Would you trick hubby into having a 3rd?

You actually have to ask?!!

I dunno OP.

Would you like to be forced into having a child without consent?

I understand baby hunger, but to do this would be such a betrayal. It would erode all trust in your marriage.

Well indeed Monday55

This time she wants confirmation from Internet ransoms it’s an okay way to behave

Pretty sure if a man was in here saying they wanted to stop wearing a condom and not tell his wife there would be cries of rape as it wasn’t informed consent.

From what I'm understanding OPs other 2 kids where conceived the same way as her DH is never 100% ready.

Well imagine roles were reversed; say you were only using condoms and you were not ready for a third baby but still, your husband takes off the condom without you knowing and you find yourself pregnant. Wouldn't you feel disrespected? Especially because you said that you aren't ready?

I suggest talking to him about it and explain the situation; you have long cycles and it would more than likely take a while to conceive. But you have to respect his decision because at the end of the day, it takes two to make a baby.

Oh yuck.

You cannot do that. That is just horrid.

We discussed my desire for a third, and I explained that I didn't want to be in charge of contraception whilst I felt so broody. I felt it was unfair. So DH assumed responsibility for our contraception. (We did go on to have another child, but it was a mutual decision).

Of course not! It's vile to even suggest such a thing.

Can you imagine if you didn't want another child and your husband lied about having a vasectomy and got you pregnant, deliberately?

Bet you wouldn't be so blasé about that!

Loads of women do it. You just never admit it out loud

Look how many women on here get pregnant by 'accident'

I thought the same. I think it’s common but nobody would ever admit to it but if they pass it off as an accident, people are more accepting.
Up to you OP, could you not tell your DH you want to come off the pill for other reasons and see what he says?

Posts like yours make me wonder if the male pill shouldn't also be a thing so he can control his own destiny instead of entrapment condoms.

stopped taking it and let nature do its thing. Lots of people fall pregnant by accident I don't see the problemnot using contraception and having sex doesn't cause accidental pregnancies. It isn't an accident if you do the thing you know causes it.

OP how would you feel if you said no and he put holes in the condoms or replaced your pill with fakes?

Don't think it's a good idea. Better to get to the bottom of his doubts and explain your doubts about waiting and come to a decision together - a compromise maybe. Perhaps not now but decide on a point in the future.

My hubby said no after 2 for a while but he came round to the idea eventually!

My DH wants a third, I don't and know it would strain the family. Can't imagine how I;d feel if he tried to get me pregnant, like that. Grim.

Because an accident is just that, not a partner who supposedly loves and respects you deceiving you.

DD and DS2 were happy accidents, with DD my pill failed (I was sick and didn't think anything of it) and with DS2 we got carried away one night before I was back on the pill after DD. Neither conception involved lying to DP. He knew I'd been sick, and that if I fell pregnant we'd keep it. With DS2 we both knew I wasn't on anything took the chance.

Completely and utterly different situations to me stopping all contraception without telling him and conniving to conceive while he assumed I was still taking contraceptives!

If you can't see the difference then I'm stunned.

Hmm I see no problem with it tbh. I stopped taking the pill and it took 9 months to fall. Dh wanted more anyway but didn't know when. J stopped taking it and let nature do its thing. Lots of people fall pregnant by accident I don't see the problem.

this is the sort of thing, if it could be proven, I'd say you should be able to sue for damages for.

the fact you want to do it to your DH, who I suppose you claim you care about, is horrendous.

I hope he finds out what you are really like because it seems sad to be with someone who would something like this.

Absolutley not. It should always be a joint mutual decision to have a child.

Ugh

If I was him and read this

I'd call it a day with you

Nope. I have two DSs and would really like another. DH doesn''t want another. As a result we are not having another. It's not solely your decision.

Trust is absolutely crucial in any relationship. If this was a man suggesting poking holes in condoms to trick a partner into a pregnancy there'd be a riot. Thankfully most posters on here seem to be sensible.

OP you can't fuck about with contraception to get your own way, it's seedy and deceitful. It could end your relationship if he found out. What then?

Be grateful for what you have. Imagine if your DH was trying to trick you into a pregnancy? Jesus Christ.

I think lying about using contraception is a pretty awful betrayal to the person who is supposed to be your partner.

But as tiptop said above, you are fully within your rights to come off the pill and tell him he is now responsible for contraception.

No

What an absolutely shitty thing to do to your partner. Do you actually love or have any respect for this bloke, or are you only interested in his sperm?

Absolutely not. We have one child and recently (because of pregnancy difficulties and concerns for my health, not just changing his mind) my husband has said he doesn't think he wants a second baby anymore, which I do. Am I disappointed? Yes. Would I consider tricking him into it? No fucking way I could be that devious to someone I love.