FECKING VIOLET FROM FECKING CORRIE........ (a bit of a selfish rant).............................

Just wanted to say, the bitterness does ease with time. I'm not going to tell you that it goes away completely, becasue it doesn't, but it does ease.
I had my first ectopic five years ago, which also resulted in loosing most of a tube. Only 7 months later it happened all over again and sadly lost the other tube completely. Unfortunely, I was 36 at the time and really couldn't have coped with IVF at the time and of course time was not on my side either. We decided after much discussion that we would take our first dd, who is now 11 as our one & only and be very grateful for that.
At the time, every programme that related to pregnancy or ectopics, and there was a lot about due to Dutchess of York, bothered me greatly. I was so bitter and fed up with the portrail, I would sometimes scream at the TV. But over time it got easier. I am fed up with the whole Corrie thing atm, but not as much as I was 5 years ago.
However your situations turn out, I wish you all lots of luck and know that you will always have MN to let off steam!

sleep well, jill.
x

Maybe mumsnetters should write the storyline. It'd make a whole lot more sense and would be beyond the wildest dreams of any scriptwriter, I am sure.

Anyway, I am off for the night. I rarely post here, but I just wanted to say to you, Lissie, that I hope things go as you would like. You've suffered a lot in such a short space of time. And Aitch - you're a fount of knowledge.

Night night x

she'll give birth in about four months, if sky mangel's soap pregnancy was anything to go by...

I should think in 2008, although DH was originally saying sooner. Tackling a few other things first, and I'd like some time to adjust, to be us, to do our research and prepare, go in with eyes as wide open as possible.

Anyway, back to Violet. Will she have a textbook pregnancy, no early twinges, stretching ligaments. Will she still be doing long jump at 24 weeks and parachuting at 35? These are burning questions. The nation needs to know!
Tongue firmly in cheek of course

Please, no apologies needed! We don't all come through the other side of EP and have babies. I'd love to have a magic wand that would make that the case, but this is life and sometimes life doesn't go as planned. It is a fact that most women will go on to have successful pregnancies after EP... but there is that small percentage that doesn't, or that has to fight hard to win. I'm always up for the challenge. Boxing gloves are being polished over the next few months. Enjoying not being on a ttc circuit, drinking what we like, doing what we want (within reason - don't want to stuff up our bodies completely LOL), and then when the time is right we'll toe the line and see what IVF brings. Eeek.

the best of luck, you can only give it your best shot really.

Thank you, we shall see ) At the end of the day, we are lucky to have DS. If IVF fails, well, at least we will have tried.

bugger. am really sorry to hear that, jill, it must be devastating news to hear. i hope things do work out for you.

Sadly there is no question about my fertility - the tube is blocked. Consultant had some doubts at the time of surgery; expected it to be blocked but not in the way we saw. Our next stop is IVF, but not just yet, time to adjust and all that, we found out a month ago.

sorry to hear that your fertility is under question, jill. that sucks.

I didn't watch it but yes, there are rumblings of discontent on the net tonight, and no bloomin' wonder! It's all sensational TV viewing. I just can't for the life of me see how this is going to help those of us who've had ectopics have the cause furthered in the right way. Not everyone conceives "just like that" after EP, and there are very few women I've seen post-EP that haven't temped or charted, checked cm, got hopes up, felt depressed, worried about every ache, niggle and twinge.
I can't conceive any more because there's a fair chance the EP surgery helped stuff the remaining tube but that's not good viewing, is it? Not all stories have the ending we want! What crass TV. If you're going to do it, do it right - listen to the EPT properly. If you're not, well, grrr

Lissie.
I agree with Aitch. You MUST ignore the crap writers of TV shows. They do it purely for ratings, sometimes with ignorance to real life.

so this is why you must ignore tv on this matter, lissie... you'll go round the twist if you don't.

true story. all i could think was 'oh fuck i hope no-one i know is watching this...'

it does suck... i know the EPT did their best to advise but, meh, they've obviously been ignored. it's not as bad as it might have been, apparently the docs were going to tell her she was infertile and her ectopic was due to her being promiscuous when she was younger. the EPT hit the roof! mind you, just after i had my first there was an episode of Casualty where exactly that happened. some poor woman had an EP because her boyfriend had been shagging around... bollocks.