TTC First Baby Thread 19

@ValidUser - not melodramatic in the slightest. I wish I could comfort you more (or at all). You’ve got some very real and effective plans in place though, so keep your head up xx

@ValidUser sorry to hear you're feeling down, but those are totally valid feelings (to match your username). Have the specialists you've been seeing mentioned a next step? Or will you carry on with the current plan for a few cycles first?

@Larrydavid I really rate acupuncture - it made me feel like I was being proactive, it was nice to talk openly about it with someone other than DH and I found it oddly relaxing.

@LokiCat sorry to hear that. Do your cycles often vary in length?

@ValidUser it's not melodramatic - but don't lose hope. There's every chance it will still happen and you're doing all the right things to give yourself the best chance! What cycle are you on?

@MrsEG definitely chase her tomorrow. People don't mind being chased! Fingers crossed for you.

I've started smep today - throwing everything at ttc for the next couple of months. Might do some acupuncture too - if anyone recommends it (or anything else!) let me know

@Lottiepink @purplefig did a FRER in the end when I got home from work and it was bfn unfortunately :( Will just wait and see what happens next couple of days!

@MrsEG I'm sorry she didn't call. I have everything crossed for you! You're definitely allowed to chase her, she gave you her number for a reason! I'm sure she'd want you to for reassurance. I hope you're able to have a relaxing evening xxx

@MrsEG sorry she didn't manage to call today, I think it's totally reasonable to chase tomorrow even if it is just for reassurance, that's completely valid. I've got everything crossed for you.

@MrsEG massive sore boobies are a brilliant sign and of course the positive test!! I have everything crossed! X

Didn’t get a call today :( I know that she was in her RCM clinic at hospital all day so I didn’t wanna press but I’m gonna call again in the morning - I know she has clinic at the private office on Weds and Thurs so hopefully I could maybe see her on Weds. I didn’t want to chase knowing how busy her NHS clinic is, plus I know there’s very little she can do without my test results anyway. Just wanted that reassurance!

@purplefig No, she advised against the baby aspirin until around 8 weeks as unless you actually need it it can have an adverse affect. I was kinda hoping for some progesterone maybe though - from what I’ve read, it can’t hurt to give it a go.

Trying not to be disheartened though. I have a + test and some massive sore boobies right now so I’m letting myself believe it. Happy face, keep positive, hope for the best kinda thing.

Thanks all for the lovely lovely messages I’ll keep you posted xx

@LokiCat I would definitely have taken cd17 as ovulation, and without getting your hopes up too much would the dip later on to possibly, be a late implantation, or was the temp a deviating temp? At 14 dpo , if I was you I would test especially with no signs of af arriving... as I say just another persons view. I will keep my fingers crossed for you 😊

@cupcakesandglitter ahh what a lovely post, sometimes it's what you need to take a step back and reflect, think me and my dh need that ❤️

@MrsEG how did you get on with speaking to the fertility doctor?

@LindyMoe totally get that and think it's worth a go. I too have anxiety and when I'm really bad and having catastrophic thoughts I actually say to myself calmly stop, stop, stop. It kinda works. X

@orangeloo, I love that. I watch this animation called Archer and he's always saying 'why would you worry about that until you have to' but the problem is my response to the anxiety. I just want to be at peace but everytime I think about my future baby I get a twinge of sadness which then snowballs.

Going to practice shutting it down and saying no, I choose peace... If only for a minute each time.!

@LindyMoe yes I think realising you only have a certain amount of control over this does help.
I feel weirdly okay to not nearly as bothered as usual this month?! -although the tww may change that. I've just heard so much about stress affecting ttc lately and me and DP have had so much going on I just feel maybe it hasn't happened is it wasn't meant to and it will when the time is right. I don't want to worry until I actually know there is something to worry about.

Congratulations @MrsEG we are all so hoping this is the one. Hope you've spoken to ure consultant and she's been able to ease your concerns a bit. Xx

@purplefig - thank you :) it’s nice to get the results back and great that they’re re-testing!
So lovely to hear you’re getting on well too - it must be flying over for you?

@cupcakesandglitter - you two sound like a fantastic team ❤️ It’s so lovely to read about all of the DH/DP on here who go to the ends of the earth for us (as we do for them). We’re all very lucky indeed!

@MrsEG that's what I got just before BFP! Really weird ache in thigh / where legs meet body. Great news about the early scan too. Did she advise you keep on the baby aspirin? Hope she calls really soon.

@LokiCat that's fair enough, you probably have a pretty solid idea of difference between the two. Internet calculators all day early Feb!

@cupcakesandglitter totally agree with @ELW85 - what a gorgeous message and outlook.

@ELW85 good news everything is normal. Your prolactin sounds right on the cusp so glad they're retesting.

That's okay @ELW85 it's a really hard time for all of us, but it's nothing we can't get through ❤️ DH and I have sobbed our hearts out too many times saying we can't do it - but of course we can! If we're strong enough to be partners and future parents, we're 100% all strong enough to deal with this x

@cupcakesandglitter - sorry to jump in, but what a lovely post about your outlook on anxiety and your DH.
I get really anxious too and it’s really helpful to see how you’ve both approached it.

@MrsEG - hopefully you get to speak to your consultant soon (sorry if I’ve missed it and you already have!) got everything crossed for you :)

I’ve just rang the doctors and apparently everything is normal apart from my prolactin which was 636 (I think the upper level is 619) but they took it in my mid-luteal phase when it might naturally be higher anyway so they want to re-test at the start of my next cycle.
I’ve done a bit of reading on it and high prolactin could cause a luteal deficiency, which ties in with my concerns...but given where the ranges are, I’m not going to worry about it just yet.

@Validuser sorry to hear about AF. I came on just to keep track of you. Fingers crossed for you for next month.

I met with my doc on Thursday as I am going with Sligo, coming from my direction UCHG is a good 2 hours in traffic, that would have been my first choice except that.

@purplefig I did test over the weekend using an IC but a very clear bfn. I haven't had any symptoms/feel pregnant like I did last time so don't think this cycle is the one for me.
Haha true. Have you worked out a rough due date?

@Lozzlepop I do have a FRER at home but didn't want to waste it.. so haven't tested with it yet. No symptoms in relation to AF either.. I only get cramps, but haven't felt any of those either!

@purplefig I’m hoping the Lakes will be an absolutely wonderful distraction! Really can’t wait for it. My consultant had said she would start scanning me at 6 weeks with subsequent pregnancies too so at least it would make that ‘wait’ fly by much quicker, if we get there. Also I am getting a very strange sensation in my thighs today?! Never had that before.

@LindyMoe I get that, my anxiety is through the roof with TTC, especially when it's something I have no control over. The first thing for me was to sit with DH and talk about how I felt, and asked him to be honest with how he felt. We then did like a brainstorm of things we know we haven't done ie. lose weight, buy pre seed, be 100% on the ball with vitamins etc. That's all the small stuff - we've talked about our possible options, and we've come to realise that neither of us think we will NEVER have children, just that maybe it's not the right time. We've said even if IVF didn't work we'd talk about adopting - so I think knowing we will be parents (biological or not) has calmed me down a little. I also take some time out with practising mindfulness, and remembering to appreciate my body (after all, I still have periods and I'm sure some months I've ovulated so it's definitely doing something) but also appreciating DH for the fact that he's such a wonderful husband and I'm happy to have found someone who makes me want to have a family with. It's soppy and I know the bad days outweigh everything, but I'm fed up of feeling so rubbish about it, I'm determined to get my baby but I want to know that I'm in the right headspace for when it does happen.... hope that helps? X

@starkid hahaha thats ok, I mean I wish I had them 😂

@purplefig well who knows 🤷🏽‍♀️first cycle off of BC was CD18, then CD16 the cycle i got pregnant on, first cycle post MC was CD23 so I'm hoping it goes back to day 16 🤞🏻

@MrsEG hopefully she calls you as soon as possible!

@LokiCat any AF symptoms? do you have any FRERs? Thank you, me too!