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Not testing until July

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ChikiTIKI · 15/06/2019 13:41

Anyone want some support in holding off with taking pregnancy tests?

My AF is due Tuesday 25th June but I will hold off on testing for two reasons... To avoid disappointment, and also because I have probably got a job interview the following week so would prefer to focus on that before finding out.

To anyone who joins... When is your AF due? And when will you test?

I will probably test on 1st July if no AF has shown up by then.

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mrssunshinexxx · 30/06/2019 08:35

Can anyone give any idea as to why these 2 apps have pretty different expected fertile weeks ?
I have obviously put same af dates in both and any symptoms etc

Think I'm just going to have to go with the dtd every other day if I can from cd10

Can someone remind me please is cd10 counted from the 1st day of your period or 1st day after your period finishes. Thanks

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Bezalelle · 29/06/2019 20:13

@ChikiTIKI I have the tests right here!! I think I'll take your advice and wait until July.

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 20:00

Sounds positive @Bezalelle ! The longer you hold off on testing the more accurate the result will be though. I would definitely wait until July if I were you. That said, if I had tests already in the house I would have used them already lol. But if I didn't already have done I would wait until next week to buy xxxx

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Bezalelle · 29/06/2019 19:02

Hi all,

Been busy for the last few days so haven't been on this board too much. Just catching up with everyone. Welcome to the new folk, and sorry to hear about the AFs that have arrived.

I'm toying whether to test tomorrow instead of July 1st (AF due July 4th. My head has been all over the place, and I just really want to test soon so I can know one way or another.

I'm so bloated today, it's actually embarrassing. Had to go to a Bar Mitzvah this morning and was holding my belly in the whole time in case anyone thought I was preg (lots of well-meaning but nosy women at synagogue Grin). Also feeling sick as a dog and tired. Might be AF, but it would be very early for me to be getting PMT symptoms. Usually only get them 2 days before, not 5 days before.

Anyway - just wanted to check in. Good luck to all who are testing early next week. Flowers

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 13:14

@Skyla01 I though about using a different app but couldn't be bothered to set it all up. I used Ovulation Tracker.

Before first baby my cycles were about 37 days, sometimes more, sometimes less.

After baby they have been about 32 days. So my cycle that just ended is back to the new normal I suppose.

Before the MC my shortest ever cycle was 28 days, think only was every that short twice in my life. All those short cycles so close together nearly ruined me. I was sick, dizzy, emotional... A mess basically! Taken a while to recover xxxx

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Skyla01 · 29/06/2019 12:25

Yeah, I've heard some people say the tracking with opk is a bit too much, and they find it too obsessive. Also not guarantee you'll get a positive. I think I'll give it a try and see how I get on. Would love it if my cycles magically became 30 day long and regular! That's strange how short your cycles became after mc. I wonder what's going on with all the hormones in our bodies! I use Flo app which it useful for me to keep track of everything but useless at predicting anything!

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 11:59

Thanks @Skyla01 I came up with the regime myself lol :) it seemed to work well because we both knew all day on the days we were going to DTD without having to mention it to each other, rather than me reminding DH at 11pm when we are both tired, and us deciding "let's just do it tomorrow instead".

I used OPKs for a while, I think I bought 100 and used them after my MC until I had run out. But I didn't have success with them, mainly I think because my cycles were about 12-16 days long! I would think the OPK looks positive and then AF showed up a day or two later. Maybe I should try them again.... I had an app too where I tracked everything and I stopped that after the MC too because it didn't have an "I've had a miscarriage" button so it kind of messed it all up with cycle lengths, and it wouldn't let me enter the very short cycles (it said "it's too soon for your period" and I was thinking "yes I bloody know but it's happening!!!") so it only accepted every second cycle being entered. So I just gave up with it but felt a lot less stressed not having to do all this tracking and monitoring stuff.

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Skyla01 · 29/06/2019 08:44

@ChikiTIKI awww that must be a really tough date for you coming up. Keep the faith- your BFP will come soon.

The mon/wed/fri/weekend DTD sounds like a really good routine! Plus easy to remember. Have you tried using opk or anything else to help pinpoint ovulation better? I would love a regular cycle so we could concentrate our efforts! All the DTD can get exhausting, especially with long cycles.

This cycle I had a few short trips away plus a whole week on holiday without OH so obv missed a lot of dtd time. Next time I think we'll try DTD every third day, and opks to see if I can time ovulation better. Hopefully that will help!

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 08:34

That's good that you have a plan @Skyla01
This last month, we DTD every Monday, Wednesday and Friday plus then either Saturday or Sunday.

Only problem my cycle was a bit longer and we stopped the regime a bit early I think. And I think we do that a lot. My cycles can be anywhere between 28 and 42 days so the "fertile week" can go on forever and it's knackering.

This month I think we will DTD until I am sure it's less than a week until AF will arrive.

My MC baby would have been born in July :( hoping for some good news soon, for all of us! Xxxx

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Skyla01 · 29/06/2019 08:26

@ChikiTIKI yeah that's how I feel. Especially as I'm still getting to grips with what my body is doing, and this cycle I had no idea! Which doesn't help at all, and hence why I still don't know when AF is due or anything. But I have a plan of attack for next cycle so keen to get on with it.

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 08:12

@Skyla01 you're right I've had the occasional longer cycle and its frustrating because I find myself just wanting to be able to try again. Hope you get an answer soon.

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ChikiTIKI · 29/06/2019 08:09

Sorry @mumof1hants hopefully you will get a BFP next time

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Skyla01 · 29/06/2019 08:01

Sorry to those of you who were hopeful this month and now out :(

A new cycle is a new chance so chin up. I would actually quite like AF to come and end my stupid long cycle!

Skyla01 · 29/06/2019 07:59

No sign of my AF yet (although not sure when I'm due). I had cramps all through Thursday night so thought she was coming .

mumof1hants · 29/06/2019 07:37

AF has arrived for me too. It's crap. X

mrssunshinexxx · 28/06/2019 18:25

@ChikiTIKI thanks and you x

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ChikiTIKI · 28/06/2019 17:07

I'm sorry @mrssunshinexxx I hope you get your BFP soon.

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Skyla01 · 28/06/2019 15:33

Silly autocorrect spell- I mean luteal phase not literal phase!

Skyla01 · 28/06/2019 15:32

@CatLover210 that is a really sensible approach!

@mrssunshinexxx I believe the time from ovulation to period (literal phase) tends to be more fixed for most women (at 14 days). Whilst the time from AF to ovulation is more variable. So if your AF is two days early I think it is more likely ovulation was also 2 days early. But some women have a literal phase shorter than 14 days. If you use opk or temping to monitor ovulation maybe that cab tell you?

CatLover210 · 28/06/2019 12:26

@Skyla01 Hi! I'm not sure. I don't see much point in testing before AF is due but sometimes you can't resist!
I have a feeling it won't mean anything though because I'm disappointed every month!

@mrssunshinexxx Hey. Last cycle my period started two days early (26 days) and cycle before that it started one day early (27 days). I'm expecting it to be 26 days long this month. Do you know when you ovulated?

mrssunshinexxx · 28/06/2019 10:54

My period has started 2 days earlier than usual does this mean anything I have heard people mention the luteal stage but I have no idea what that is ?

Skyla01 · 28/06/2019 10:40

I had a tiny bit of spotting yesterday and cramps all last night. But no sign of AF today and cramps have stopped. Confusing!

@CatLover210 welcome. I hope your symptoms mean something! Are you planning to test or just wait and see if AF comes on time?

CatLover210 · 28/06/2019 09:51

Hi Girls

Can I join? AF due on 5 July.

I think I ovulated on Sunday 23 June after many days of a positive OPK it started to fade on the Sunday evening. Making me 5-6DPO depending on if you count the Sunday as day 1 or not.

I've had the worst constipation ever since the weekend. It's been so painful. I have IBS so I usually need to go all the time so this is not normal for me. I've been really badly bloated since the weekend too which ties in with the constipation I guess.

Had a lot of weird sensations in my nipples on and off over past week and my boobs have started to feel heavy and painful when I do cardio at the gym. I honestly have no idea if this means anything though. In the past I used to never get sore boobs at any point in my cycle, which I know a lot of women complain about. It's only last month I started to get weird boob feelings after ovulation. I've been TTC for a while though so it's definitely not imagined.

mrssunshinexxx · 28/06/2019 09:08

Just gone to the loo and af has arrived had a huge cry and feel really sad

Why isn't it happening :(

mumof1hants · 27/06/2019 23:46

I can feel AF coming for me too.... so depressing 😩 x

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