The Hut of Gl/Doom Part V- for the unapologetically despondent

Hello - if we move threads let me know how to follow. Need the hut in times of frustration.

Welcome rmm you are in good company!!

One of my good friends has a 2 month old. Trying to give her support as one of my friends said that she was feeling out of it as it is harder than she thought. I do really care but I just find it really hard to give out sympathy, when she conceived by chance and evrything was so smooth. No-one apart from one or two I've confided in have a clue that it is so hard ttc.

Anyway don't have to tell you guys, am not ttc for the next two cycles as have had injection which you should give three months from. It is strange as I feel so much more in control because I know it is not going to happen this week. But a small part of me really wants to just go with and to hell with the consequences, I won't though.

hi rmm, welcome to the hut.

duchesse, sounds good to me..

did we decide (i went off in a cloud of "we are not ttc"- well that worked!)

Please please please can i join you???
I am fed up of being the oldest member on ttc boards and i feel really horrible when i'm on other boards and someone announces their BFP when all i want to do is wail and scream in frustration!!
i have a beautiful dd and have been trying for dc2 for 12 months now.
I have only just strated doing routine tests and scans and i have bruises on my arms from all the blood tests. I have resorted to wearing long sleeved tops becasue i look like some kind of freaky drug addict! No offense meant!
To make matters worse i have just had a tvscan and my eggs are too small and my lining too thin and my estrogen level too low to conceive and be able to carry a prenancy. In the meantime everyone around is is pregnant without even trying or wanting to be.
So please can i join you so i dont feel like i am the only blippy failure around?
Sobbing loudly

I so know where everyone is coming from at the moment. I have decided to stay up for ages tonight so that i finally actually sleep when i go to bed!! i have spoken to my brother today who had NB in Jan, and all he could talk about was how difficult thinks are and how she isnt sleeping and....blah blah blah. I found it really hard to be sympathetic, god i feel like a horrible cow, but couldnt he have found someone else to have a moan to!! I sooooooooo cant wait for my app re L&D now, think im going to go insane through waiting.

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Let rip in the hut! That's why we love it here!!!

Lissielou know exactly where you are coming from. Try not to beat yourself up though, I think there is a distinct lack of sympathy for those of us ttc. THe only people who are remotely interested or slightly sympathetic are previous ttc mums.

Have some yummy chocolate, wine and try not to let the bastards get you down

I get frustrated after ttc for two years, when friends get upset with ttc two months and say insensitive things like ' yeh I was really worried because after the first month I was really shocked I didn't fall pregnant'. I then have to reply 'oh two months really!!!' Whilst screaming through my teeth 'poor you' eight weeks heh? What a nightmare. Then you had a perfectly healthy PG no mc or problems, must have been a real trial!!

Luckly I am quite good at it now, only the hut really knows our frustration

Hope you feel better soon, take care

I am stroking your hair in a soothing fashion.
All the while I am looking for the horrible ladies who have made you angry. I will find them and give them a really hard time for being stupid.

ahem, if you are easily offended please cover you ears eyes.

fucking wanky shitting bollocks.

i am so fucking sick of people whingeing about it taking 3m ttc.

i am so fucking sick of people moaning about their pg.

i am so fucking sick of "oh shit im pg" threads.

and most of all i am fucking sick of having a crap body that cant even hold on to a 5w foetus. i try to be a good person. i give advice, i try to be sympathetic, i make jokes about my inability to carry a child. why isnt that enough?

and more than all that i am furious with myself for not being able to give up. i have ds, im lucky in that respect. but why isnt that enough?

and breathe

Hello Guys - sorry to see this week has been shitty for everyone.

Just met up with BF who has 5 month ols. We were discussing ttc and she said if she hadn't been able to have them she would have just got on with things and enjoyed relationship. Hearing her say that reminded me how I used to think, but it is so different when you want babies. I explained to her that once you decide you would like that life and also after my mc, it just isn't that easy anymore!!

It is all very well saying that when you took two months to conceive. I think all this ttc has made me so much more sympathetic to other peoples dreams and I definately don't judge as much now. Hopefully I haev been 'deemed' to have learnt my lesson and get a BFP in the next 6 months!!!!

I can't help but think it would do eveyone good to have a while ttc so they could understand this a little more. Do I sound selfish?? May be - but it would stop alot of the unhelpful comments.

Apart from that am still quite positive - thank god for the hut!!!

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great news ronshar.

I am just going to pay a small visit and I am really sorry if I piss you off more.
Had scan yesterday. All ok so far.

Sorry it is a bad time for you all this week. Life is shit sometimes.

Sorry AF got you too Anniemac.

SM - you have every right to be self absorbed at the moment. I totally understand the sibling thing - its heartbreaking. Hope you're feeling a bit better today.

Shreksmissus, know the failure thing big time, sorry about your crap day. My worst moment is when people tell me they are pg, I just walk away now after giving a tight little smile.

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oh shrek. im sorry.