TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@Lilimum7 RE RMC testing: They won't get accurate readings for some blood tests if it's too near to your most recent loss, but they will explain what they need and when. I would personally tell them about the most recent one; they really can't turn around and say nothing is causing it after 7! Mine didn't specifically tell me not to try while waiting for the results, but I had already told them I was having a break during that time period anyway, so I think they probably would have recommended this (they did ask me if I was still trying).
As @fnej01 has said; I dreaded taking a break beforehand but actually found it very relaxing and I feel much more healed mentally and physically too. I did lots, like getting in shape, changing some of my diet and lifestyle, got acupuncture once a month, changed job to a less stressful one and read 'It stats with the egg' and I feel so much better about trying again now; especially as I've started treatment which hopefully will work.

You're on your own journey though and if you don't want to take a break and they say it's OK, do what feels right for you. Best of luck!

@coconutlatte44 I think hope is such a difficult emotion. You want to be able to hope, but it feels so difficult allowing yourself to when there's so much at stake! Hugs x

Good news @MyHeartIsBrokeButIHaveSomeGlue

So glad its not ectopic @MyHeartIsBrokenButIHaveSomeGlue, good luck for your scan in 2 weeks.

Found you all!

Sorry I have dropped off the thread (AGAIN!) especially as you were all so supportive a few weeks ago.

I had my scan today and it's not ectopic. All measuring in line with five weeks. It's a relief to know I don't have to go through ectopic surgery again but I am far from relaxed and am now worried about all sorts of other things. Have another scan in two weeks unless I start bleeding or something before then.

I'm not too confident as luck and statistics aren't on my side but I am ducking out of this thread for a bit. I feel like I will be back here in two weeks but I need to distract myself and not think about anything pregnancy related.

I wish you all love and luck xxxxx

Hi, wondering if I can join?

I’m 38
DS1 is 15 years old
MC on 14th April 2019 at just under 7 weeks.
TTC since September 18

I had some spotting a week before the MC and saw my blob (more like sea horse shape baby) at an EPU scan a few days later. They dated me slightly less than I thought (should have been 6.5 weeks and they thought under 6) but saw a heartbeat. They couldn’t see why I was spotting and invited me back two weeks later. I miscarried early hours of the Sunday morning at home.

I’m currently on CD30 of this cycle, no sign of ovulation or AF at the moment which is stressing me out.

Good luck to those of you with BFPs, I hope all goes well.

Thank you for making a new thread and for tagging/inviting me to join.

I'm 36 (nearly 37)
TTC #3 after I Iost twins DS & DD at 19 weeks in January 2019. Their due date is this week
Cycle 2
In TWW - CD19 and testing Thursday/Friday this week at 10/11DPO

I'm getting waves of nausea this morning but not getting my hopes up.

So glad, yet sad, that we've 'met' on this TTC journey but devastated that a couple of you are currently going through the worst possible outcome. Look after yourseves x

Thanks for the new thread lilimum7, and indreamland for the tag.

Age 35
Ttc #1 since 2016
MMC April 2018 (anembryonic, discovered at 9 weeks). ERPC
MMC March 2019 (heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks, discovered at 10 weeks). EPRC
DH has existing genetic condition which means he doesn’t produce testosterone, so he take a injections. Sperm count on the up!
RMC July to Dr Shehata’s clinic before we start IVF

Still waiting on first af since erpc. 9 weeks and counting!

TTC after TMFR for complex structural cardiac abnormalities that had poor prognosis. That happened in Oct 2018.
Feel most days like I failed my son and my husband. Terrified of getting pregnant, terrified of not getting pregnant.
We have been seeing how things go for a few months since the start of the year. This is the first month of actively trying. Hopeful for all of us trying after so much heartbreak X

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7, sorry I've been dipping in and out.

TTC #1 since December 2017
Age 35
MMC April 2019 (caught cycle 16)
Undergoing fertility tests
First cycle since MMC, cd13, day 1 of my tww

Sending love to everyone, will catch up properly later xx

@InDreamland It must be so hard trying for so long. I find it easy to feel like it won’t happen for me for even after a short time. Have you had much help with TTC on the NHS? I know you they identified something recently - are you any further forward with that?

Thanks @Lilimum7 @InDreamland

AliceRR
Age: 35
TTC #2
DD1 stillborn Feb 2019

On CD4 after a shorter cycle last month so hoping this won’t affect me getting a BFP soon. I might have to track ov more closely as I ov earlier than expected last month but didn’t get a positive OPK just two high results which I guessed was when I ov

I’m sorry for all that everyone has been through. It’s quite sad reading it. I really hope we all get a BFP that sticks this year 🍀🌈

@Laney79 @Bluebelltulip Hope all goes well for you two. I can imagine how worried you are but this is the first step to getting your rainbow babies 🌈 so fingers crossed all goes as it should🤞

I like your positivity @Lilimum7. I hope we do all get there but very soon. This is the shittiest journey anyone can go down and I'm so scared it won't happen. After almost 6 years trying for a baby now I am worried I'll end up with no living children. DH is saying we should give it another 18 months then just call it a day and accept we'll never have a family. It's breaking my heart.

Forgot to add. I'm 31.

*not nfls but bfps! 😂

Thanks for the new thread. And thanks for the add.

TTC no. 1 since December 2017.
1 MMC (ERPC at 11 weeks. Baby stopped at 6)
3 early MCs (4, 4.5 and 5 weeks).
Currently taking meds to treat prolactinaemia.
First month trying again after 7 month break.
CD 17.
I think I'm 4DPO, but don't track so could be wrong.

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7 and I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm so sorry for the other losses on this thread too. Also big congratulations to the NFL's. I really hope they stick.

Me: 39 and DH 39 too but 40 next month and him in July.

First pregnancy: surprise honeymoon gift in December. Got to 10 weeks then no heartbeat at scan after some spotting. ERPC surgery at 12 weeks in Feb. Absolutely devastating as you all I'm sure can identify with.

Second pregnancy: Straight after surgery but lost at 4 plus 2 so a chemical pregnancy. Very sad as my doctor had given me the all clear to try again. A different doctor has since said miscarriage is more likely straight after surgery. I wish we'd been told that.

Currently having AF after a WTF cycle in which I O'd on day 36 which is late for me even with pcos. We tried but O day was the day of DHs SA so timing dtd was tricky. I've felt very down over the past few days as hormones all over the place. Feeling better today and a lot more positive about trying again this cycle now I've had my first natural AF since November due to miscarriages. Hopefully my body has done a hard reset! Xx

@knitkitty thanks for your advice, I don't know why I'm surprised by how emotional I feel at the moment! I guess I was quite proud of how I was coping and then it caught me off guard when I realized I wasn't doing as well as I thought.

AF actually hasn't come on yet but have had cramps on and off since yesterday afternoon. I tested negative with FRERs at cd24 and cd26 (didn't track ovulation) and almost always get af on cd28 or 29. It's cd29 today so really just waiting for it but every hour that passes I find myself letting my hopes get back up again 😕

For the stats - I'm 33, ttc#1 with mmc at 8 weeks in March.

@Lilimum7 I would be honest and let your consultant take the call. You definitely don't want a wrong diagnosis. They will be best to advise. X

@strawberrye in starting to feel like old cheese on here. Joined thread 23 in July last year. Wondering if I'll ever get my rainbow............or will DH and I only ever have each other and never see a child of ours grow up.

@Lilimum7 my RMC guidance was that I had to be 10 weeks post mc before testing and then not be pregnant get pregnant during the 10 weeks of testing. So I could've started trying in April but have chosen to delay it. I think does vary between clinics though. Tbh I needed the break am much better now mentally and physically x

Thanks for the new thread @lilimum7.

Strawberrye
Age 27 ... 28 this month
TTC #1 since October 2017
3 very early losses around 4-5 weeks January 2018, April 2018, November 2018
Long time penguin since January 2018
Diagnosed hypothyroidism and on thyroxine
Seen local RMC who were pretty useless, waiting for Tommy's

Name: Bluebelltulip
Age: 29
TTC #3
DD1: Jan 17
DD2: Jan 19 Stillborn
Currently 4+5 by LMP but short cycles and early ovulation mean I'm likely a few more days.

Can I stay here for a bit too? Maybe we can graduate together @Laney79 when we are ready.