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TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

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Lilimum7 · 13/05/2019 08:02

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone ttc after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through the ttc crazyness xx baby dust to everyone xx

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InDreamland · 10/06/2019 22:22

Sorry @Pop1234 just to answer your question. My previous 2 losses were not day of AF. First loss was mmc, discovered days before 12 week scan. Second loss was just under 5 weeks.

InDreamland · 10/06/2019 22:19

@Lilimum7 I'm really hoping you can get some answers from rmc. You've been through a really horrid time and deserve all the support available from the NHS.

@Lilimum7 @AliceRR @Pop1234 @Avocuddles @VenusStarr thank you for your positivity. Since posting I've not had any more on pad or wiping yet however I've never had IB with previous 2 pregnancies so no idea what that looks like plus AF is due today. My stupid body ...... just so annoying. No idea what it's doing.

AliceRR · 10/06/2019 21:43

meant to say I think once you’ve had a loss it’s understandable you’ll worth. I lost my first the day before my due date at 39+6 so I even once I get my BFP I don’t think I’ll feel “safe” until the baby is alive in my arms and even then I’m sure I won’t believe jt

AliceRR · 10/06/2019 21:41

@Lilimum7 😂 I don’t tell DH how much I POAS lol as bed probably think I’m strange... I think I ov’d on day CD16 last cycle and CD14 the cycle before (but that was the shortest cycle I think I’ve ever had / 26 days). CB is expensive and I think I’ll be annoyed if I don’t get a static smiley this cycle!

I’m ok thanks @VenusStarr Feeling a bit low, have a cold and have af but can’t complain lol. I hope you’re ok? Enjoy your hol x

@moonpeace I think I understand that fear of “tempting fate”

@Beaglemum93 I think once you

Beaglemum93 · 10/06/2019 20:46

@Lilimum7 the aspirin may help your periods be healthier, my periods had gotten shorter and were mostly brown blood for a few months and I tried taking aspirin for a cycle and it was much healthier after that. This was before my first miscarriage. May have been a coincidence but I think it did help.

Sorry it's so long til your rmc results but hopefully they'll find something they can treat.

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 20:45

@VenusStarr aww hun that's unlucky af while on your hols. Hopefully you will not need any pain killers though. Hope you have a nice relaxing time.

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 20:42

@moonpeace I'm so glad to hear your doing well so far and I've got my fingers crossed for you xx

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 20:39

@Beaglemum93 great new so far hun. I love to hear about yours and others updates it keeps my hope alive. Tbh hun I'm very worried about my cycles. Since my mc and erpc in January my cycles have gotten longer, my periods shorter and lighter, I've had another cp and my temps arnt going up very much after ovulation. It's been 4 months since the last erpc but I've not felt right since. I've asked for an ultrasound or an internal camera to check for scar tissue but the gyno doc doesn't seem to think its necessary. I'll just have to wait and see what rmc results say in August.

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Beaglemum93 · 10/06/2019 20:29

@Lilimum7 I'm good, thanks for asking. I had my 12 week scan today and all was well but I'm really anxious still as my first died at 12+2 and I'm only 12+1 today so it could still all go wrong. How are you doing? I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time, the aspirin hopefully will help!

To the people worrying about "kicking the bfps off", please don't worry, it works out better for all of us and we've all been there feeling left behind so I don't think anyone is offended. Hopefully everyone will move over to the graduate thread soon! x

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 20:17

@AliceRR forgot to ask when do you usually ovulate. I have no idea now. Since my mc in January it's been all over the place between cd10 and cd15

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VenusStarr · 10/06/2019 20:15

Thanks for the tag @Lilimum7 I'm OK, nothing much to report here. Af is due next week (while I'm on holiday) stocked up on painkillers and tampons. Looking forward t getting away from everything and having a proper break.

I like the idea of the graduate thread, gives me hope. I have struggled hearing about bfps, they do give me hope that it might happen for me but struggle with feeling left behind.

@InDreamland I'm sorry to hear you're spotting, keeping my fingers crossed your bean is getting snuggly Flowers

How you doing @AliceRR?

Hope everyone else is doing OK.

Avocuddles · 10/06/2019 20:12

@InDreamland so sorry you're experiencing this. Fx that it's not what you think xx

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 20:11

@AliceRR yes I'm opking but not temping I don't think it's stressing me out to much. My cbfm says to start cd6 but I might just start Cd8 to save sticks they are so expensive, but I will start my easy@home strip tests early just to satisfy my poas needs lol don't mind wasting the cheaper ones. My DH jokingly said he's going to put a log in the garden as I seem to have a need to poas all the time, he said it's free and I can pee on it as much as I like, Needless to say I gave him a dead arm 😂

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AliceRR · 10/06/2019 19:58

Cycle buddies @Lilimum7 not cycle huddles 🙈 Thank you. Are you OPKing this month? What day do you start? My CB app is suggesting CD10 but that seems late 🤷🏻‍♀️

@InDreamland I’m so sorry I didn’t see your update before. I really really hope it is nothing wrong / just IB. Brown could just be spotting and I believe it’s not that unusual xx

Pop1234 · 10/06/2019 19:53

@InDreamland oh no, I'm so sorry you are going through this anxiety. Have your other two losses happened at a similar time to this or have you got further on? Could it be IB?

@Lilimum7 I know how you feel with what's the worst that can happen. Worth giving it a try though.

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 19:50

@AliceRR I hope your feeling better soon and Fx mine will not progress x

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 19:49

@InDreamland oh hun I'm so sorry ( Fx it's just bean getting comfy and brown usually means old blood but I totally understand how you feel given your previous mc's and test results)

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 19:45

@KnitKitty hello hun I'm so glad your in a reasonably good place. Fx and tx for your 🌈. I hope that you don't mind but I'm watching the graduation tread as I'd like to keep up with all you ladies as most of you have been with me since I joined in thread 15. As for me yes I feel really low right now. I'm sure I'll pick up again as I always do. I've decided to take asprin now instead of waiting for bfp (can't be any worse than I've had so far). Please do pop on every so often to keep us up to date x

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AliceRR · 10/06/2019 19:42

@Lilimum7 Yes we are cycle huddles again. I have had a sore throat for a few days now and it has turned into a full on cold today so hopefully yours doesn’t turn into anything

InDreamland · 10/06/2019 19:41

Thanks @Lilimum7 but it's over already.

Ladies, told you I'd be back. So I believe AF is literally just starting now. Just been for a wee and brown on panty liner and I knew I could feel it starting. I don't know how I feel. Really just fed up.

Bluebelltulip · 10/06/2019 19:39

Please don't worry about it @Lilimum7 I know you are having a hard time, I really hope that you get some positive news soon.

@Navy123 I was prescribed baby aspirin in my second pregnancy as my first baby was small so yes it does get given to women who have had successful pregnancies. It seems to be becoming more common.

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Lilimum7 · 10/06/2019 19:36

@Pop1234 that interesting about the aspirin, I was told to take it from bfp but I might just take it now instead what's the worst that can happen (oh yeah already been there so worth a try)
@AliceRR hello cycle buddy also cd2, mine is also easing off and I have the worst sore throat in a really long time. I'm putting it down to being rundown.

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KnitKitty · 10/06/2019 19:32

@Lilimum7 Thanks for asking. I'm doing much better emotionally this week. Still lots of worries, but I'm not feeling over-whelmed by them right now. I've got my first scan on Friday and bricking it. Dreading it because I'm expecting bad news. But can't wait for it because I want it to be over and done with (and 2% hopeful for a miracle).
How are you? I know you've started a new cycle, and that always makes us feel shit. But I honestly am hopeful for you getting a rainbow. I'm feeling positive about you going through RMC at the moment. The waiting for appointments is the hardest part... Try to have something each week until then to look forward to or plan so that the time passes quicker.

I am certain none of you meant to make anyone feel unwelcome, and I didn't take it that way. I remember a few months ago when there were a few weeks of a lot of BFPs I couldn't come on the thread as often because I just felt so left behind and hopeless, even though I was really, really happy for those who seemed to be moving on. And with my recent BFP I felt guilty after using the thread to vent about how distressed I was feeling and I haven't been on again much after that and felt a bit lonely with it all (I joined a FB group but it's not the same).
Yes, there is definitely a need for a sister thread, and that's exactly what it is. We're all still in this together. You were right to bring up the subject of reinstating a graduates thread; please don't feel awkward about voicing your needs. It's hard not to hurt anyone's feelings when we're all in situations which make us sensitive and on edge, but we all need to remember that we're here for each other. That's what's so lovely about this thread (and the new sister thread); it's a place of genuine support and care.
Hugs for everyone!

Navy123 · 10/06/2019 19:22

@Frillyfarmer yeah I've heard of people being told to go straight on it - I don't know if having carried one to term though might affect whether it would be right. Anyone else know if baby aspirin should be taken if you've previously had a successful pregnancy? Interesting @Pop1234 that it takes 6 weeks to work.