TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

@FlapJackered it's like stick that you light that you hold over certain points on your body. It's based on the same principle as accupuncture but you stimulate the point with heat rather than needles. As you say, anything is worth a shot at this point 😂.

@validuser seems he's being irrational in that case

@ValidUser perhaps it's something about seeing you do it if he's not had to injected anything into himself before.

Thanks everyone! I did receive some flowers so he is not doing too badly.

@cupcakesandglitter that is true! Hopefully all will become clear. I am covering my bases anyway. It feels good to have got a positive opk so early for me. This is looking like it will be a 30 day cycle which is much more like it!
I am glad you have some good supportI've friends. Remind me of your DHs SA was it bad news?

@kiza I am not very good with cervical position maybe I should give it another go!
Hopefully i have got it covered if the opks are right and will see what the temp does tomorrow. 🤞🏻

@Bettythecat I haven't heard of moxa, I am going to google it now! I figure we just have to throw everything at it now!

AF should be done with by tomorrow, been doing some gardening together today. I have gone down to 32 hours at work this week (from 43) so hoping that helps my body from a ttc perspective.

Sorry it’s a BFN @flossy12 :( Happy anniversary @flapjackered!

@mrsh497 be gentle with yourself - there’s no right or wrong way to do it. You’re still healing so don’t force yourself to open up if you need more time.

I am in the hairdressers at the moment having my hair cut and coloured. Feeling super relaxed, being pampered and reading trashy gossip magazines. It’s also somewhere I can’t be tempted to test haha!

Happy anniversary @FlapJackered

@cupcakesandglitter I don't think there's anything you can say just make sure he knows you're there and you don't blame him. I had s good few days of pure hatred towards my body that it had completely failed to do its one job of stay pregnant. DH was the one who just listened and said all the right things. Just hug each other

After what you ladies have said I may open up more about my MC. I'm tired but struggling to sleep at the moment so perhaps need to off load my brain!

Sorry about the BFN @flossy12 you'll get your BFP we all will.

Have a wonderful weekend you wonderful ladies. Thank you for all the virtual support you've given me x

I just typed a MASSIVE reply to everyone and then deleted it. Stupid fat thumbs. In essence it was a hug to all who need a hug, a big hello to @Savvysaz and a very happy anniversary to @FlapJackered!!

Happy bank holiday weekend ladies, hope everyone has a brilliant one!

@FlapJackered I'm actually not sure you know... although temp can confirm after you've ovd, there are so many factors that affect it eg. I've had the windows open for the last four days but I'm still way hotter than usual - could be weather, DHs body temperature, bedding etc etc etc, so you might not have ovulated yet you could just be really hot 😂 maybe stick with the OPKs? Your temp could possibly shoot up more? X

@Tashdreams lovely blanket xx

Sorry for the bfn @flossy12 xx

I agree that it's massively important to talk to people closest about it - I've told my mum the last two BFPs I had, straightaway. I've told my best friend about my CP in December, but other than that I've not really said anything. Whenever I get a BFP I know it's not going to last so I almost don't even want to say anything anymore, feels like the same old story. DH is beating himself up a little because of the SA and I don't really know what to say to him either

Can I join in?

Age:32
Cycle: 4
CD: 2
AF due June 24th

Currently frustrated but trying to relax about it all.

Gosh it moves so fast that five more posts appear as you're typing 😂

@ELW85 sounds like you have a really good approach then. I can understand why men would find it stressful as they have to perform don't they- it's all about that really!

@Tashdreams I absolutely love that blanket!! Can you make me one too please?! Whilst you are crocheting you could sit and think about your future baby and use it as a kind of visualisation. See- I'm going all in on the alternative stuff now!! 😂🤷‍♀️

@FlapJackered I go by cm/c position and OPKs. I tried bbt but kept on forgetting to take it before I got up for the 🚽 and a drink of water 🤦🏼‍♀️
This month I had two LH surge, one at cd 6 and one at cd 14. I had EWCM cd 13/14/15 so took that as ovulation.
I imagine as long as your dtd in your 10 day window you should be grand?

@FlapJackered woop! I'm glad it's not just me!! 😂 having been so dismissive of people when they say you need to relax etc (so NOT helpful when you are TTC) I have now decided maybe it does have an effect on hormones and chi and whatever else so I'm trying to focus on that too! I follow this woman on insta called Emma Cannon and she is queen hippy and says things like you need to be ready to receive the sperm. Kind of makes sense so I'm going with it! I've had two sessions of accupuncture now and completely love it as it makes me so so relaxed but the last time I went she did this thing called Moxa on me which is where you heat certain points. She gave me a stick to use at home and I you tubed it and the video I found said not to use it in the LP as it can interfere with implantation- I am and was in my LP so now I'm slightly questioning her knowledge!! Have you ever had Moxa? Know anything about it?!

@Lola871 @Bettythecat @FlapJackered due on AF the 29th of May but this is first cycle after coming off cerazette so just going to take it in my stride there's always next month 😆

Yeah just going to enjoy the weekend now x

@Flapjackered - ah totally sounds like you’re still gearing up to O! Enjoy this weekend then, haha!

@Tashdreams - awesome blanket!! I wish I had the patience for something like that :)

@Bettythecat I don't time it too much, I just know we should get on with it between day 10 and day 22 ish 🤣

In hindsight we've missed fertile week a few times but until we hit a few more cycles I don't want to make it too planned. OH is super stressed with work as it is so don't want to add any more to it!

@tashdreams that's so good! I started crocheting over Christmas, and have made a few ear warmers and a hat. I haven't done it as much since the days got longer though!

@Tashdreams that's such a lovely blanket! That inspires me to get knitting again.
It does take time to get back to normal after a mc, hopefully next cycle will settle down for you.

Sorry for the bfn @flossy12 although it could still be too early. I got a bfn on 12dpo and a positive on 13dpo so you're not out until Af turns up.

@Bettythecat She didn't, after I heard it from a friend I contacted her. She explained she wanted to wait and tell me in person, but actually it is much easier hearing pregnancy announcements over text I think rather than face to face.
I have fertility crystals too! 😂 I got them when I hit 1 year and actually did get pregnant that cycle! Not sure it was anything to do with the crystals but everything is worth a try! I am rating acupuncture too as after just one session ovulation is a week earlier.

@Lola871 ahhhh that makes sense. If you don't track ovulation how do you know when to BD if you don't mind me asking?! Maybe you're just a lot more spontaneous than me and have lots of sex anyway!! 😉 the cramping actually could be a good sign you know- most people have it when they are first pregnant. Are you going to test or hold out for af?

@flossy12 that sucks I'm sorry 😫. When is af due? Maybe still a chance if not for a while?

@Fivebyfive2 ah yes I remember you saying that was your plan 😊. Sounds like a good one- really in awe of your positive attitude it's amazing 🥰

@bettythecat I believe my luteal phase is 14 days from having a couple of episodes of ovulation pain. However I don't track when ovulation is, I'm just going by cycle length. Last one was 29 days, one before that was 34 and I've had quite a few at 35.

I thought AF had started this morning but when I got up it turns out she hasn't so I'll see how the rest of the weekend goes!

@flossy12 you're still quite early to test! Hopefully you get a BFP in a couple of days 🤞

@FlapJackered yes, I think so - it was so long ago I can't remember! I had +opks around the 4-6th May. I tried figuring out why my luteal phase is so long but it's just down to my body getting back in sync after the MC - it took me 5 weeks to get a negative pregnancy test after I first started losing.
Hey ho, I'm trying my best not to think about it this month & just wait for af to arrive and try next cycle.

On the plus side I started this rainbow blanket last night (I Crochet to unwind from my stressful job, rock n roll! Hehe) last shift in work for me today, how you all have a lovely relaxing Bank hol wknd & send positive vibes to all testing this weekend x

@bettythecat, hi hun! Loving the hippie vibe 😎 Who knows, might make you feel more relaxed??

No scans booked, am still thinking we'll wait until 12 weeks. I've got my midwife booking apt on 3rd June, same lady I saw last time. We're going to ask loads of questions on what she recommends about scans and also if we should go ahead with our holiday (I'll be about 10 weeks) So hopefully after chatting to her we'll be able to make decisions!! Xx