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Waiting 2 months TTC and struggling !

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MrsMeow2019 · 23/06/2019 10:41

Dear All,

This is my first post, been thinking about TTC since January. DH and I agreed to start in August but as it turns out we have a family weeding next year and if we were lucky in August I’d be far too prego to go ans wouldn’t want to miss said wedding. Sorry for the waffle anyway this means waiting till September ... which is only 2 months ago but feels like forever.

I’ve got lots of social events to keen me busy, could do with losing half a stone, have started folic acid/ vit D and am due my smear test the first week of September. So really the waits makes sense.

But I’m almost 34 and getting increasingly worried about possible problems and how long it will take. Aside from the fact that I feel super broody and just want to try yesterday 😆.

Any other crazy ladies out there to join the wait ?

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MrsMeow2019 · 24/06/2019 17:52

@AndddddHerewegoagain you sound so healthy! How do you manage to keep routine with the lunches? I always do ours and it's a rush in the morning usually sandwich and a bag of crisps . I need to start a healthier approach to life !

Are you ladies getting the DHs on vitamins as well? I've bought some for mine but am sure he'll forget to take them.

My madness extends to a box of pregnancy tests and OPKs all ready and waiting under the bed lol

How old is your little one @AndddddHerewegoagain ?

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MrsMeow2019 · 24/06/2019 17:50

@noodlesoup99 I started folic acid a month ago but missed the last week as have been away on honeymoon - drinking to much wine and eating too much ! I've started a vitamin D supplement as well, it helps make me feel like I'm working towards TTc lol!

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 24/06/2019 14:49

I don't drink much anyway as i have low alcohol tolerance and a high maintenance toddler Grin

I eat pretty healthily as we take it in turns to make lunch in the work kitchen . Vegetable omelette today. Also can't eat gluten and hate how sweet all gluten free stuff is.

Just realised what a boring person I am 😂

noodlesoup99 · 24/06/2019 14:37

When did you start your folic acid?
@AndddddHerewegoagain have you started taking it too?
I've been taking it for about 2 months now and I know this probably sounds daft but, I feel really nice taking it thinking that it will be doing me good for when we conceive.

And in terms of weight loss in preparation too - I've been trying to make a conscious effort to not snack and see if I can get a few lbs off in the next month!
Have you both been trying to eat better? Less boozing?

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MrsMeow2019 · 24/06/2019 14:28

@noodlesoup99 I use Clue as well, find it quite good, it's simple without too many added extras that you don't need. I have no plans to do temping but might give OPKs a go in September, pointless atm while on the pill but seem a good idea otherwise.

@AndddddHerewegoagain definitely a good plan. I've worked out all our finances depending on when /if we get a BFP and slightly wish I was a bloke so didn't have these worries lol. Wish I had a job with 12 months full pay ! My sick pay is better than maternity pay :(

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 24/06/2019 14:25

No they can't withold bonuses or pay rises but the bonus isn't written into any contracts or performance related ive just been given it each year i work for them and it seems silly to miss out for the sake of 2 months!

This will be our second.

noodlesoup99 · 24/06/2019 14:19

@MrsMeow2019 I'm 100% with you on trying to hide the madness! I swear they'd have us sectioned if they could hear some of the thoughts we have about it all.
What app do you use to track? I've used Clue for about 4 years and always found it to be ok.
I've read on here about people using other ones which all seem very good, but I suppose I don't want to go too mad or change anything whilst we're only into the beginning of trying.
We'll be on holiday when I'm due to ovulate in August, so I'm really hoping I'll just be totally chilled out and relaxed...yeah right! haha

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MrsMeow2019 · 24/06/2019 13:54

Thanks for your replies ! Lovely to have some people to chat to and hide my madness from DH lol! Although he does now know more about my cycles than he needed to !

Andherewegoagain - good point on the end of year bonus. I don't think that employers are allowed to withold a bonus because of pregnancy or mat leave, you're still entitled to pay rises / bonus as you would expect. It's nice to have someone else starting in September :-). It will be our first. I'm still on my mini pill, not sure when to stop it really but it shouldn't inhibit ovulation really so thinking should be fine.

Noodlesoup- eeep August will be here before you know it! And having your Coil removed is a massive step. Hope you get your BFP soon!

I've been cycle tracking since Jan ans my cycles have been quite short 24-27 days. I'm excited and anxious about starting ! Feel like September is forever away!! AF will be due about 9th September .... not that I've planned it or put it in my diary lol!

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noodlesoup99 · 24/06/2019 13:00

Hi ladies!
This is my first time posting here, but I've been reading the board for ages.
I'd love to jump on this thread and have some virtual friends to chat with during this time.

I'm almost 31 and will be TTC number 1!
Have NEVER tried to get pregnant before and have always been very militant with contraception...on the pill from age 16-27 and then got a copper coil almost 4 years ago, and (apart from the first 6 months) it's been a dream for me.
I have a 28 day cycle and ovulate on day 16/17.
(I bought some OPK's from the internet a couple of months ago to see if I could pin point it, and the past few months have been getting positive tests on day 16. Hurray!)
I've started taking folic acid, I eat well and I'm a regular in the gym, although I do like a few glasses of wine so could do with losing 5lbs Blush

Currently waiting on DP's divorce to be finalised (that's ANOTHER STORY Hmm ) but it should be all done and dusted by late August.
For obvious reasons we have held off trying until the divorce comes through, but now the end is in sight, I have my appointment booked for my coil removed on 16th July.
DP has children from his first marriage and I'm already stressing about conceiving and us not being able to have our own...

I work out that I will be due to ovulate about 3 days after the coil comes out, so technically I could conceive in July, although we have a wedding at the back end, so I'm not putting too much pressure on myself to be having loads of sex as soon as it's out.

Wow - I've really gone on, sorry! Grin
Anyway - August's cycle is when we're planning on properly trying, and the wait is KILLING me!
It's all I can think about and everyone I know is announcing pregnancy's. EEK!
Can't wait for it to be our turn.

AndddddHerewegoagain · 24/06/2019 11:06

Yes im also waiting for September so i don't miss out on my end of (financial) year bonus Blush

Came off my pill last week to give my body time to get back into rhythm. All I've had so far is loads of spots 🙄

Is this your first or second?

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