TTC First Baby Thread 18 Already!

@Lozzlepop @purplefig @Larrydavid @ValidUser @FlapJackered @LokiCat @ELW85
Thanks lovely ladies. Second GP appt was no better - but she did say she had called the RCM clinic to try and chase up our appt. But I think we are going to go private - a friend sent on details as to who she used and they’re really close by, so I’m going to give them a call tomorrow. I feel like I just need to do something, anything to feel in control of the situation again! @FlapJackered I will definitely look up Adia too, I had never even heard of it!

@Dollywilde So sorry about AF, look after yourself and I hope your next cycle is your lucky one xx

@Bettythecat Massive congrats again and please do stick around as long as you like! I so agree with how supportive everyone is, I’m not sure how I’d have gotten through certain days without everyone. We are all absolutely delighted for you!!

@Bettythecat - couldn't agree more with what you've said about support and how fantastic everyone is!
Have a wonderful weekend :)

@Purplefig - the course was great, thanks but a little sad. It was basically how leaders can identify mental illness at work and prevent suicide. I lost one of my closest friends this way last year, so it was hard but obviously worth it if I can help anyone :)

@MrsEG - really sorry to hear that you're having a rough time and that the communication and care hasn't been what it should have been. Sending you massive hugs (for what it's worth!)

@Dollywilde - sorry AF arrived, and you're feeling low. We'll still be here when you're up to it!

Honestly ladies I can't tell you how blown away I am by all your congratulations and love. It's making me feel all emotional. This little corner of the internet is such a gorgeous supportive place- I don't doubt that if I met each one of the person I would love you as much in real life as I do virtually over the internet. Also appreciate all the understanding about the cat hair 😂. We've got 4 of them so it's a constant battle to keep on top of it!

I'm going to try and respond to you all so here goes!

@Larrydavid I don't have endo sorry but wonder if you have tried tracking your cycle using temps? I found the mouth thermometer a bit stressful to rememebr to do and time right so I have been using OvuSense for the last few cycles which is really amazing. Just wondered if it might help you get a bit more of an idea what's going on with your body as you're recently off birth control too.

@Larrydavid you enjoy that flat white girl!

@ImMeantToBeWorking I think we take a lot of emotional strain on during TTC. Lovely that you can talk to him about it though- it really helps.

@MrsEG it's so heartbreaking to read how thoughtless they have been with you. I'm so sorry what a horrible rough ride you have been through. As others have said don't be afraid to take a day or two to feel shit and angry at the world- always makes it easier to pick yourself up again if you have given yourself the space to just feel how you feel. Agree with @FlapJackered that if it's an option open to you financially it might be worth speaking to someone privately to make sure you are really getting the best and most sensitive care. We all also understand what it's like to see BFPs on FB or wherever. It's so hard. I used to get through it by thinking that maybe they had also had struggles or miscarriages that I didn't know about.

@Lozzlepop Loved the idea of you skipping off for coffee! Really made me smile!

@purplefig Thank you lovely and that's no problem. God knows if the supplements had an effect or not but worth a try I suppose (as is everything!)

@FlapJackered Thanks so much! We are over the moon but trying to be cautious and hasn't really sunk in yet I don't think. It feels like quite a shock still since I really don't have many actual symptoms other than the ones I think I mainly imagined in my head through hoping!

@Dollywilde Thank you and I'm sorry you've had a shit day. Don't give up hope but give yourself the time you need. Sometimes it's good to try and ignore the boards and groups to give yourself a bit of headspace from all the TTC "noise".

@ValidUser I hope your jabs have the desired effect and you are reporting your BFP here soon. Keep us all updated!

I hope you don't mind if I keep checking back in here to see how you all are. I still don't feel like I am on the "other side" of the journey quite yet so don't feel quite ready for the pregnancy boards.

If I don't speak to you over the weekend I hope you all have good one and manage to get a bit of time without TTC on the brain (harder done than said I know).

@Dollywilde sorry to hear AF arrived and that you are feeling a bit down, we will all be here when you are ready to return.

@LokiCat haha I think it's cause I really want to enjoy the holiday and just relax, I have felt really relaxed these past few weeks and I'm not sure if that's because I think that I haven't OVd this cycle 🤷🏽‍♀️who knows but I know we deffo need this break. Hopefully if AF does show up she doesn't last long #Neverhappy haha!

@MrsEG I completely understand. It must be so frustrating when someone whose profession is to help you just brushes you off! I really hope they redeem themselves in your afternoon appointment.
I really hope you have a better evening xx

@purplefig good on your for sticking with the smoothies! My pee has joined the neon club, was quite a shock when I first saw - you guys weren't kidding! 😂
I ended up going to play badminton with DH, so not relaxing but felt a lot better when I left! He's making dinner tonight so I'm looking forward to this evening 😊

@Lozzlepop you have so much more willpower than I do, but it makes sense to want to completely enjoy your holiday without thinking about POAS! I know you weren't really trying this month, but fx AF doesn't show up!

@Dollywilde sorry to hear AF arrived. Take your time and I hope you feel better soon. We're always here ❤️

Just popping in to say a huge congrats to @bettythecat - I am over the moon for you lovely

AF turned up yesterday and I'm feeling a bit low so hiding off the board for a bit. Will re-emerge when I'm feeling optimistic about the new cycle. Thinking of you all! X

I am so sorry you've had such a rough time @MrsEG and there are times when things are going to feel really hard. Allow yourself to be sad when you have a shit day as there is no requirement to keep it together all the time. Chocolate and wine definitely help though!
Also what a DICK of a gp! I would complain as that is just a horrible thing so say to someone who has been through what you have.
I personally would take the aspirin as I think at such a small dose it is unlikely to be the cause of problems. Would it be worth talking through your worries with a private consultant who has a bit more knowledge?
Also on the BFN podcast they were talking to someone who set up a site called Adia, it is set up by someone who had multiple miscarriages and she said on the podcast that on the site you can access to consultants to ask questions, there may also be someone on there who knows about Aspirin? Www.adiahealth.com
Xx

OH MY GOD! How did I miss this!!! @Bettythecat I am SO happy for you! You really do deserve it! 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉
That line is amazing too. I bet you and your DH are over the moon, please send some of your luck our way!!

@purplefig we fly out Wednesday early morning working Monday in the office then Tuesday morning from home can't wait! WHOOOOOOO! You are doing well with the smoothies, I am still on the porridge for breakfast as its so blimming cold here still!

On a side note currently 11DPO (according to Glow) with AF appartantly due on Tuesday. I think I will try and hold off testing until we come back from our hols as I am still not 100% convinced that I OVd this month after the MC.

@ValidUser ahh good to know. I don't know anyone else with it so have been checking boards but tbh it looks like it can take months to conceive whether or not you have it. Will stay optimistic for as long as possible!

@dahlia123 love this milk and chocolate tip. This is totally happening soon!

@MrsEG - I'm sorry you're having a crappy day.

Warning: INCOMING ESSAY

@Bettythecat OMG CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Epic news!!! I'm so, so, so chuffed for you and wishing you a very healthy 9 months my lovely. So lovely of you to share what you did differently / dosages etc too. I suspect I have a short LP so if confirmed, I'll consider a trip to H&B I reckon. Re: whether or not to carry on taking - you could hop over to the pregnancy thread and ask the women in there? Some of them are super clued up! Oh and I am constantly covered in some kind of pet hair. I also think you raise a great point about alcohol/coffee/blaming ourselves.

@ValidUser Ooo exciting - keep us posted! My fingers are still metaphorically crossed for you!!

@LokiCat thank you! It was relaxing and accu was too. How was your early evening? Since the festival I've been shattered and going to bed at 9pm hahaa.

@ELW85 good to 'see' you too lovely! Sorry to hear you're out - this could be the cycle though!! I was annoyingly away the day of ovulation so don't have a super neat chart....the silver lining if no BFP this month...I get to complete a full chart??! Your mental health course sounds so interesting, I love psychology too (though know nothing of any substance). Any cool revelations?

@Lozzlepop When are you off?! Not remotely envious. Nuh uh.

@Larrydavid Never apologise for an essay!! Good news you got the positive OPKs, that's got to be a great sign. I've started temping this cycle to try and give me a concrete date for ovulation, which is quite useful.

@ImMeantToBeWorking I remember a few of these threads ago (maybe 11 or 12!) I bought up the issue of Emotional Labour in the context of TTC and it definitely resonated with most of the people on here! e.g. it's typically women who do all the research / buy the stuff / do the testing / remind their partners to take their vits. In addition to it all going on inside of our bodies, it can be pretty emotionally taxing. Like you say, I think a good honest chat with the partner is a step in the right direction.

@MrsEG Please don't apologise - this thread is for everyone and all their various moods and days! First things first, you demolish that bar of galaxy for breakfast. Secondly, I am so sorry for the shite care you have received so far. It's absolutely heartbreaking to read and you deserve so much better. The more I read, the more it seems like most GPs are all pretty useless when it comes to fertility. Can you ring up the consultant at the EPU and discuss the low dose aspirin? They should be able to check for you. Shocking that you've received completely opposite advice from people supposedly in the know. Thirdly, sending you a big old squishy hug over the internet. You go easy on yourself and even if you can't bring yourself to do any fun bucket list activities, you could do some basic self-care stuff for yourself. I always find a walk in nature can help, or failing that, a second bar of galaxy.

All OK here today. I had accu last night. I don't find it painful but I don't really feel anything either, so I'm not sure how long I'll carry on for. I also find it quite hard to relax (and I'm normally 10/10 at relaxing lol). I'm still keeping up with the smoothies (really have developed a taste for them now) and have returned to PregnacarePee™ after a break at the festival.

@Bettythecat don't apologise we are all so happy for you, I have found myself feeling nothing but happiness for friends that have recently found out they are expecting or had babies 🙂Don't worry about the cat hair I hoover every couple of days and still there's hair so dunno why i bother! skips to make a coffee whilst smiling at your news

@ELW85 I will see what I can do, thats the morning we fly out so hoping for some good flying conditions 🤞🏻

@MrsEG oh hun I really feel for you its such a crappy situation to be in especially if nobody is giving you answers i hope you get your RCMappointment soon and things can start to move in the right direction. I know there's nothing that I can say that will make any of this better but please remember we are all here for you anytime you need to chat......and you know what if you feel like having Galaxy for breakfast I would say F*Ck it and do it - you only live once so do whatever you need to perk yourself up! ❤️

@ValidUser oooooh fingers crossed lovely 👌🏻

@dahlia123 Well That sounds delicious and the milkman just came this morning too! Will definitely try it :)

@LokiCat It’s just so, so frustrating. The GP did say she would call the recurrent MC clinic for us today to see why they sent us there, and I have to go back at 2pm today. But I’m not expecting much.

@ValidUser i’ve had three MCs now, so being referred, but it’s taking a long time and I’m just getting mixed messages everywhere I turn. The hospital told us to see the GP as they could do initial tests - and they didn’t seem to know what we were talking about. Just feel like I’m taking one step forwards and two back.
Good luck with your trigger!!

@MrsEG oh I honestly wish I could give you a big hug right now! I'm sorry you're having such a crap day. I can't believe the GPs response to you just focusing on the fact that you can get pregnant rather than actually trying to help you, especially after what you've been through. I hope the RMC appt comes through soon to actually have a useful plan in place with tests. Is there a number you can call to speak to someone about the aspirin?
It's understandable to have some days where you feel low, along with your bucket list days. You've got a lovely supportive DH and we're all always here to vent to!

Having a big bar of Galaxy sounds perfect. Maybe you can do something this evening from your bucket list to end the day on a high?

Sorry I wish there was something I could say to help. I know it's such a difficult time going through this. Big hugs xx

Had a few days off screens after getting a migraine Sunday morning after getting my period late on Saturday night.

Lovely to come back on and see your BFP @Bettythecat - so happy for you!

Hello @Larrydavid!

Sorry to hear about all of that @MrsEG - galaxy is a good brekkie. (Have you friend breaking chunks of it into a mug, adding a tiny little bit of milk and popping in the microwave for a few seconds? Helps when I need an extra pick me up). So frustrating about the GP and the conflicting advice.

Ladies I hate to bring the vibe of the thread down especially on a BFP day but I am having a SHITE day today.

Still no appt with the hospital but did get a leaflet through about the recurrent MC clinic. In it, it advises only taking low dose aspirin from 8 weeks and it can actually have an adverse effect taking it before then? So completely conflicting advice than we were given by the consultant at the EPU. I also had a wobbler yesterday over three pregnancy announcements on FB - I was basically collapsed in a pool of my own tears when DH came home from work (so much for my fun bucket list week). My first due date is only 5 weeks away and it just really got to me.

Then, today we had our GP appt (as advised by EPU while we wait for our RCM appt) and they just looked at us stupid, like ‘why are you here, you can both get pregnant there’s nothing we can do for you’. I left in pieces.

AND TO ADD INSULT TO INJURY I woke up today with loads of EWCM.

I literally just feel like a bag of poop and thought I’d vent to the only group of ladies who get it!! Currently genuinely having a massive bar of Galaxy for breakfast.

@bettythecat Huge massive congratulations lovely, what an amazing line for 12DPO too! And don’t apologise for cat hair - I live with a Siberian Husky - there is more hair in this house than anything else!!

Re: supplements they usually advise going straight on to a pregnancy supplement but I can’t see why you couldn’t take vit C also? Maybe try and get a GP appt this week to check with them! Or just eat loads and loads of vit C fruits and veggies ha! Can’t be anything wrong with that!!

@ValidUser I hope all goes well for you over the next few days!! :D lots of sex over the bank holiday weekend for you!! I am a Dub who now lives in Roscommon so I am not a million miles away from you!!

Congrats @Bettythecat delighted for you, I hope it all goes well this time.

Myself and DP were having a conversation last night and I vented about the TTW. I don't think he realised just how frustrating I find it. I have spent more on FR tests in the last few months and he didn't even realise bless him. I didn't want to get his hopes up the two months in a row that AF was late. He know the exact date I am due this month, and it is a Sunday so he will know if she does not show!! lol

@Bettythecat also great to hear about the coffee and wine - I read your post whilst guzzling on a flat white!

@Bettythecat I swear the reason I come on here is only to see other BFPs! Congratulations! You must be so thrilled.

Thanks for all the welcomes - you guys are a very welcoming bunch!

@purplefig - here's my stats (apols if I miss any - no idea what I'm writing! 😂)

TTC 1
Cycle 1 of properly trying, but I had my coil removed and have been casually seeing what will happen ever since (about 3?)
I'm 35
I have endometriosis and have had a mirena in for 15 years - doctor advised to get trying before endo comes back.
Used CB OPK last month - got 4 flashing smiles then two static's on sat/sun- thought we were DTD at the right time but after some ovary pains yesterday I fear we might have completely missed it! 🙈 But either way, reckon I'm about 3dpo about now.

Literally had no idea ttc would be so complicated but am trying to be chilled about the whole thing - I've always assumed I'd have some issues TTC but I guess time will tell!

Living for the other BFPs that I'll hopefully see in this group this month!

Anyone else here have endo?
I've written an essay! Sorry!