TTC First Baby Thread 20

@ELW85 that's a little frustrating that they wouldn't even do a blood test, I'm a little surprised at that. Definitely ring the midwife today, perhaps they can do the blood test at the EPU? As it'll definitely be better to have some answers rather than leave you worrying for two weeks..
I'm sorry you're stuck in limbo right now.. has your spotting got any better?
Are you able to have a day from home to recuperate? I know I wanted nothing more than a day on the sofa after all of that.
We're always here for you ❤️

@ValidUser they really are! They always manage to put a smile on my face and I love nothing more than a fluffy cuddle 😊 how have you been?

@PippaPug I'm good thank you! Just waiting for AF to finish so we can try SMEP this month! I think most people secretly watch Love Island but don't let it on 😂
How have you been feeling? I hope the nausea doesn't spoil your day x

@Lozzlepop haha our older cat was like that at first, she'd just hiss at me (although to be fair DH did have her from before me), but as she's been getting older she's become a sweetheart (or maybe just tolerates me now..). The little one loves anyone as long as they have food or cuddles 😂
How are you this morning?

@Larrydavid haha I think I was being a little unrealistic tbh! I think most of our DTD sessions involve some sort of laughter now😂
Regardless of how stressful this journey has been, I think it's definitely brought us so much closer together, which is great!
How was your holiday?

So I sent DH the link to the SMEP website last night and he's ready to go
I also bought some Pre-Seed to help us out as ever since coming off the pill I've felt quite 'dry', unfortunately..
Anyone used it?

Have a lovely hump day ladies xx

@ELW85 Morning lovely, sorry to hear you had a rubbish time at A&E. Was the EPU not open? I find they do a lot more than your A&E department and as a rule will absolutely do blood tests, could you go to the EPU today? A&E just aren’t equipped for it. Has your spotting settled now?
As rotten as it is, they are right in saying that up to 6 weeks it’s a waiting game and that no matter what, there’s nothing you can do either way. I was told the same when I started all this medication. But I have my fingers very much crossed that this will all be okay for you x

@ELW85 oh I’m sorry they were rubbish at A&E I thought they would have done more to put your mind at ease. The midwife might get you back in next week for more bloods? Has the spotting stopped? I am feeling generally under the weather, sore throat is still there and a bit of red spotting this morning 😣 but again only when I wipe (sorry guys) I know spotting is common it’s just everything I read is contradictory to the last 🙈 think I’ll skip the gym today, sore throat is a good cop out xx

Morning all

The fact that there are far too many of you to tag to in this post is a testament to how amazing our group is.
I read your messages in bed last night and had a little cry.
Thank you all so, SO much for your kind words of love and support. You’re all an amazing bunch of ladies and I’m proud to know you ❤️ Xx

They wouldn’t scan me or even take my blood HCG levels or check if it was an active bleed (even though this is what the midwife told me to tell them they’d said).
The doctor (who to be fair, must have any amount of crap to deal with being an A&E doctor) just said “we won’t do that. Wait two weeks and take another pregnancy test to see if it’s still there”.
I realise there’s not a lot that can be done anyway, but I told her that at least I’d know one way or the other if she did blood HCG there and it was repeated on Thursday when I saw the midwife. She just replied “we won’t be doing that”.

So, I’m in limbo for a while I guess, as the midwife won’t have anything to compare my blood to on Thursday.

I was going to stop temping, but I thought I should just to try and get an indication. Thankfully my temp is still massively elevated as it was yesterday, so there’s hope I guess.
I’ll ring the midwife this morning and update them.

I really hope everyone else is ok?

@Lozzlepop - how are you doing, has yours settled down yet?

And welcome to all the newbies :) as you can already tell these ladies are amazing

Thanks @Larrydavid that’s good to know. Hope the spotting/bleeding has settled @ELW85 and you managed to sleep.
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Morning ladies how is everyone?
@ELW85 how are you doing?

Hump day although I was convinced it was Thursday when I woke up!

Welcome to the newbies you won't find a nicer bunch of ladies who support each other.

@ELW85 how are you feeling this morning? Did they give you a scan yesterday?

@LokiCat oh god, every other day for months is intense! We did it for two weeks almost last month and ended up hysterically laughing at each other by the end of it.

@Lozzlepop hopefully it's just healthy spotting but maybe get some tests done to reassure yourself. Hope you get that reassurance ASAP. Ibiza was awesome - lots of fun - and so nice to have a few days in the sun!

@Sammyd94 - did your doc advise how long it would take to get back to normal? With the hormonal coil I was told to give it 6 months. My periods have been really light but they're gradually getting back to normal. I started acupuncture last month - who knows if that makes any difference but it's got a bit better since.

@Anny27 I think I was so unaware of my cycles before my coil and ttc but totally agree that my body is trying to trick me now!

@ELW85 Keeping everything crossed for you. Im
So sorry you're having a crappy time. Take care of yourself X

@Macbless Welcome! I'm about your age too and I'm cycle 4. Hopefully this will be a good month for you!

@MIW01 Welcome! Do you know when your referral might be? Sounds like you're in good hands even if the test results aren't what you were hoping for. Hopefully your test this month will be positive!

@ELW85 sorry to hear you're going through this at the moment,we're all wishing and hoping it's all ok for you soon.

Welcome @Macbl and @Macblessortive you're in safe hands

@LokiCat mine only snuggles with me at bedtime, until then he’s a daddy’s boy on the sofa! I think DP would kill me if I suggest another 6 weeks of Love Island, although I heard that the Australian one was amazing last year!

@ValidUser how are you keeping?

@PippaPug no not yet, the cats injections skinned me yesterday so I am poor until payday! We can’t get one until 8 weeks anyway so no immediate rush! Are you planning on booking an early scan? Can’t believe the wedding is this week- you must be buzzing!! Thanks for sharing your symptoms I think I’m totally overthinking things I’ve not had any intense pain or actual bleeding so just need to chill (easier said than done lol) are you heading off on honeymoon after the wedding?

@Lozzlepop - have you booked in for a scan yet? Did I read that your pregnancy symptoms have changed? Mine have changed even over the last few days - I had all day nausea Thursday/Friday and it eased of by yesterday and by this afternoon started fo come back again - just to put your mind at ease if you don’t constantly feel sick/tired.

@LokiCat - how are you? I have also been watching Love island 🙈 Yes the wedding is this weekend, can’t quite believe it! Thank you very much - I’m very excited and currently rather calm!

@Lozzlepop I've been doing the same with the cats! Snuggled up with them on the sofa watching Love Island as DH finishes a late shift. Trashy TV is always addictive 😂 I'm debating watching the Love Island US episodes as well, considering the UK one will end soon!

@PippaPug is your wedding this weekend? I hope the last few days aren't too stressful! Lots of congratulations and best wishes for your big day 😊

@Anny27 yes totally... and then I wonder if that’s 30% just DTD without know when they ovulate or should be a higher percent if you know when you’ve ovulated! But it is so helpful to know that other couples are feeling the same way and that babies do come! I’m sure worrying does not help those percentages! Xx

@MIW01 it must be tricky knowing those results but great that the GP is proactive and that you’re not a year down the line finding it out.

@PippaPug I’m ok thanks, had a nice chilled night! Just got to get through these next few weeks and stay positive until I can get in for a scan! How are you feeling? Are you all set for the wedding??

Got everything crossed for you @ELW85. I don't wish that on my worst enemy ❤️ take it easy x

@MIW01 hello and welcome ☺️

@LokiCat thanks lovely, had a lovely chilled night which was just what was needed! It’s so addictive isn’t it? Terrible TV but I can’t gear myself away! Hoping a good nights sleep will sort it out!

@Macbless that’s fab, I’ve never tried temping but I know a lot of the ladies on here do! It is hard but every couple is different and we just need to remember that for some people it takes longer than others but that we will all get there ❤️

@ELW85 - I have my fingers crossed tightly for you x

@Lozzlepop - How are you?

Sorry I have been so quiet - getting everything ready for the wedding in a few days so not been on here as much!

Welcome @macbless and @MIW01 :)

@macbless it can be so disheartening when you do everything "right" but still dont conceive. But i just keep reminding myself its a 30% chance each month so i try not to get too down (although its hard to stay positive!)

@MIW01 sorry about your test results but good news that you are being looked after by the GP :)

Thanks @Lozzlepop
I was using natural cycles as a contraception before and then switched to planning pregnancy in May. So I’m pretty good at temping. Managed to get my first strong positive OPK last month and we DTD at the right times but still got my AF. Just hard not to compare to my close friends and family who got pregnant really quickly.

@ELW85 lots and lots of hugs for you. I'm so sorry about this. Keeping everything crossed for you and thinking of you. I hope the next two weeks go quickly xxx

@Macbless welcome, of course you can join :)
I know it's difficult when it seems like everyone can get pregnant so quickly. Have you been tracking your cycles?

@Lozzlepop ah that sounds lovely, your DP sounds brilliant and so supportive. I can't judge since I've been watching Love Island as well 🙈😂
Glad you're feeling better and the spotting has stopped. Really hope the sore throat doesn't get worse! xx

@MIW01 welcome, as well! Sorry that the results weren't what you hoped - I guess it's better that you have some answers and hopefully can have a plan soon. I hope the referral comes through soon!
I need to work on my weight as well.. been trying to go to the gym recently and trying to eat better, although the occasional chocolate craving makes that a bit difficult!

Hello

Hope it is OK to join. I'm new, only started TTC #1 this month, so 1st cycle. But DP and I had some tests done due to family history and turns out my progesterone is low (28). FSH and LH levels are normal so I'm definitely ovulating. DP has sluggish sperm apparently. So we're feeling a bit down about those results and obviously concerned we'll find it difficult to conceive.

I'm 34 soon so GP has reassured us that she will refer us in time before the dreaded 35 cut off! And has told us to just keep trying! I'm now 10dpo and will do a test this weekend but not feeling too hopefull.

I've just joined for some support really cause no one else knows and I think DP is feeling really bad about his results cause he's otherwise a beacon of health! I've been told to get my BMI and waist measurement down (the dreaded belly fat) so I'm eating fish, eggs, vegetables, nuts and seeds only. Cut the caffeine, dairy, meat, grain, alcohol etc. In an attempt to make this happen. We're an active couple in general. Just need to work on stress management! Easier said than done. It's lovely and reassuring to read your stories and realise I'm not alone!

@LokiCat @purplefig thanks for your kind words ladies, I came home and DP cooked a lovely risotto and make me a cuppa so I’ve not moved from the sofa all night and am looking forward to climbing into bed after love island (don’t judge 😂) not bad anymore spotting and have felt good since I got in- apart from the start of a sore throat!

@MrsEG thank you, how are you doing?

@ELW85 aw hun I have everything crossed for you, I really hope it’s a sticky bean. Are you able to work from home for the next wee while? Get lots of rest and be kind to yourself, we are all here for you ❤️ I know exactly how you are feeling right now- the waiting is just awful! xx

@Macbless welcome to the thread lovely! Are you using anything to track your cycles?