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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Sperm Meets Egg (hopefully)

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 08/07/2019 16:32

Hi guys,

I’ve done a few threads on here for ttc but this month I am in a new positive state of mind and I am determined to get that BFP!!

I’ve been to the GP today who said my bloods have come back fine for hormones etc and just that I am very low on vit d (which I knew from last check up and have been taking vitamin tabs twice a day) anyway....

She has said there is nothing to suggest any infertility or that I’m not ovulating and that perhaps I am ovulating and not timing it. I was convinced at this appointment I would be prescribed chlomid, but no she said that I just need to come back in 2 months with a new blood test and see from there...

I came away disheartened and a little bit like I’d given up until I thought hold on she said there was no reason to suggest in infertile or have a problem therefore I am fertile and need to work harder! So I got online ordered loads of OPKs, preseed and a basal thermometer.

I also downloaded Sperm Meets Egg and I am determined this month to follow rule by rule. Sorry that was very long! But I am due AF any minute so will be tracking from about day 8 anybody want to do the journey with me??

Again sorry for how long that was!!

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VenusStarr · 19/07/2019 18:22

Yes, just using cheap amazon opks @Skyla01. Darker line today. I think I have a short surge so might need to test a few times over the weekend. I tend to test mid-afternoon and evening. Do you use fmu with CB?

What does agnus cactus do @AllHopeAndNoResults?

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 19/07/2019 18:05

@Skyla01 has your GP said an estimated time frame of when your body regulates after being off the pill? Have you ever been offered Chlomid or anything?

P.s this having a break from Mumsnet conception board isn’t going very well 😂😂

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Skyla01 · 19/07/2019 17:53

@AllHopeAndNoResults anything that gives you shorter and more regular cycles would be really good! I'm only 4 months off the pill so hoping that with time things will become more regular.

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 19/07/2019 14:47

@VenusStarr @Skyla01 so sounds like you guys will be ovulating soon. Start getting those sexy outfits ready ladies!

Have any of you any ideas or doing anything to keep it sexy instead of it feeling like a chore?

I’ve ordered my Agnus Castus so I’ll keep you updated on the progress. This month I went 40 days so it will be interesting to see if it at least cuts my cycle and therefor make me ovulate

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Skyla01 · 19/07/2019 10:52

@AllHopeAndNoResults I'm cycle day 21, but last month I didn't ovulate until day 30 so pretty sure I haven't missed it. Just have to be patient and wait for static smiley! Although I'm also aware the cb tests don't work for everyone. We could all just DTD non stop and not worry about ovulation dates..! Not taking any supplements but drinking lots of water.

@VenusStarr sounds like you aren't far away. Do you use cheapie opk? What time of day do you test?

VenusStarr · 19/07/2019 09:31

Sorry af arrived @AllHopeAndNoResults but a brand new cycle with a plan is good. Fingers crossed 🤞 :)

I'm cd8 today, my opk was so faint yesterday, I suspect Wednesdays was picking up lh from my af. Expecting it to get darker over the weekend. Will be dtd tonight. Had ewcm yesterday and today. My usual ov day is cd12.

@Skyla01 I've not used CB, but good plan to listen to your body. X

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 19/07/2019 09:13

@Skyla01 are you taking anything to help along like EPO or similar? I know there’s loads of natural supplements to help with CM to help little swimmers travel.

What day are you on, is it possible you’ve missed it? Have you used CB every day?

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Skyla01 · 19/07/2019 08:14

I'm still waiting for my flashing smiley to become static. Have this feeling it won't work properly for me... Have had 6 days of flashing. Got ewcm since Wednesday though so in the spirit of the thread going to try and DTD every day until Monday at least!

@tinyole have you started the plan yet?

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 18/07/2019 23:47

@tinyole @Skyla01
Thank you for the lovely support!
I am feeling ok actually and it’s right that at least I know now for sure AF arrived and I can get cracking on SMEP. I’m just going to take the next few days out of continuously googling miracle baby making cures 😂

Ooh @tinyole where is your family from? My DP is from Angola and exactly the same as you with cousins in every corner 😂

34 is still young so don’t be worried! I know you can’t help to worry but women are having children in their 40,S you still have so much time!

Dorset is a lovely place to live but the dynamics are so different but with all the knife crime etc I couldn’t raise my little boy or future children there but it will always be home for me I am a Londoner through and through and that’ll never change.

DP has been checked and he is all good to go on that front. I’m still going to go ahead with preseed and Angus Castus and manages to rebook my pelvic exam for the 1st of next month so not too far behind.

I’m check back in a couple of days and look forward to hearing from you ladies soon. Happy DTD’in!! Xx

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tinyole · 18/07/2019 22:25

@AllHopeAndNoResults
hey lovely. Sorry For the late reply and sorry to hear your news. Keep your head up these times will come but we're here for you. I know there's nothing I can say to make you feel better but don't stop hoping.

Where is you DP/DH from? I'm from a big African family, my mum is one of 8 😂🙈 I have cousins coming out of my ears. One of them just had a beautiful baby boy and he's so gorgeous. How are you finding living in Dorset after being in London?

I don't know if this is a silly question but have you had DH/DP tested?

I don't have any children and this will be our first but I'm getting worried as I'm 34 but I know it's not impossible so holding on to hope.

Anyway look forward to seeing you again on here soon. But breaks are great so get some rest and take your mind of it. Xxx

Skyla01 · 18/07/2019 07:56

@AllHopeAndNoResults sorry about AF!! At least you kinda know where you stand now. You have a right to be down for a few days. Hopefully then you'll be ready to get going with smep! Good luck with your exam too!

Chaosonthehorizon · 18/07/2019 07:47

Opk’s never worked for me as I seem to ovulate right at the end of af (or did anyway). Thinking may just DTD every other day from end of af to say week before af due again? Knackering though!! But only trying for a short while as it is ttc 3

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 18/07/2019 07:44

Morning ladies! So as predicted AF arrived this morning. I’m so angry with my body! She came late this month the least she could do was hold off a few more hours for me to get my exams done, now I’ll have to wait another month. Just feels like it’s all against me and the universe doesn’t want me to conceive 😞

I’m going to take a break from it for a bit. I hope you are all ok and getting cracking!

Speak to you soon x

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 17/07/2019 20:31

I don’t know why my phone corrected to thereabouts 🤔

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 17/07/2019 20:30

@tinyole lovely it sounds like heaven and exactly what you need right now! I have a DS 7 and his grandad is actually in France this weekend. Sounds like you will be having a lovely time.

I know what you mean about OH’s I think we forget they are probably just as hopeful as us and they can’t physically do anything about it either.

We’ve moved away from family actually originally from London and now in Dorset. DPs is from a big African family so thereabouts lots of kids and it’s very family oriented. His niece just had a baby boy and although I’m very close to his family and wished her well I couldn’t help but have a little cry. I think it hurts me more because I’ve had a child already and I can’t seem to get pregnant again!

In the whole time since DS I’ve not used contraception with DP and we’ve never so much as had a hint of pregnancy.

What about you? Do you have many baby babies around you? Do you have children already?

Also, how do you find natural charts? Has it been useful? And does it fit in with what your AVa tells you?

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Skyla01 · 17/07/2019 20:28

@tinyole I came off the pill in March but I've had the opposite to you- long cycles. Feels like I've been off the pill for ages but only on cycle 3! First cycle was 57 days then 44. Hoping the length will keep coming down. I'd rather have short cycles tbh- more chances to conceive!

@VenusStarr think I might try reflexology soon, I've heard good things!

tinyole · 17/07/2019 20:13

Forgot to post my chart with natural cycles!

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tinyole · 17/07/2019 20:12

@AllHopeAndNoResults yes been to Paris a few times have loads of family in France. We're just going to chill out, go to the Louvre and do cultural things and obviously eat a lot of food.

Yeah DH is pretty much the same. Takes his vitamins as instructed and enjoys DTD but he keeps out of the rest. I think he's keeping his emotions to himself though because when i thought i had the BFP he was silent for ages he was really hopeful and both of our hopes were dashed so I won't tell him again till I'm sure.

I've learnt to ignore headaches as a symptom as they come all the time now but everything else is up in the air!

Do you have any family with kids? I'm having a party this weekend and will be surrounded by family/friends with babies and it's going to be hard to not stare longingly at them.

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 17/07/2019 19:33

@tinyole it’s exactly like AF to turn up tomorrow!
I guess if you want to test while in Paris nothing will stop you thinking about it.

It will be interesting to see if you symptom spot whilst being away, as you are distracted with a holiday it might not be so apparent, you should defo make a list this month just so you don’t say next month ‘maybe because I was away I had different symptoms’ does that make sense? Lol

I will let you know how it goes, not sure I’d get any results as of yet.

You haven’t booked anywhere yet? What do you like to do have you been Paris before?

My DP is listening and supporting but there isn’t much else he can do is there really. He gets the fun part of dtd we get all the rest of the hard work! What about your DP/DH?

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 17/07/2019 19:28

@VenusStarr I’ve heard really positive things about reflexology and conception so hopefully it will be a good outcome for you, even if it’s just understanding how to chart effectively. Which app did you use, I find that most are hit and miss but like @tinyole has the Ava watch it seems to be effective.

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tinyole · 17/07/2019 19:20

@AllHopeAndNoResults I think I'll go mad if I don't have a secret stash of tests to take with me so I might as well enjoy it as just take a test when I need to. Gosh I sound like an addict in need of a fix.

Good luck tomorrow let us know how you get on! Would be just like AF to turn up when you don't want it but hoping it turns up the day after 😂

Really excited about the trip thanks! It'll be needed as we'll be getting super busy DTD next week so it will probably be a sex break 🤣🤣. Haven't booked anywhere yet we just have our Eurostar tickets so we're just going to take it easy.

I've seen a few things about clomid too and I've heard it work for loads but I think I definitely need to be careful. I was on a progesterone only pill so I wonder if my body is just less responsive to it.

How is your DP finding the process?

tinyole · 17/07/2019 19:14

@VenusStarr awesome yay for being on the same cycle day! Hopefully we all get great results.

I've been temping for 3 months and only just getting the hang of my chart and starting to understand it. I think Ava is better but means i'll have to learn to understand another chart but ah well all worth it! I can post mine from natural cycles so everyone can compare. Do let me know how you get on with reflexologist!

VenusStarr · 17/07/2019 18:53

I'm not sure I really did get to grips with it @AllHopeAndNoResults but my cycle is fairly regular so it helped to get a rough idea of when I ovulate. As my cycles are short I was worried that my luteal phase was too short but it's 12 days (and turns out the app I was using was giving me the wrong fertile week!) so glad I did it. Both months were different though, one had a definite jump but the other was a slow rise, so had to wirk backwards to see the actual ovulation day.

Yes I'll share my chart and I'll let you know what the reflexologist's interpretation / views are. I'm quite interested to see if she picks up on anything. I'm not seeing her til after my ovulation though but will still be good, am looking forward to it. Having a 90 minute consultation plus an hour session after

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AllHopeAndNoResults · 17/07/2019 18:40

@VenusStarr it’s very difficult isn’t it? How long did it take you to get to grips with your own temp? I’m not sure what’s supposed to be elevated or not 🤔

I agree we are really going for it and I think there will be at least one BFB this time next month. Hopefully for us all though. Keep us updated and perhaps we could share charts and tips. 😁

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VenusStarr · 17/07/2019 18:34

I did track my temperature last year for a couple of months @AllHopeAndNoResults, I found it really stressful! But I think having someone else look at it will help. I drove myself mad comparing to charts online, looking for clues etc.

Feel like we're throwing everything at this cycle 🤞

How's things with you?