TTC First Baby Thread 21

@Eventrider1 congratulations- lovely news. Hope you feel well and things go really smoothly.

@Larrydavid i totally understand. My DP and I got engaged June last year when I was 35. I wanted to get married a few months later so we could start trying for a baby straight away. In the end we decided to have a larger wedding in May this year and then start. I’ll be 37 in September and it is a bit daunting to think i’m so far over 35. But I absolutely loved my wedding day and being with all our friends and family. I don’t regret it at all. I’m only on cycle 3 now but I kind of think things happen for a reason. You’ve got a lot of time between now and December. Wait and see how you feel then. My guess is you’ll very probably have conceived by then and if not you can have another think about priorities xxx

@Eventrider1
TWO years?! Good grief, I can't wait that long. How frustrating for us all. My fingers are crossed for you too!

@ABR87 I know exactly how you feel. We had been trying for 9 months and my DH was desperate to go to the drs but ours wouldn’t intervene until we had been trying for 2 years. But then again, up until May, my cycles had always been 28 days so I didn’t have any irregularities.
Will keep fingers crossed that it happens for you soon!

@Maisy24 - really sorry to hear about your BFN. I know it’s disheartening but take comfort that your tests were promising. Are you due any more tests soon or will it be a while for another referral?

@Larrydavid - no need to apologise, this is the very comfortable home of freak outs!!
If you want my honest opinion, I’d keep trying throughout all of it. The bridal shop will let you exchange your dress and I think you’d be happier in the long run with netting a BFP rather than worry about time.
That said, lots of ladies do have healthy pregnancies past 35 so whatever you choose, it will happen and you will be fine :)

Thanks @ValidUser and @Maisy24 :)

Maybe I'll make an appointment. It's so hard to feel like something isn't wrong when everyone seems to get pregnant within a month or so of trying - and the NHS website to go and see them if it's been a YEAR (an eternity). These forums help though, thanks!

Guys, having a minor freak out. I'm trying to be chilled about this whole process but am very aware that it can take ages to conceive. I'm 35, I have endometriosis and now with the wedding late next year, we're going to keep trying until december then will have to stop for a few months (I've been told my dress can be adjusted down a couple
of sizes but not up 😱) and now I'm freaking out that if we don't have a baby before the wedding I'm going to be 37 when we start trying again. Which I know isn't a million years old but just feels like everything I read always talks about the 35 year cut off. Bleughhhhh. Anyway, reckon this freak out will pass but when you have specific timelines, everything just feels a bit much.

Sorry for long post! Hope you're all having nice weekends.

Well I've just done a test this morning at 11dpo and BFN  I am really fed up of this every months.

@ABR87 I'm the same as you I came off my pill in July last year and my cycles are different every month, from 28 to day 44 and I've still not come on this month.

It's really stressful, the month I had my tests done at the doctors my cycle was perfect so they said there is nothing wrong with me and to keep trying

Xxx

@ABR87 I'm not NHS, but I am a doctor. I think most would check you out on the weird cycles alone. Worth a try!

Hi all - I have a question. I came off the pill in November as we were TTC. 8 months later and still nothing. However, my cycle has been anything from 38 to 26 days long and doesn't show any signs of evening out. We just have sex as much as we can all through the month between periods (which is a whole other stress issue) & I'm tracking everything on an app so I know we've had sex over my ovulation window each month. My question is - should we see a doctor before the year is up (recommended by the NHS) due to my weird cycle, as something else could be wrong?

@ValidUser - happy anniversary!! What have you got planned? And thank you for the good vibes :) x

@LokiCat - morning in bed are the best! I hope DH has recovered from the sight of the applicator and what followed 😂

Welcome, @raveena1984 - definitely still early days, but we all understand how nerve wracking a time it can be. These ladies are wonderful for support so you’re in the right place.

tq 😄

@raveena1984 welcome! It's such early days. The pressure is awful, though. X

Back on Monday for a scan. Hoping to trigger soon!

Hi Ladies

I have been a silent reader all this while.
I am 35 yr old TTC # 1 cycle 3 on today
got my Aunt Flo today .
I just got married in feb this yr and already annoyed with everyone asking me whether I have conceived yet or not .
Feeling rather down today .
I hope being here can help me make less down .

Raveena

It's our first wedding anniversary today!

@ELW85 sending all the good vibes. X

Morning all! Had a nice lie in and time spent with DH this morning after almost a week!

@FlapJackered sorry to hear the SA results weren't great, but I'm glad you're able to get some answers now. Sounds like you're on the track to help it, now. I hope the consultant has the answers to your questions/a plan at your next appointment!

@Anny27 I'll be keeping everything crossed next weekend for you then!! Yup, I'm on CD6 today, last day of AF yesterday. I thought I saw some EWCM this morning strangely. DTD anyway just in case.
Yes I've got irregular periods, unfortunately. They usually range from 33-37 days, but it was 58 days on the cycle just gone! Are you fairly regular?

@ValidUser that's great news!!

@MIW01 that must be so useful to know when you've ovulated. I don't get any ovulation pain (that I've noticed) so only use OPKs and temping to help predict. GP advised us to DTD every other day as well, but it didn't seem realistic, especially Jen DH's shift patterns at work. We're going to give it a go this cycle though.

So me and DH had a go with PreSeed this morning. When I pulled the applicators out I thought he was going to fall off the bed in horror, because he had no clue what they were for 😂😂 anyway, we went without applicators and it wasn't too messy. Hope they help!

It's such a lovely sunny day here! Hope you all have a brilliant Saturday 😊

Congratulations @Eventrider1 what lovely news! Here’s to a very healthy and happy 9 months ahead!!

Ok thanks @FlapJackered. At least it arrived I suppose! Just got to keep my fingers crossed that it doesn’t take too long for cycles to shorten and become regular 🤞🏻

weirdest symptom spotting yet: my lactose intolerance might have got better??? Had a little bit of cheese with dinner last night & no digestive problems yet! I've heard this can happen in later pregnancy but at 10dpo??

Thanks @ELW85 @MIW01 he has been on coq10 for about 6 months now so hopefully that is helping it, I have switched him to proxeed from wellman conception which is horrendously expensive but meant to have good results. 🤞🏻 Our diet is pretty good, he was drinking a lot though so I am hoping giving up the booze will do the job.

@Macbless he cycles at least 3 times a week. I think unless there is a problem cycling is fine. My brother-in-law cycles every day to work and has never had a problem in that department. If you're having trouble though it might be worth getting a sperm analysis. The consultant wasn't going to retest my DH until he found out he cycled, so obviously there is some evidence there to suggest it isn't good news.

@Sunshine8888 mine were super light after coming off the pill. My GP said it takes some time to build up the lining. Although mine are still light now (2 years later) and I have had scans and my lining and everything looks good so I don't think it's anything to worry about. As long as you soak through at least a couple of tampons each cycle then it's fine. It may take up to 6 months to get back to normal though. It did for me.

@ValidUser - that is brilliant news, my dear!! Do you go back in a few days for another scan then potential trigger shot?
And yeah, definitely don’t piss in the wine 😂
I’m not too bad thanks, trying to stay positive and fighting the urge not to take an HPT every day but I’ll be taking another at some point this weekend and one next week, so just send me some good vibes please 😊

@Maisy24 - you’re welcome! Ubiquinol is the active version for women but hasn’t been as proven to be as effective on eggs as it has on sperm.

@Larrydavid - it was me! Do tell, I love a good wedding dress :)

Thank you, @Imjustme2019 - I really hope your cycle settles soon!

@Eventrider1 so many congratulations 🎉🎊🎈 such a clear line!! Hope the next nine months are smooth for you.

@MrsH497 have fun in Devon! Sounds like a good weekend you have planned!

@ELW85 I think you asked about my wedding dress on the last thread (sorry if it was someone else!) I'm 99% sure I've chosen it - it's a beaut. Need to go back and try it on again I think!

@Sunshine8888 I came off my coil after 15 years and my periods were super light and I was expecting them to go back to being heavy. It might take a bit of time for your body to adjust?

I’m feeling horribly confused. After 45 days of waiting for a period (after 15 years) I was expecting heavy bleeds and awful cramps but on CD2 (which on the pill was the worst day) it’s pretty light and I have zero pain. I mean I’m slightly delighted but also worried as I thought periods off the pill were meant to be so much worse!!

@Maisy24 my cycle is all over the place too this month, temp dropped to a low it's never been and then rocketed the next, my app is also not confirming I've ovulated too. Who'd have thought it would be such a mystery!!!!! Have you done a PG test?

@ELW85 the medication did play a little havoc before, took a couple of months to settle, we're DTD more often than before though so we're improving in one way at least. Glad you're feeling better, keeping everything crossed for you

@FlapJackered how much does your husband cycle? My DH does triathlons and is doing an Ironman next weekend. I don’t want to stop him doing things but equally we definitely want kids. Hmmm... 😣