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Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

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SparrowSG · 01/05/2019 14:09

New thread for us 40+'s

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PetraRabbit · 01/05/2019 22:15

Sorry everyone's feeling despondent. Just came here to say to Rose that your history is almost identical to mine except you have 2DC and I only have 1. I'm 8 weeks now and still hoping it will work out, so I can't see why you shouldn't also have a shot! If you think about it, maybe it was just me rather than you because I was slightly luckier with timing that one month. You're not too old. Hugs to all.

Rose68 · 01/05/2019 22:05

Cleo - yes I do think the headaches are related to clomid, I’m really struggling, hopefully it will pass soon. I have decided to try one more month, I must be crazy!

BooseysMom · 01/05/2019 20:36

Even though we’re not actively trying we’re not preventing so I’ll add myself to the list
@KristieP2018..i think that pretty much describes us too! Hmm

Cleozeta · 01/05/2019 19:03

Rose - really interesting that you mentioned the headaches, AF is due tomorrow and yesterday and today I've had the most stonker of a headache. Kept waking me up in the night too. Do you think it's related to the clomid?
Not sure I want to try it again, I don't think it really helped me last time.
DH is up for IVF now so just have to find 9k.....

KristieP2018 · 01/05/2019 18:47

Even though we’re not actively trying we’re not preventing so I’ll add myself to the list

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!
Rose68: 43 (44 in June 😭) 2 DS 9 and 7, ttc since Aug 18, 1 mmc.
KristieP2018: 43 (in April) TTC #1 since June

Rose68 · 01/05/2019 18:33

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!
Rose68: 43 (44 in June 😭) 2 DS 9 and 7, ttc since Aug 18, 1 mmc.

Rose68 · 01/05/2019 18:31

@Russkispy I’m so sorry, there is nothing anyone can say to make this better. It’s so shit and so hard.

Sorry I haven’t been around much recently, I couldn’t keep up while we were skiing, and then I couldn’t keep up during the rest of the Easter holidays. My boys only went back this week.

I have taken clomid for 2 months in a row with no success, I have had really bad headaches around the time of AF, and a few days before and a few days after as well as during. I have one now , it’s not nice.

I am considering trying clomid again, I do still feel this is possible, but I just can’t seem to achieve it. I am rapidly running out of steam and DH has definitely lost interest. I’m sorry to see there are a few of us that are feeling the same.

Now I’m on a stupid diet because we go on holiday with my parents in a few weeks and I have put on half a stone while ttc. I am a bit stunted in the height department, so this is a lot of weight for me to have put on.

Anyway, that’s my update, Cleo did you want to try clomid again or are you going to steer clear? Do you think you will have ivf? Part of me wants to, but I don’t think I could convince DH, and I think I would rather put that money towards the DC I already have. I have also stopped acupuncture because of the cost. I know I am slowly giving up.

BooseysMom · 01/05/2019 18:08

Thanks for the new thread Sparrow.

I have just spent ages reading up to page 22 on our previous thread and amazed to see there were 5 bfps so just a boost to our deflating spirits when we need it Smile..I still need to read the rest of the thread to see how many more there were. It's 40 pages!

I've added me to the end of the list...

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!

Megan2018 · 01/05/2019 17:49

Thanks for the new thread - I am blatantly placemarking.

mellongoose · 01/05/2019 17:16

@Russkispy I'm sorry to hear your update. Cuddle your dd. She will get you through this. It's shit. I'm so sorry.

AFM stress levels have sky rocketed this month due to DH's work and impending financial doom. I'm supposed to be ov this week but I doubt we could/should be attempting to bring another child into the world atm. Instead I had to pull over earlier as I had a weird flashback to being on the delivery table with our one that didn't make it back in Jan. It was really vivid. Horrible. I'm sure brought on by other stresses.

Trying to get through the next few weeks and hope life gets a bit better. 2019 has not been nice to us.

Cleozeta · 01/05/2019 16:55

Oh no Russkispy, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Heartbreaking. It's so hard to accept after a good early scan. The same happened to us, we lost the heartbeat a day after a good scan too. You just don't expect that Sad

SparrowSG · 01/05/2019 16:50

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.

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Chatbash72 · 01/05/2019 15:13

Can we do another roll call..
Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks

Russkispy · 01/05/2019 15:07

Thank you for all your messages and support! It means a lot 😢

Karigan195 · 01/05/2019 14:59

@Russkispy. I’m so sorry for your loss. Just found the other thread. Look after yourself. 💐

Karigan195 · 01/05/2019 14:56

Just popping in to see how everyone is. I kept losing the other thread. Need to try and do a catch up!

Michellebops · 01/05/2019 14:35

I'll join in. I'm 42.

Af due Friday and I thinks she's coming.

Time is running out for us I think 😭