New TTC Ladies!

@wannabemama0812 I think just drink! It wont make a difference this early on, enjoy yourself :)

Unfortunately I've been getting my usual cramps so I dont think this is my month. AF due tomorrow but not holding out much hope.

Thanks @Skyla01 and @rosina38 !

DH woke me up early before leaving for work to squeeze in a quick DTD

The OPK instructions say the day after the positive OPK is fine as well, so hopefully we caught the window (although only once).

I have an event next weekend that is based around drinking (and it will be very suspicious if I don't!) I would only be 7/8 DPO, and so it probably wouldn't show up on a test yet even if I were pregnant... do I just drink in moderation? (It's a champagne tasting evening, so not drinking would be very odd, and my coworkers would wonder why!)

I had hoped to just do a test on the morning, so I'd know if I could drink or not. But then I realised I probably wouldn't get a positive so early anyway!

@wannabemama0812 sorry to hear that. Must be frustrating for you. But try not to rush things.

At the moment we only seem to manage to DTD once a week, twice at a push with busy lives, tired from work etc. We have already said we are going to put a bit more effort in if we want to have a baby any time soon! I think every 2 to 3 days throughout the cycle is recommended plus sperm can live for a few days

I managed to get pregnant on the pill 10 years ago! Now I actually want to, I’m sure it’s going to be much harder!

My withdrawal bleed started today so I’m looking forward to getting that out the way and get in to a regular cycle

@wannabemama0812 that's really bad luck. It's a shame your oh won't oblige... but I think it can be hard for the man, sometimes they feel a lot of pressure to perform.

Count me out this month.
Positive on the OPK this morning, but DH doesn't feel like DTD today, and he's away tomorrow.
So disappointed

Hi @HoneyBee833

We are new to TTC too! Came off my pill 25th May and had withdrawal bleed 30th May to 3rd June. Dont know where i'm at in my cycle or if my cycle is even back to normal as it's the first month. Just trying to DTD at least every other day and hope for the best!

@wannabemama0812

I have never used a OPK before so I will leave one of the other ladies to answer you.

Normally I would have a withdrawal bleed within 2 or 3 days of taking my last pill in the pack so I did expect to have that and then have a few months unsettled getting back in to a normal cycle. Bodies are unpredictable sometimes!

All is great thanks for the wedding, we are keeping it really informal, having a registry office ceremony next Friday and then a big party for friends and family on Saturday. Obviously I have a beautiful dress with a long train though!!!

Good luck for tonight

@rosina38

I hadn't heard that statistic - much more positive!

It's so difficult getting back into a rhythm once you're off the pill. I hope you don't get your period on your wedding (just for the cramps!), but you may not even come on by then. I had about five weeks of nothing when I came off the pill, and then settled straight into a regular(ish) cycle.

Congratulations on the wedding!
Are you all ready? I remember still gluing little pearls on the menu card two nights before

Finally!
CD18 and I get my smiley face on the OPK.
If we have sex this evening, is that good enough?
We probably won't manage tomorrow as well, with my husband being on a long shift.

I’m looking at the more positive odds of 85% of couples get pregnant within one year!

In other news, I took my last pill on sunday, I still haven’t started my withdrawal bleed which is annoying as it usually lasts a whole week and my wedding is a week tomorrow!!!

I just read online that even if you have sex on the day of ovulation (ie. if your timing is absolutely perfect), there is a 30% chance of pregnancy.

30%

Even if we do it all right!! It's a miracle how anybody has children

Hello to the new ladies on here! Hope everyone is well.

For my first cycle of TTC, I haven't been tracking ovulation physically - just using the Flo app, and my own physical symptoms. After DTD on Sunday night I felt what I thought was "mittelschmerz", and felt really nauseous all day Monday and yesterday. However, Flo predicts ovulation today. DTD last night as well, so I suppose we're covered in any case!

If this cycle doesn't end in a BFP, I'll start using OPK sticks to be more sure of when I ovulate - ordered some off Amazon already, actually.

DP and I aren't living together permanently over the summer, so we'll need to schedule our visits to coincide with the fertile window.

Hi all, just joining this thread! I am TTC number 3, have had fairly easy
and quick conceptions the previous two times (6 months and 1 month respectively) so fingers crossed for this time as well. This is our second cycle of trying. I use the cheapie OPKs you can buy on Amazon and find I have to test around 3x daily leading up to mid cycle in order not to miss a positive test.

Wannabemama, have you thought about trying some fertility friendly lubricant? Every other day during your fertile window is fine, it's meant to be best in fact. Let's face it most of us don't want to do it every day!

@Lauralozzle

I know EXACTLY what you mean about other people's children. I feel a little judged, too. Especially when I'm having a nice time with my little nephew, and MIL swoops in. She doesn't mean anything by it, but I can't help but feel I'm doing something wrong, and giving away how I don't know what I'm doing! I'll often just avoid holding a baby, busying myself with something else, to avoid showing how I'm not quite sure...

Sorry to hear about your mum's labour. Most ladies don't have such horrible difficulties. I am also scared of a natural labour for different reasons, and I have seen a midwife twice now to get assurance that I can have a c section. I don't know if you would feel calmer about that, because of course that has risks, too! There's just no good way to get babies out, is there?

It's good to read how others feel, because I have the same uncertainties. Yet we all so want that BFP!

I got another negative OPK this morning. And I'm trying to track cervical mucus (not easy - mine never looks quite like the example photographs!)

I am CD16, which my Clue app says is the day before ovulation on CD17 (cycle length varies by 5 days).

Is it worth DTD anyway as I'm in the FW window according to the app, despite the negative OPK?

I have to plan it carefully, as DH doesn't like to DTD every day (my fault - I am a very petite woman and can make him a little, ahem, tender!)

@rosina38 I totally understand where you’re coming from. Part of which made me delay/think I was not ready is my fear of childbirth - my mum haemorrhaged after she had me and had to have emergency surgery. She nearly died.

But I’m ready, at the same time. The whole thing is as terrifying as it is exciting.

I want a family, and want my own child, but I can feel uncomfortable around other people’s kids. This is more of an anxiety thing though, I’m very private in person, I don’t want people to know we’re trying as they’ll ask questions/judge my potential ability. I’d rather them think I’m not interested because that stops them probing/judging as they’ve all written me off as unmaternal! How wrong they are!

I finally got a peak on my opk today! Ovulation should be tomorrow! I’m tired of DTD though - I think we’ve had more sex in this past week and a half than we have the previous couple of months! Not sure I can manage 4 nights on the trot (DTD last night).

Bezalelle,
I use the Headspace app for meditation anyway, and noticed it has a pregnancy course under the health section. Starting it tomorrow! I'm sure you could find similar on other apps or even on YouTube.
Took an OPK when they arrived today (mid-afternoon and definitely not 4 hours without a wee!)
It was negative, and I'm on CD15.
Clue app predicts my ovulation at CD17... so hopefully haven't missed it this month!

Hi @Rosina38! Welcome.

@wannabemama0812 pregnancy meditation sounds interesting. How did you find out about it?

Hi wannabemama0812

Thanks for your reply and best of luck to you!
I’ve also been thinking about an elected c-section

Totally with you on the global issues too, the world can be an awful place when you read the news.

But that’s why you need positive things like bringing a brand new person in to the world. Pregnancy meditation will definitely help with keeping positive about the journey ahead

:) :)

Rosina,
I understand what you mean about mixed feelings. I'm the same!

I'm so fearful of birth, I have already had two antenatal appointments with midwives to try to secure my c-section (looks positive I'll be able to have one).

I also find myself worrying about global issues... like how we are in a climate emergency, and is it really fair to bring a child into this world when we only have 11 years to try to fix the environmental problems... etc.

But at the same time, I've already mentally decorated the nursery

To help get my head in a good place, I'm starting to do a pregnancy meditation every day. It might be nonsense, or it might be great.

As far as I'm aware, abortions don't affect your fertility (unless they go horribly wrong, which you'd know about!)

Fingers crossed you get your honeymoon baby!

Hi all
I took my last pill on Sunday. Got loads of mixed emotions going in to this. Very excited but know this has been a difficult for many friends and relatives with being unable to conceive/ miscarriages

I had an abortion 10 years ago, so I know I had the ability then to become pregnant but who knows how my fertility has changed since then and I’m with a different partner. Did the abortion affect my fertility?!?

I’ve got 5 nieces and nephews who I adore but that means I also know the challenge of parenthood!

I’m also quite fearful of birth!!

But most of all I am so excited to become a mother, I know my partner will be the best father too. We are going on honeymoon in July so hoping we might conceive then ;)

Im new to this. Have a 9 year old but I didn't even have to try with her. Stopped my pill on Friday, had only took it for a week this time. Bleeding now hopefully that's away before my bf gets home on Friday :)
Iv been given 6 months for this to happen then we stop so fingers crossed.

But I need somewhere to be annoying with everything I start to feel lol

@bezalelle

I am feeling like I want to be pregnant right this second...!

I'm also apprehensive because my cycles vary, and I hope I can catch this tiny, magical 12-24 hour window. I don't know why I was ever concerned with avoiding pregnancy, when it seems so elusive!

The Clearblue OPKs will arrive tomorrow, so that will be a good start. They aren't cheap, though. I'm wondering if it might be worth it just to splash out £75 straight away on the all-singing, all-dancing, Clearblue fertility monitor. I'll end up spending more than that on OPKs if it takes longer than six cycles anyway. Hmmm...

Must remember to relax!

How are you doing?

Hi, @wannabemama0812. Really nice to "meet" someone who is at the same stage! How are you feeling?

@Bezalelle We must have the same predictions for this month - that is when Clue predicts my ovulation, too. It's nice to have somebody else at the same stage.