracious of you I must say. Enjoy your wine - is it too early for one now d'ya
think?

ll/ron - I will tell her if she makes simila comments again. I think she is having a hard time of it with the new baby - has had an infection, being watched for PND and so finding everything a bit much so I think it was 'just' a thoughtless comment and I hope think she'd be mortified if she knew how much it had upset me. I'll tell her next time though.

I too have thrown the non-drinking out of the window over the festive season - hurrah ! I love wine !!

Wheely, your friend was so insensitive I'm astounded at some of the things people say. Are you tempted to say something to her?

I am still feeling a little bit horrible. Although now I have read about all your weeks I am going to give myself a good kick and tell myself to pull together.
I would like to know why people are so bloody stupid.
Wheely I would tell your friend how much she upsets you with her comments. Shit it isnt me is it????
Becaroodolf. It is crap. I am so sorry.
My mc's have taught me a very hard and well needed lesson in life.

Drank bottle of Chablis last night so all is not that bad!