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Waiting 2 months TTC and struggling !

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MrsMeow2019 · 23/06/2019 10:41

Dear All,

This is my first post, been thinking about TTC since January. DH and I agreed to start in August but as it turns out we have a family weeding next year and if we were lucky in August I’d be far too prego to go ans wouldn’t want to miss said wedding. Sorry for the waffle anyway this means waiting till September ... which is only 2 months ago but feels like forever.

I’ve got lots of social events to keen me busy, could do with losing half a stone, have started folic acid/ vit D and am due my smear test the first week of September. So really the waits makes sense.

But I’m almost 34 and getting increasingly worried about possible problems and how long it will take. Aside from the fact that I feel super broody and just want to try yesterday 😆.

Any other crazy ladies out there to join the wait ?

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MrsMeow2019 · 30/07/2019 21:33

@noodlesoup99 how is your first month of TTC going?

@CouscousEvaporator and @AndddddHerewegoagain how are you ladies holding up?

We've been away for a long weekend, returned to work today Sad. It's getting harder to not think about TTC isn't it! My colleague at work is about to go on Mat leave and another is in labour as I'm typing !

Counting down the weeks to TTC!

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MrsMeow2019 · 25/07/2019 12:16

@CouscousEvaporator

I had similar thoughts on the Ava, you're right they seem to have high resale value. And I'm not sure it'll give me more information I'm just not keen on the idea of temping ans you're right gathering all the info is really interesting.

I'm still on my POP so haven't been using OPKs as a bit pointless but only 2 weeks of them left !

I'm so tempted to ignore the wedding ! But I would actually be due he week of the wedding if got a BFP this month :/, and I can't really afford more than 7-8 months off work which we put me at returning at Xmas...

Do you think you'll try this month CousCous?

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CouscousEvaporator · 25/07/2019 10:39

I don't want to be sensible at all at the moment haha.

Personally, I wouldn't try Ava until I had been ttc for a while, as it's so expensive. I've used OPKs so far which are showing a regular pattern, and I always have temping to try...

However, I think you can get discount codes for them and also they have quite a high resale value, it will take a lot of stress out of tracking so if maybe you don't want to think about it all too much then it might be a good option!

Basically my plan has been to know roughly when I ovulate. Once we start TTC I will stop all the tracking and just go with the flow, but my app will have the correct data in to make good enough guesses as to fertile weeks, and I have an idea of ovulation symptoms. I've been way to organised I think haha (I also work in gynae and find this stuff fascinating)

Are you tempted to just forget the wedding that's making you delay? I am!! I mean it wont make any difference in 2 years time will it...!

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MrsMeow2019 · 24/07/2019 22:18

@CouscousEvaporator The weather is fab isn't it ! That's lovely that you feel so ready :-), I can't wait either and ovulate at the weekend (I think / hope!) but still need to wait another month or two really.

Why are we all so sensible?

Has anyone seen the Ava bracelet for fertility tracking ? I am thinking of getting one but it's a lot of money and not sure how helpful would be ...

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CouscousEvaporator · 24/07/2019 21:09

@AndddddHerewegoagain what a good week to pick a holiday! Hope you're having a good time in the heat!!

@noodlesoup99 this is exciting! Fingers crossed for you :)

I am loving the weather at the moment, we've been out and about just loving life and its made me realise I am ready for a family and I am very excited :D I am due to ovulate tomorrow or the next day and it will be hard to be disciplined!
Up until this point I have been mostly scared about it all. haha

Hope everyone is having a lovely week? xx

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MrsMeow2019 · 16/07/2019 22:49

@andddddHerewegoagain Sounds like a lovely weekend aside from the packing! Have a lovely holiday :D, Love a good UK holiday, we go to Wales a fair bit, I love not having the stress of the airport and being able to go to Tesco (god I sound SO old!)

My next week off isn't until October it's making me very sad however managed to swing a long weekend at the end of the month thankfully!

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 16/07/2019 22:25

Standard Saturday here. Rugby tots then family bbq. Sunday i have to work then maniacally pack for our holiday as we leave Monday morning . Staying in the UK

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MrsMeow2019 · 16/07/2019 21:28

@noodlesoup99 That's so exciting! Will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you this month!

@AndddddHerewegoagain oooo I'm a week behind you then ! I know the feeling, I'm so tempted to just see what happens this month, but if we did get a BFP I wouldn't be able to drink and I have a couple of events which would massively raise suspicion along with it making me due the week of my sisters wedding! Sometimes wish I was not so practical lol .

The weather is good here too but the aircon in my office is a nightmare so I've been sweating it out all day. My DH is away this weekend on a lads drinking weekend, I might treat myself to a day in town baby equipment window shopping hehe.

What are you ladies plans for the week? hope you're all enjoying the pre-baby and pre-number 2 baby time!

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 16/07/2019 21:01

Ive just come off Af so being really careful to not get carried away Grin

with a toddler thats easier than it sounds. 😂

noodlesoup99 · 16/07/2019 20:46

Hi @MrsMeow2019 and everyone else too Smile
Hope you've all had a lovely day. It's been nice and warm here today so that's had me in a good mood.
I'm 2 days away from ovulating (I think) so have been very preoccupied with thoughts of conceiving eeek!
We DTD Sunday, this morning, and I think I'll try make sure we do it tomorrow, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. (Or at least Thursday and Friday)
God it's exhausting just thinking about it...!

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MrsMeow2019 · 16/07/2019 20:31

Happy Tuesday Everyone,

I hope you're all having a good week! Waiting for AF here last cycle before the start of TTc! It's going to be a long month!

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MrsMeow2019 · 13/07/2019 18:11

@AndddddHerewegoagain Winkexcellent plan! I was looking at the egg meets sperm plan which is basically that !

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 13/07/2019 17:02

@MrsMeow2019 just bonk every other day. That's what i did and was pregnant 5 weeks later Grin

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MrsMeow2019 · 13/07/2019 16:50

@AndddddHerewegoagain Emergency services day sounds amazing! Hope you all have fun!

Thanks for the link, I've got the Clue App and have been using the Mother & Baby predictor but they all give slightly different dates for ovulation :/ so annoying. Might have to consider OPKs ...

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 12/07/2019 22:38

Hi ladies. Hope you all have a relaxing weekend- i discovered this website today which i found really helpful. Hopefully you guys do as well.

www.nhsdirect.wales.nhs.uk/livewell/pregnancy/OvulationCalculator/

My weekend is going to consist of a bunch of 2 year olds going nuts at rugby Saturday and then Sunday we are going to an emergency service day (police, fire engines and ambulances + steam trains) at Buckinghamshire railway Sunday. Its going to BLOW. HIS. MIND (Hopefully!)

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 23:05

@AndddddHerewegoagain sorry I did see the flat comment before and must have forgotten hehe. We can all do some reusable nappy research :)

Hope you're all having a good weekend , happy almost Friday! What are you all doing to keep distracted from TTC? My DH is away this weekend so I'm off to see some friends and maybe treat myself
To a bit of shopping ... avoiding the baby aisles lol

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 11/07/2019 21:51

I haven't used reusables..i would next time but couldn't face it in a flat with no garden Grin

My friend came back high risk at 0.01% !!!!

Another test worth looking at is strep B. That's not offered on the nhs and really should be!

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 21:38

@AndddddHerewegoagain did u find the reusable nappies easy to use ? How many would you say you'd need to buy?

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 21:38

@AndddddHerewegoagain yes the normal NHS Downs screen is a combination of bloods and the 12 week scan results. It it's high risk you get offered an amniocentesis where they put a needle into the womb and take a sample of cells to confirm.

The Harmony means you can avoid the amnio and the risk of miscarriage that that brings.

There's so many threads on mumsnet about harmony, I may have read them all haha

I'm sure I have just over thought it all though and become obsessed with advancing age lol!

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AndddddHerewegoagain · 11/07/2019 21:04

Yeah they're pretty pricey to start off but obviously save money over time. Also i feel slightly sick every time i throw a bag of full nappies out at the environmental impact Blush

Ive never heard of the harmony test. They do a downs syndrome test- blood test i think. If it comes back high risk you get lots of support and extra tests.

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 20:04

@AndddddHerewegoagain councils I mean lol

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 20:04

@AndddddHerewegoagain I do like the idea of the reusables, they're pretty pricey though!!! I've a few friends who use them at home and disposables when out and about , will look into the charities suggestion.

@CouscousEvaporator I think the harmony will come in for most ppl or us older women (34 ConfusedSad) in the next few years. They do it in some areas of London when you get high Downs risk screening (bloods and 12 week scan ) instead of an amnio. But where I live it's not done, you can have it from 10 weeks and it tests for a few abnormalities not just Downs as well as letting you find out the sex if you want ! And it's just bloods (and a scan to check pregnancy is viable)

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CouscousEvaporator · 11/07/2019 19:48

OOh thats good to know about the nappies, thank you, I will have a look. I know they can be quite expensive to buy! (Sorry it won't let me tag you I don't know why!)

@MrsMeow2019 Is the harmony test not an NHS test then? £400 is a lot but worth it for peace of mind :)

AndddddHerewegoagain · 11/07/2019 19:22

Reusable nappies are a great idea. We lived in a north facing flat when we had my son so couldnt bear the thought of trying to wash and dry them constantly! Definitely looking into it second time round- local councils sometimes offer a free starter pack so that's worth looking into

@MrsMeow2019 i had a maxi cosi with a base. Made it so much easier when it was raining or cold That i could just clip him in!

The lie flat ones are quite new to the market and i think most of them only go up to 6 months. They're great for long journeys ans they say half an hour max for car seats but we did loads of hour journeys in the first few weeks with 1 parent in the back and didn't have any problems. Just got him straight out once we got to wherever we were going

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MrsMeow2019 · 11/07/2019 19:05

Loving all the lists, I hadn't thought that about the Moses basket but it makes sense , I shall axe it from my list !

Might peruse Prams as well but think DH will enjoy doing that as he can pretend it's technical.

@AndddddHerewegoagain what sort of car seat did you have? My nephew has one you just strap in with the seatbelt , I like the look of those with the isofix base and the ones that lay flat seem like a good plan.

@CouscousEvaporator I feel that way too, I go between worrying it will take years and worrying we'll get prego first time and it'll be too soon ..... the entire TTC thing seems a nightmare , so many unknowns , I think I'm going to worry a lot about miscarriage and chromosomal problems.

Have found places near me to get the Harmony test and would defo go ahead with it, worth the £400 for peace of mind !

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