TTC First Baby Thread 19

@MrsEG I know I can't believe all this time I didn't know and there's me thinking I'd done loads of research 😆
Glad you're feeling a bit better after your rant as I remember you saying a few days ago you were maybe taking a bit of time out from MN to try and settle your mind.
I'm curious did you have your galaxy for dinner? 🍫

@Kiza Oh bless you!! Ov day is still really important as the window can be anything from 12-36 hours so you don’t wanna miss it but I’ve always done Ov day and the day after. (Sometimes the day after that too for good luck but only if we’re not shattered!) At least you know now?!

@MrsH497 Definitely ‘when’ :) I know, losing my symptoms was one of the hardest things to happen. I’m sure once we’re pregnant and we cant keep breakfast down we’ll be moaning but right now I yearn for it!!

@Larrydavid How odd! I have to say, my periods were so different after the pill; bearing in mind I’d been on it for 16 years! But as a teen mine were so heavy and painful but post-pill they’re not bad at all! I was pleasantly surprised :)

Thanks for giving me a little outlet to vent tonight. It’s made me feel much better ♥️

Oh my god I can't believe I've only just read and realised that a positive opk is not actually the day I ovulate 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ and that ovulation happens up to 36 hours AFTER a +opk. Oh man!! I've been stopping having sex the day I got a +opk, so without realising I've been reducing our chances. I was so confused why SMEP was saying to still have sex after a +opk. 🤦🏼‍♀️😆

@kiza- I didn't notice any change to my cm personally, but I'm quite lucky to get the fertile cm usually anyway

@Larrydavid- omg I'd be tempted to test just in case it wasn't an actual period. You're right that the coil removal might explain it

@MrsH497 I'd also be really interested to know if anyone has tried acupuncture!

Hello ladies! I started writing this at the dentist this morning and never finished! Such an exhausting but fun day (apart from the dentist part). Having a week off always means I have two weeks worth of work to do when I get back!

Af has ended for me. Apologies for tmi but it was odd. So light. Almost spotting and lasted 2.5 days. Though maybe this is normal for me post mirena coil? Who knows.

@Lottiepink Enjoy that wine girl! Glad to hear you're finding a positive from it.

@ValidUser I'm sorry to hear af has arrived for you. I was really routing for you. Hopefully next month.

@that90sgirl welcome! Irregular cycles suck - hopefully they'll get in line soon.

@MrsChicken89 welcome! That's a long time but hopefully that means you'll have good news soon.

@MrsEG Galaxy for dinner sounds like a great plan. She sounds awful - she probably didn't mean any of it but I still struggle to understand how people can be so unaware.

@LokiCat What's the mean girls event??

Hey, sorry for being MIA for most of the week, long work days are just too much- barely manage to shower and eat dinner before bed let alone MN, social media or chatting to friends!

@MrsEG can only imagine the anger building up as you're standing there at the end of your gym class desperately wanting those pregnancy symptoms. I literally can't wait until the day I can no longer get into my skinny jeans (and not when my tummy is bloated from too much chocolate and 🎂! 😆)
@starkid I'm intrigued by the B6 increasing cm? Keeping my fingers crossed for you over the coming days 🤞🏼

@Lottiepink sorry to hear AF has arrived -that's so great that you can find some positive in it by the longer LP. Enjoy the 🍷

@MrsH497 sorry to hear tomorrow is the 4 week mark of losing your nugget, sending you a virtual hug and do whatever you need to to get through the day 💜

We are currently 4 days into SMEP and man it's exhausting!! Supposed to be dtd tonight but knackered so will stretch 'every other day' to tomorrow. Doesn't help we are moving house this weekend 😫

@MrsEG yes WHEN we are pregnant!!! We will get there and have our bundles of joy. It'll be worth it. For those brief few days I LOVED feeling bloated queasy and having sore boobs!

Ladies what are your thoughts on things like fertility acupuncture/reiki/massage?

@starkid Interesting! I read something about it increasing EWCM so I’m gonna give it a go when we start trying again as I don’t get a huge amount. Might ask my consultant about it at my next appointment! Good luck - like you say, if nothing else at least you’re getting a nice long LP :) xx

@MrsEG - I had a BFN this morning so I won't test now unless AF still isn't here Sunday

Well I took mine before ovulation, or maybe a bit after seeing as I never got a positive (which I blamed B6 on!). I panicked and stopped taking it once the ultrasound nurse said she could see I was in the 2nd stage of the cycle, and yet I hadn't had a positive. Wasn't sure if I hadn't even ovulated? I might take it again for before Ov next cycle though, just to try it 2 cycles and see if it lengthens my luteal phase/stops spotting

@starkid Oooh fingers crossed 🤞🏻 - are you testing or waiting to see if AF shows first? I just got some B6 today, saw some glowing reviews online ha! Do you only take it before Ov, or just every day?

@MrsEG - I would be so fricking happy to be fat and round and strain out of my clothes 😂

Also to update my end, still no spotting and AF supposedly due tomorrow, which if I am 11dpo is a new thing for me, as I've spotted the day before AF for months now. Who knows, maybe the B6 I took for the first half of the cycle actually did something e.g. lengthen my luteal phase? That would be useful.
Keep getting belly aches and sore boobs on and off though.

@starkid I know!!! Like can you imagine if I’d just butted in like ‘Yeah I wouldn’t know, I’ve had 3 miscarriages and am actually really struggling so I’ve no idea what you feel like’ - talk about tumbleweed. I think you’re so right - no one ever, ever thinks that loss and fertility issues are actually all around you - such a lack of awareness. And as you say, it’s perfectly natural for pregnant people to have a good moan about being pregnant! I’ll just have to work on that stiff upper lip I think.

@MrsH497 ME TOO! Honestly, when I get there I’ll enjoy every wave of nausea, every awkward bloated burp, every weird look of ‘is she pregnant or just fat?’ as I’ll just be so bloody happy I’ve finally gotten there! You’re so right - we will have our babies one day (I hope soon!!)

Thanks for letting me moan girls DH is out tonight and my dog wasn’t very understanding!

Oh @MrsEG I get it 100% girl at work is 4 months pregnant and moaned she was duty driver for her boyfriend and his mate. I would give my kidney to be in that position just like you!!
We will get our 🌈 and I will enjoy every ache sickness bloat alcohol free day! Xx

@Lottiepink - sorry to hear :( xx
@MrsEG - it's so frustrating isn't it? Because you know, once over the initial excitement we'd all probably feel a little miserable from some of the side effects of pregnancy. It's lack of awareness that someone might be wishing they could experience all that and have been trying for a long time, or has had losses... if only it was more acceptable to just say how you feel to total strangers so they understand xx

Made it to the gym (wahoo) but had a bit of a wobbler after class just now.

Was chatting to the instructor afterwards and there is a pregnant girl in the class, she’s 16 weeks so still trying to exercise as much as she can - great, good for her. But she stood there with us and proceeded to moan at me about everything - she’s bloated, she’s tired, someone at work said she was looking ‘big’ and it upset her, she’s annoyed she can’t get drunk at a wedding this weekend, she officially can’t wear her normal jeans any more - it was endless. The instructor (who I know well) was cringing and tried twice to changed the subject to no avail.

I know that everyone’s problems are totally subjective and she has probably just had a bad week, she is more than entitled to her own complaints, I completely understand that. But I just wanted to grab her and and just scream DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW LUCKY YOU ARE. BE HAPPY. I WOULD KILL TO BE YOU RIGHT NOW!

Instead I of course did the British stiff upper lip and just nodded and said ‘oh’ and ‘yeah’ a few times until I could safely slip away.

Galaxy for dinner.

And AF has arrived 😭 knew it was coming but on the plus side my luteal phase was longer, hopefully it will stay that way! Will ring the doc tomorrow. Onwards and upwards, and wine it is 🤣

Hey @Lozzlepop good days and bad days. New job is good so far, seem to be very aware of it being 4 weeks tomorrow since we lost nugget and getting myself tearful. Always seems to be some sort of reminder at the moment. Still feel empty. Still no AF yet.

Been invited to a baby shower next month really don't know how I feel about that 😐

How are you doing? Xx

Thanks for all the welcomes
Think I will book a GP appointment soon to see what they say. Was also considering acupuncture to shorten my cycle. The ladies which are having this, do you know if I need to start it at a particular stage in my cycle or whenever?

@Lozzlepop You’ll be fine - I think you have to just keep positive and remember the odds are massively in your favour of everything being fine. It’s a different sperm and a different egg, I think you just have to be hopeful and optimistic - lord knows we don’t need anymore reasons to be anxious!! Good luck :)

I am falling asleep at my desk; have a gym class booked at 6 but I already feel like bed is calling!

@MrsEG now my laptop is having a meltdown so lost my message! Yes i know what you mean about being happy about her arrival, not what we are usually hoping for! It is but at the same time I am very apprehensive about something going wrong again, but determined to plod along with TTC again!

Thanks @starkid - I’m so happy! A happy little pin cushion, haha! Xx

@MrsEG - great news, and onwards and upwards indeed!

@Lozzlepop I know I’m so pleased, had a hunch as had some CM this week but didn’t want to get my hopes up! Feels so weird to actually be excited about AF arriving!! Ooh good luck - must feel so nice to be able to think about trying again, finally put it all behind you x

@MrsH497 how are you doing lovely?

@MrsEG Yup thats pretty much it, chunky and content at the mo haha! Stuffed myself with a carbonara last night and have zero regrets lol!

@Lottiepink In all honestly i'm not sure, I got my BFP (faint but not a squinter) on an IC at 11DPO then done a FRER the next day and again 4 days on! That sounds like you have done a lot, I would deffo forget half of that 😂

@LokiCat that sounds amazing! What a fun way to spend an evening! First day back hasn't been too bad so far, remembered that I have a garden party to attend tomorrow but this weather is making it looking it like it might be a washout! Usually he's ok but think he must have thought I was abandoning him again!

@MrsEG woooohoooo thats fab news! I was 5 weeks and 3 days and she was a cruel bitch but as you say onwards and upwards!

CD10 today so might start OPKs tonight/ tomorrow as I am guessing OV will be next week sometime! 🤞🏻