TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

@Mistymeow Good luck tomorrow hun. I would be every bit as nervous as you, it's normal. Just take long, slow breaths to calm your nerves. Let us know how you get on. I'm glad they should give you a good idea there and then what type of cyst it is.

@Squiff70 I can see something there! Fingers crossed.

@Starfire85 hello and welcome. Sorry for your loss. Not sure about the bleeding. But all-sorts seems to be classed as 'normal' after MC and ERPC. Hopefully it will stop soon though.

@Lilimum7 I'm glad you've got your appointment through. It is super annoying having to wait so long for the results, but it seems pretty standard. My gynae wrote to me about my prolactin levels being abnormal 4 weeks after my tests and I got it retested before going back to them, so I'm sure if they need to do any further testing before your next appointment they will let you know. Fingers crossed for some easily fixable answers.

Hi ladies,

I wondered if it was OK to join?
I'm 32 and TTC #2
I had a MMC in April at 10 weeks, ERPC.
AF came on 4th May, first period since ERPC. I've constantly had brown discharge since the ERPC other than when AF was here, but I've been scanned and everything was gone. I got EWCM on Friday but it was pink and still going with the light brown discharge. Any ideas?

Thank you @AliceRR and @Catconfusion. I'll keep you posted x

No problem @Frillyfarmer and wise to wait until calm. I always try to think the best of people but in my experience some pregnant ladies like to rub peoples faces in it. I'm not sure if it's insecurity on their part but it's pretty nasty. I hope you message makes her think twice next time. Xx

@Squiff70 that's brilliant news. Fingers crossed for line progression when you test again! Xx

@Mistymeow I hope everything is ok and I’m sorry you are having to worry about this

@Squiff70 I see a line 🙂

Thank you @Frillyfarmer, I really hope so. I'll do another test tomorrow/Wednesday and see what happens.

I can definitely see a line @Squiff70 - fingers crossed this is your rainbow xx

Thanks @Catconfusion - I think you're right, I just wanted to wait until I'd calmed down and could objectively message her without getting upset.

I have nausea this morning, and have had waves of it for a few days. I did a FRER this morning at 13 DPO and there's a very faint second line. I can't bring myself to believe it's positive (I don't know yet if it is or not) and definitely can't get excited.

@Mistymeow I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm glad your GP thinks it's a benign cyst though, that's a good sign. Hopefully the breast clinic will be able to give you a definite answer tomorrow and put your mind at rest. Also, a BFN at 10 DPO doesn't mean you're out yet...

Sorry, not going to reply to everyone but ladies, I think of you all often and wish I could commit more to this thread at times but I am all over the place.

Thanks @mistymeow just managed to get a blood test done at gps to test my levels. Have also asked to speak to the dr for a lupus blood test. My mum has lupus SLE, I tested negative in my teens and 20s but probably should check again as their is a link to miscarriage I believe. I do suffer a couple of symptoms (Raynauds and sensitivity to light - I get an itchy unattractive rash).

I hope all goes well for you tomorrow.

Hey - I wonder if I can join you.
I recognise some of the names who very kindly supported me on another thread when my miscarriage started.

I'm TTC #2 #1 is 4.5
I'm 36 and my partner is 53
Just got my final BFN from 6 week miscarriage that started 10days ago. So once the bleeding stops we are good to keep trying.
Miscarriage was after 2nd month of TTC.

I have ordered some ovulation predictor sticks so I can work our where I am in my cycle as I'm all over the place.

Xxx

@Mistymeow I'm so sorry you find yourself in this position. I have my fingers crossed all is ok at your appointment. Thinking of you! Xx

@Frillyfarmer I've been keeping track of your posts regarding said friend. I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you've been treated with such insensitivity. How horrible of her to message you with news she knew would be upsetting. I'd send her a message telling her you're happy for her but you feel she's been insensitive and it's really upset you. For now you need to take a step back from the friendship for a few months as you're coming to terms with recent events. You hope you'll be able to move past it in the future. I'd then block her on all platforms for now so you don't have to deal with any backlash. People like her really aren't worth it. You get to choose who's in your life during this difficult time! Xx

In that case I would probably avoid her for a bit, she knew better @Frillyfarmer. I hope you enjoy your day, sunny here too which always makes me feel better.

Oh @Mistymeow I'm so sorry for what you're going through and I really hope tomorrow has a positive outcome for you. I'm sorry about the wedding, ignorance really is bliss right?!

Thanks for everyone who responded to my rant on Saturday. She's one of my best friend, she knows exactly what I've been through. She was the same person who ruined my weekend away to "escape" after the first MC by announcing she was 5 weeks pregnant. I think I need to just take a step back from her but I can't decide whether it's worth the agro of telling her how much her message upset me this weekend.

Anyway! 4DPO for me, not sure we managed to time it right this month as Im sure I ovulated CD16 whilst away with work. The sun is shining here and I don't work Mondays so today will be a good day. 😊

@squiff70 sorry that this is a tough week. It’s so hard watching friends have their healthy babies, it’s a constant reminder.
@kayjay2018 sorry for your loss. I don’t know the answer regarding the folate but I think you should speak to your gp and see if you need to take a different supplement. Also ask if it is related to the loss.
@frillyfarmer oh dear, what a thoughtless thing to do. Is this a close friend? I had similar with a close friend from childhood. She was so oblivious. I decided I wasn’t going to talk to her for a very long time.
@dimblebimble lovely to hear from you. I know what you mean, I don’t mind being around babies and children, I don’t get broody. They aren’t my babies after all, so I don’t feel any sort of yearning. But I’m desperate for my own. I think it’s normal. What I don’t like is insensitive comments. I’m off to the states in 10 days for a month and looking forward to the headspace.
@knitkitty it’s not my month, negative at 10dpo. Think that earlier one must have been an evap. Breast clinic tomorrow, eek.

Was at a wedding and sat on a table between one couple with a baby and another heavily pregnant. The conversation went like this: “do you have kids?” “No we don’t, we have a cat. She’s our baby” and then got out pictures to change the subject!

I’m going to the breast clinic tomorrow morning about this lump and I’m nervous. My GP said it feels very much like a benign cyst and I know 9 out of 10 lumps turn out to be nothing. Still, can’t help thinking the worst. If it was bad news (usually they can give you a good indication of what it is on the day) I don’t know how I would cope. Because I probably couldn’t have a baby if I need treatment, I would be too old. Trying not to get too ahead of myself, but it’s really made me think.

Thank you for responding, I’m tracking on a few apps so they have all placed it as CD1 when I started this AF. I have loads of OPKs at the ready and continue to temp.

I’m sorry to hear of your loses, dates really stuck in the mind don’t they? I had my 12 week scan booked in for 21st may and I can’t get that date out of my head as we had planned to tel my son when on holiday the week after.

One final question, I had had some bloods done with the midwife before I miscarried, I got the results too late to make a difference, they showed a low folate level and suggested the GP prescribe iron tablets. He wasn’t worried when I spoke to him as I was no longer pregnant. Does anyone know if low folate equates with needing higher folic acid and iron? Could this have increased my risk of miscarriage? We are ttc again during this new cycle so I want to get as much right as possible

@Kayjay2018 forgot to say, sorry for your loss

@Kayjay2018 I'm not an expert but I would count it as my last period and use opks in case ovulation occurs early/late in my next cycle. I think it's normal for cycles to be a little off following a miscarriage, things will hopefully be back to normal soon 🤞

Hi everyone, I'm looking for some advice please.

I had a miscarriage at 7weeks a month ago and started my first AF this week. As I have been tracking my BBT and taking OPKs since my loss I know I didn't ovulate. (Never had that happen since I've been tracking).

Do I count this AF as a regular one? Is it likely that my cycle will go back to normal. I'm usually 29 days and this time was 32.

I just feel a bit out of control and would feel better if my body was getting back to normal.

Hi everyone,

Just joining the new thread. I hope you're all doing okay.

29, TTC number 1. MMCs in November 2018 and March 2019 (twins), all of which stopped developing at 8 weeks. Had surgical management with both.

We are currently taking a break from TTC (hence I've been absent from the thread for a while) since we have a big holiday planned in July and I don't want to ruin it with another miscarriage before we go/while I'm away. I want to try and have some fun in the final year of my 20s rather than constantly miscarrying, and I think the break is allowing me to recover emotionally and physically, although of course I can feel my biological clock ticking and worry I'm wasting precious time by waiting.

We are going to start trying again while we're away in July.

My first pregnancy would have been due 22nd May, so next week. I thought I would feel really upset but I don't really feel anything.

Although I felt really depressed during and after my miscarriages, I don't feel sad or jealous when I see people with babies (though I do feel a little jealous when I see pregnant women), which I feel is unusual. If anything, I feel like I'll find the baby stage boring, and I feel guilty for thinking this. I have friends who constantly talk about the details of their babies' sleep schedules or potty training and I can't say it really appeals to me. I've never felt 'broody' for a baby but have always known I wanted a family (I enjoy spending time with kids from toddler stage and up, just find babies a little dull). I'm not sure whether I'm just not the motherly type or whether it's a subconscious defence mechanism since having the miscarriages...

@Lilimum7 apparently some of the tests have to be sent away and they are on a 6+ week cycle to report back. After my second loss I had bloods taken start of Oct and I was very lucky to have them back by my appointment end of Nov (I think one or two had only come in that week). It's like the AMH one-that has to go to Birmingham for processing so it takes min 3 weeks.

I think if you have them done privately it's faster - but even so the clotting/thrombophilia ones I had done with Nuffield took three weeks to fully report. I guess there's only a limited number of labs doing the more complex tests xx