TTC First Baby Thread 19

Morning ladies.
@MrsEG hope your appointment goes really well
@ValidUser keeping everything crossed for you!

Feel crampy today hard not knowing when to test or when I'm really due AF. Feel better though today work just stresses me out!

Have a good day x

Hi Ladies, just finished at the clinic (literally in the car being driven home) and of course I’m like, must update the girls!!

Appointment was brilliant. The consultant is also the leading recurrent miscarriage consultant in all of Manchester (which I knew) and I mentioned this upfront, that I’m less interested in whether I’m fertile and want to understand what’s going on.

She said she can see no obvious reason why it is happening, but ordered all of my blood tests (12 in total!! Had to use two veins) there and then; it was an eye watering £800 in total but she then told me that the only reason she wanted to do this today was for speed - NHS waitlists for tests and then results can take up to three months. I go back in 4 weeks for full results and a plan - she is then going to take me on as a patient at her NHS clinic for any follow up and even gave me her personal mobile number for any issues ♥️

She has advised avoiding TTC until the results but said if it happens it happens and to just call her immediately. She also said when (no ifs!) I am pregnant again she will see me from 5 weeks and do at least bi-weekly scans at her clinic.

I just feel so assured that something is happening! Have one massive dead arm but a happy face :)

@ELW85 thank you lovely! Fingers crossed for a positive for you today.

@MrsEG Ooooo lavender salts sound divine! Thanks so much for the good vibes. I for one will no doubt be updating this thread at my new wake-up time for 6am haha. But yes, will definitely try and do before 8am. Glad your appointment is early and not too long - let us know how you get on. Also LOL at DH's comment. I'm exactly the same. Shave for my accupuncturist but not for my husband haha.

@FlapJackered Ah that sounds like a FAB weekend. As you say, if bfn it'll totally take your mind of it and if bfp...well, what a way to celebrate! I've got friends down tomorrow for the weekend, so that'll be a nice distraction if AF does show up. I must say, I feel like you and that AF could just show up any moment. Trying to remember that temp still high so unlikely today. It doesn't help that my cycles are so varied - from 27 days to 36. OMG YOU HAVE SO MANY FRERS!!!!! I'm going to go out at lunchtime and get one. Does anyone else still feel like a naughty teenager when they buy a pregnancy test in a shop?! Or am I just ridic?

@Bettythecat OvuSense sounds...interesting! Might consider if no luck this cycle as the sleep disruption is real. How're you getting on lovely?

@FlapJackered - love to you, too 😃
And that is a wonderful collection!

@MrsEG - I hope your appointment has gone well :)
And maintenance is hard, so I understand being hairless for the appointment and not DH, haha!

Just talking to myself at this point as you can tell my huge amount of work is doing a great job of distracting me (the down side of working from home!)
LOOK HOW MANY FRERS I HAVE! 😂😂😂

@cupcakesandglitter it's all about the Pruney! Smoothie with lots of prunes in! Works like a charm! 👌🏻

@MrsEG good luck for the appointment! I hope you get some answers and reassurance. ❤️
😂 at shaving your legs for the gynaecologist! I was exactly the same!

@Lottiepink that is a good way to look at it, I try that and then I get one symptom that is different and it goes out of the window 😂

Thanks @Bettythecat I actually ordered the Ava for that reason but then had a wobble about the cost of it and sent it back. 😬 It's only at this time of the month I get crazy about the temping the rest of the cycle it is not on my mind so much.
How are you getting on?

@cupcakesandglitter Thanks lovely! Not feeling overly optimistic! But still in the hope zone 😂 🤞🏻

Good Morning ladies ❤️

Ooh @ValidUser fingers crossed they start getting darker!!! Xx

@FlapJackered I'm so excited for you 😊 Fx for tomorrow morning!!!! Xx

@MrsEG 😂😂😂 bless him, needs must and all that 😂😂

@LokiCat I'm with you on the hay fever, isn't it horrible 😩my eyes and nose get suuuuuper itchy too and my eyes water so much it always ruins my makeup!! X

@granddesigns sorry I'm not sure either - I'm on CD37 and neither AF or BFP for me, it really varies massively! X

So CD37 for me and no AF... put a pad on last night because I was sure she was coming and I had some cramping... turns out I just needed the toilet 😂🤷🏻‍♀️ TMI HERE, I've actually been crazy constipated too, but I'm usually very frequent, going at least 2/3 times a day... I've been going maybe once every two days? Just can't seem to be able to 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just trying to catch up on all these messages but it's hard- I know it's being said before but you girls (a) are hilarious and (b) chat SO MUCH!! 😂😂 love it.

@FlapJackered I used to have that problem with temping- would be taking my temp at random points in the night and then not sleep because I was so worried about waking up at the right time 🤦‍♀️. I ended up buying OvuSense which is like a little egg thing you pop in your vajay which takes your temp. It's amazing because doesn't matter when you wake up or when you go to sleep or how often you wake up in the night. Made such a difference to my sleep. Definitely do the ankle weights idea!! You deserve that referral girl!!

@MrsEG happy belated birthday and good luck with your appointment today. Let us all know how you get on.

@granddesigns I think as the others have said you can't be 100% until the day of af. I got a BFN on a cheapie (but which said would tell me 4 days before my period) on the Monday before my BFP on a FRER on the Thursday so just shows!

@FlapJackered I'm good thanks 6dpo and feeling ok about everything. I've just decided I'm not gonna be pg, and then I don't get my hopes up 😂 🤞🏻 for tomorrow!

@ValidUser loving the chart!

@purplefig I'm with you on the frer's, I've never done one either 🤣 fingers crossed for you tomorrow too 😊

@MrsEG @ELW85 I love you ladies! ❤️Thank you for your good vibes! I really don't know, I do just feel like af could turn up any moment. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@purplefig 😂😂
I have got a lot of work on today (she says procrastinating on mumsnet 😂) so hopefully that will distract enough!
Then off this weekend to London for some parties and then to Champneys for a couple of nights, I can't wait! It will be good commiseration or celebration!
I love a good Epsom salt bath!! 🛁

@LokiCat 😂 🍇
Sorry about the hayfever it's the worst. My DH suffers from it but I have semi-banned him from antihistamine because apparently it's bad for the swimmers! 🤧

@granddesigns I don't think you can be sure you're completely out until you test the day af is due. I would hold on to your appointment as long as you can. What day is the appointment and what day is af due? Maybe you can test just before the 48 hours notice time?

@purplefig DH bought me a little selection box of fancy bath salts for my birthday so I used one of them that was full of fresh lavender - nearly passed out in the bath!!
I have such a good feeling for you and @FlapJackered tomorrow - call it women’s intuition!! Can’t wait to check these threads in the morning - ladies if you can make sure you test before 8am so I can see before I leave for work haha!

Appointment is at 10, should only last an hour. I’m glad it’s early! Just getting ourselves sorted for it now. DH laughed at me last night as I was shaving my legs ‘You’ll do that for a gynaecologist but you never do it for me’ 🤷‍♀️

@LokiCat - thank you so much, I’m hoping I get a positive today as I’ve gone to a flashy smiley but it’s taking its sweet time!!
Fingers crossed for you that your temp keeps going in the right direction (I’m sure it will) :)

@purplefig @flapjackered - so excited for you both for tomorrow! Got a good feeling about it and sending you lots of positive vibes!

Thanks @purplefig yeah I guess that's what I'm asking - and suspected I knew that really! Thanks for replying anyway! Just feels like there's a chance but think by Monday I'll have another confirmation of bfn at that point so go ahead with appt unless something has changed by then!

@granddesigns not 10000% sure what you're asking but didn't want to read and run! Do you mean when are you likely to get a conclusive bfp / bfn? I think unfortunately it really varies person to person. Some people get squinters at 8dpo, others don't get a positive until after AF was due.

@MrsEG oh I'm so glad you got a good nights sleep! A hot bath is a good one. Have you ever used Epsom salts? I swear they always make me extra drowsy. Ooo that is good news for my LP then. It's nice to have a silver lining to not getting a BFP (though I'm sure I'll still weep 😂) . What time is your appointment at?

Morning all - hope you are all ok, I'm trying to be a bit more rational in the tww at the moment so sipping in and out of the thread. However have booked out fertility mot for next week and af is due in 6 days according to glow.... boobs are very sore but seem to have been increasingly this way since starting ttc.... cd22 today and ic is bfn as expected. Any thoughts on when I could trust it to give a strong indicator that this cycle hasn't been successful, only because if I needed to cancel won't need to pay for appt if more than 48 hours notice given. Pretty sure though she will arrive midday on day of appointment next week! Hopefully we will get some info or answers or reassurance to keep going and all ok - either way I think it will reduce the stress and impact on my wellbeing for the better! Good luck to those waiting to test imminently - hope the weekend brings positive news!

@purplefig I knew I was worried so used all my ‘top tips’, had a hot bath right before bed, put my phone well away from the bed, read a few chapters of my book. Was out like a light.

It’s a win-win then!! If you google BBT BFP charts (as I did obsessively when using Ava) you’ll see that the LP temps vary soooo so much for different people. Mine looked nothing like the ones I could see on Google! But as far as I know with my limited knowledge - if your temp is staying above the cover line AF won’t arrive 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@MrsEG cross post!! Thanks...just hoping AF doesn't show up. But either way, if nothing tomorrow and no bfp I'll just be happy I have a 'normal' LP. Oooo pro tip re: prime.

@LokiCat thanks lovely. So annoying about hay fever - can you take antihistamines while ttc? Fingers crossed you get a nice sexy chart rise 🤞🏼

@MrsEG did you sleep ok? After going on about that hypnosis to you I used it last night and crashed about 5 minutes in. All the best for today. I'll be thinking of you - keep us posted ❤️

@FlapJackered @purplefig Very excited for you both tomorrow ladies 🤞🏻 If you have Amazon Prime FRERs are always much cheaper on there! Not that this has stopped me spending a small mortgage-worth of ££ on them over the last 10 months...

@LokiCat Thank you lovely. Was so nervous last night; I don’t know why, fear of the unknown I guess? I’ve always and hay fever and it’s bloody awful; try to keep your windows closed at home and don’t dry your bedsheets on the line outside!

Morning ladies!

@FlapJackered haha yeah DH came up from his night shift and saw the fruit bowl and then the fridge drawer completely filled, just shook his head and continued rummaging in the fridge. This was me > 😬

Your chart is looking good @purplefig! Fingers crossed for you both tomorrow!!

@MrsEG Good luck again for your appointment today!

@ELW85 kinder munch box sounds so good! Sometimes their surprises can be so damaging 😂 I hope you get your positive opk today!

I think I'm getting slight hay fever this year.. can't stop sneezing and feel sniffly. Hope it doesn't get worse!
5dpo today (I think) and temp is slowly rising. Just praying to the BBT gods that it continues!

Have a good day all xx