I'm gonna stick my fingers in my ears, sing La La La, and go for a third (I think)

I agree with the other posters. Having 3 dc is lovelybut very hardwork and if you can see that htere are many reasons not to right now then wait, also agree it's a time for feeling broody, dd2 is 7 mo and i'm thinking....well i suppose another wouldn't be so bad...NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! No way do i really want another and definitley not right this min, you've all the time in the world to get yourself into a situation where it will be easier, enjoy ds while a baby and think later when you're more ready.

It seems you have pointed out way more reasons not to than to which would suggest your not really too sure yourself!

I would give it a few years is there any reason to rush into another?? then your little one will that bit bigger so no need to worry about BF your DH will be well into his new job (which I would hope will mean more money) your family would by then be too big for a two bed flat most probably would have to move anyways? and you would have had time to regroup a bit before the next round

Whatever you decide good luck

Everyone sounds so down on big families today I have 4dcs ranging in age from 16 to 16 months, and I dont regret a second of it! I have a 15 month gap between dd2 and ds1 and dd2 was fine, they slept at different times so I still had time with each of them on their own. We were also in a 2 bed flat when ds1 arrived, but managed fine for about the first year, then had to move. I traded my clio in for a serena with 8 seats which tbh doesnt cost an awful lot more to run. Money is tight, very tight but we get by, the latest moan is that they dont have heelies like a lot of their friends do, but they get over things like that very quickly.
In the end you have to make the decision that is best for you, but I just wanted to say its not all bad!

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I have three and thing lucklady talks much sense.

Do it now as if you wait it just prolongs all the potential problems...wish I had had my 2 closer as it does mean you lose more of your own 'life' in terms of freedom, work etc.
Go on, you know you can't resist forever!!! so sooner rather than later imo

When you said about being a bit crap cos of exhaustion, have you tried Floradix? Its a liquid iron and b vitamins and its bloody marvellous! I've run out and I'm KNACKERED! you can get it from chemists

Oh my God! That all sounds like my idea of HELL!!! Your first post sounds like you're trying to convince yourself to have another!?!
Number 3 may not get on with 1 and 2. I'm the bringer of doom though! I've seen far too many friends fuck their lives up by having 'another' baby so I'm sticking with one!
But good for you if thats what you want you go for it! Family is the most important thing in life at the end of the day.
I couldn't cope with the exhaustion cos I'm an old git! Well I'm 33 but my body feels 133 so one child gets the best from me. More than one and we'd all suffer!!

sweetkitty waves at spugs

I have just become pregnant with no 3 also DD1 is 3 DD2 18 months. I have a Clio so need a bigger car. Only have 3 bedrooms so DD1 and 2 will have to share for a while, I have a friend who has 3 in one room and it doesn't look cramped. We had decided to stop at 2 and I would go back to work but then we realised we really wanted another baby.

I could come up with 20 reasons not to have another and only 1 for - we wanted one. Sometimes you just got to go with your heart.

ive just fallen with dc3 and yeah money situation aint great, only have 2 bedrooms and have no idea how we will fit 3 car seats in car but it doesnt really matter

perhaps cross your legs for a month and then think again?

i have 3 , have just had a beautiful day in the sun with them and would never wish any of them away for a second, BUT i didn't make the choice to have 3 [dd1 andds2 are twins] and i would never have had 3, to be frank my friends with 2 have a far easier time practically and their children have more attention - i do my best and my kids will be fine, but it's still the way it is and the positives , for me, really don't out weigh that.
practically i have a micra in the week [though i had nothing but a pram for the first year]but you will need a 6 seater to fit the carseats in and dh and our old multipla still cost a lot! other than that i can't see how it impacted our finances because i was already a sahm, all the clothes were given to me, 1 more child is not muchmore food,but i think in the future it will be hard - 3 at uni at once!!

i think you will fit in your flat still - and i have friends with 3 boys in a 2 bed house, b ut they live in the country and they have a large room and are the same sex -i don't think you can do that for very long!

i think when your baby is 9 months is such a classic time to feel broody - i did when the twins were 9 months, but it's the hormones from weaned babies taking in less breast milk i think.

also i know lots of people do this, b ut your body is not designed to have kids so close together and i have heard that it can seriously knacker your body!
i also think that having a baby with an 18 month old is hard because they absolutely realise they have been usurped, but can't understand your explanation.
i'm not just a mum and i don't think that's a problem - you just have to sort out a life for yourself in the evening and have an understanding dh!
i feel dreadfully disloyal to my lovely children, but i've thought asbout this a lot. the only thing i should add is that my ds1 has special needs [aspergers syndrome] so that does add to my load some what!
the positives are many - my kids will always have each other i hope and they are so fab when they play together and help each other. i feel special when people realise i have 3 and i feel proud that i made them all! but surely you get much of that with 2?

Sounds like you really want one .

My only word of advice is this. I ummed and ahhed about whether we were ready to try for No2. Got pregnant first go (took 18 months with DS so this in itself was a shock), and then found out it was TWINS. So in less than six months we will have three kids under 2. So just IMAGINE if you got twins too!

Must admit though, i am quite chuffed, despite being terrified!!!

Does your mother know you assume she will be around to help and accommodate you?
Sounds pretty presumtuous to me.....

OK, now, I'm broody too - and have dcs 3.5 & 15 months, so I understand where your emotions are coming from. So far, I'm fighting it - the best reason I give to myself is that I'm not sure I'm good enough at parenting two to make things harder by adding another one....

But it sounds like all the practicalities are against you ... what would your life really be like with 3?? (PS I hate to sound mean, but I'd discount dd's opinion on this one - she has no real idea, bless her)
What would you loose if you waited a few months (would have an impact on reasons 3,4,6,7&10

I was homeless (well living with my mum) my ds was 7 months old and I was TTC, got PG with number 2 when DS1 was 9 months old.

by the time DS2 arrived everything was sorted and dont regret it for a second!

Your reasons seem to suggest that you don't really want another!