Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

Cleozeta That doesn’t sound right that your FSH wasn’t checked. That’s a reliable indicator of whether you are close to the menopause or not. You can be 21 and have low AMH, it just means your ovarian reserve is diminished not that there is no hope. I though I was ovulating every month too by the way, until a scan showed otherwise. I can give you the name of my consultant if you like? He said that half the women he sees in his prenatal clinic are over 40. A friend of a friend saw him for low AMH too, was prescribed Clomid and is now 8 or so weeks pregnant which is what prompted me to go and see him!

Constance - that's really interesting. My AMH was 2.9 so not that different from yours, they didn't check FSH at the clinic. I also ovulate every month but was suspecting it was weak, which is why I asked for clomid to strengthen it. They refused, saying that it's likely with my low AMH that ovulation is weak due to my overies getting weaker and starting to shut down, so clomid would not help with that. How funny that you got such a different response.

@Catconfusion I found that the best, just not testing early. Fed up with the disappointment.

As I'm now officially 1 day late, I think I'm going to wait until Monday to test 🤞

Morning @Cleozeta my AMH is 3.1, but I don’t have high FSH. I had all the signs of ovulating last month - temperature shift and positive opks, but a 21 day scan showed a small follicle and no sign of a corpus luteum (and I have regular 27-28 day cycles) so I was put on Clomid to ‘strengthen ovulation’ as the consultant put it. It seems to have worked as a scan on day 10 this month showed much more activity including a 18mm folicle and a much thicker endometrium lining. I’m not holding my breath about getting pregnant straightaway, but feel like at least I’m in with a better chance now!

Hope everyone has a good Saturday :)

Catconfusion - it may be different in your area, it's worth checking

Welcome @Constance1234
Day 2 of af, we are away but like you @kavanaughkj we have had a very stressful job journey over the last few years... hubs started own business and the stress levels have been through the roof... but he starts a new job next week and I am cutting back my hours.. so we'll see if that helps.. I think we forget about stress on the sperm.. x

Thanks @Cleozeta for replying. We might get a private consultation. I'm a little upset we wouldn't get a referral. It's our first baby and we met late in life. We've literally started trying as early as we can and I've had a mmc and a mc. I also have polycystic ovaries which I've had my whole life so would have caused problems whatever age I started. I might speak to someone within my ccg and find out for definite what the rules are. My gp seemed clueless. Xx

Arh thanks @Michellebops yes I never thought I'd have two back to back miscarriages like that. I'm still getting a fair amount of pelvic pain from it.

Unfortunately a bfn today at 12 dpo on an FRER so probably not my cycle.

That's a good plan to test in a few days. You never know. Good luck. I don't think I'll waste money on FRERs again as it's so expensive if you're not pregnant. Literally throwing money away. Xx

Catconfusion - gp's will usually only do FSH (day 3) and progesterone (day 21 / or 7 days after you ovulate) for fertility. AMH is only done privately as I think it's quite an expensive test. Gp's aren't too up on fertility from what I've seen, and unfortunately they tend not to refer if over 40, so it's just basic tests with answers (no treatments) or private.

Welcome constance. I'm surprised you have been prescribed clomid for low AMH, I was refused clomid and one of the reasons was because of low AMH! How low is yours? Maybe mine was just too far past the line.

EvalineUK - do you know what it means if temp rises much later than positive opk? My rise can be up for 4 or 5 days later. Could that mean ovulation happened just after peak but rise was slow, or that ovulation didn't actually happen until much later, on the day of temp rise?

@Catconfusion Sod's law eh! I'd been wondering how things were for you. It was a rough situation and I'm glad you're nearly at the end of it.

I'm not too bad, af due today but no sign so officially late I suppose 🤞 other than extremely sore boobs and some cm I have no symptoms of it coming yet. Did an ic yesterday and was negative so I'm going to give af a few days to turn up before I test.

Good luck with your test tomorrow 😘

Hey @Michellebops I'm not too bad thanks. I'm coming to the end of a nightmare 8 week cycle after my chemical pregnancy. I will be testing tomorrow as 11 dpo. Feel like I'm going mad as lots of symptoms. Not sure we caught though as DH had sperm analysis and we count dtd for two days and then Sod's law I ovulated on cd 36, the day of the SA. Anyway we'll see in the morning.

How are you doing? I've been wondering too! Xx

@Catconfusion hey! Been wondering how you were doing?

Sorry I can't help with your questions xx

Do you ladies mind if I join in?
I’m 41 and ttc#2. I had a miscarriage last July and have hadno luck getting pregnant since. I’ve been prescribed Clomid for low AMH and am currently in the dreaded 2ww. Hope everyone’s having a good Friday night x

Chat..sorry about AF coming. I too have had a hormone filled month.. got to be one of the worse ever. I feel AF looming and she's going to be either right on time or a day or two late so I'm not testing. I just don't need the disappointment.

Welcome to @kavanaughkj.. i relate to the constant illnesses. I think that was what prevented us from conceiving dc2. Plus my DH got hospitalised with pleurisy. So I know all too well what that's like. My last window of opportunity was well and truly closed then I think. I'm 47 and only hold out a min amount of hope but if I can be of help to others I want to stay here as I had DS at 41. So sending you a.sprinkling of baby dust! Good luck x

Thanks ladies. Onwards and upwards 💕

Chatbash, 46. kids 21,19,17,8 & 6
ttc 3yrs mc 9 wks, mc 5 wks
SparrowSG: 44. 1 DS 2. TTC for ever! 1 ectopic 10 wks 2014, 1 successful IVF 2016, 1 failed IVF 2018, 1 MC 12 wks 2019.
Booseysmom: 47, 1 DS, ttc forever too!
Rose68: 43 (44 in June 😭) 2 DS 9 and 7, ttc since Aug 18, 1 mmc.
KristieP2018: 43 (in April) TTC #1 since June
Samk79: 39. 2 DC 11, 16. TTC since Aug 18, MC Jan 19
Alibaba2, 43, DD 7 and 8, ttc 3 years with several CPs
Mellongoose, nearly 43 (June) DD4.5, TFMR at almost 21 weeks in Jan 19. Still TTC

Hello ladies,

I was wondering if I could pick your brains regarding appropriate female fertility tests fo check hormone levels for ttc. I also have irregular cycles/possible pcos.

I had a full screen in my early 30s inc AMH, LH, FSH and testosterone. All normal but I did have poly cystic ovaries on an ultrasound. I'm now nearly 40 and coming to the end of a two month cycle. I just wanted to see if I could have the tests checked to make sure there's no issues. I've also just had a mmc and a cp.

The GP didn't know what AMH was (a little surprised) but he did order the other tests. Is there anything else they should be testing for?

I was on the whole pretty frustrated with the doctor. He didn't seem to know anything about pcos. I asked what else I could do to regulate my cycles he said nothing and that he normally just puts woman on the pill but since I'm ttc that won't work. It also looks like a DHs SA has been lost too which is frustrating as we couldn't dtd for 48 hrs before I ovulated on the sample day.

Any thoughts or experiences with fertility testing would be greatly appreciated! Xx

Welcome Kav, sounds like you have made the right choice giving up your job to focus on your family. And I'm sure the reduced stress will help your chances with ttc, and at just 40 you still stand a good chance. Good luck!

Hi ladies - mind if I join? Feeling weird to think I qualify to be here now but could use the support from others going through the same as me - and I'd like to cheer on a few older mums too. :)

I'm Kav, 40 years old and mum to one beautiful little 21 month old girl. I was on the TTC#1 thread here on mumsnet back when I was 37 and took 11 months of trying to get pregnant with her. I really want to be able to give her a sibling and have been trying since my periods started again last June, with no successes - probably for the most part because DD started nursery in August and proceeded to get every illness under the sun and pass them on to me. I was hospitalised with pneumonia in March which was kind of a last straw moment and made me reassess a few things in my life.

I've been in a very stressful job for the last couple of years that I'm convinced on top of the illnesses has been responsible for my lack of success in getting pg. I hated being away from DD and hated paying somebody over 1k a month to do the job I wanted to do. DH and I sat down together and did some sums, and worked out that we could manage (just) on his salary alone, we'd just be church mice for a while ... but as luck would have it he scored a promotion with a hefty pay bump that's taken off a lot of pressure. I handed in my notice and I'll finish in a couple of weeks time, at which point I'll get to be a stay at home mum to my gorgeous little girl and even spend some time doing crafts and maybe setting up a shop on Etsy. It doesn't feel real at the moment.

I'm hoping against hope because the pressure is finally off I'll have more luck getting pregnant and my age won't count against me. A bunch of my mum friends from my NCT group are either getting pregnant with their second, have had one or are due to pop at any second and I want to join them! At least one other mum friend is in her 40s too though and got pregnant again with seemingly little difficulty once she was released from a similar pressurized situation so I'm hoping I'll be able to follow suit :)

Anyway - hello all - and gentle hugs to you, Russki ... what a nightmare you've been through.

So af is due today. I don't feel as though it's on it way.

I got a lot of cm again last night which is weird.

Did a ic test yesterday which was negative so not holding out hope 😭

Hugs @russkispy xx I hope you got some rest. It’s awful what you’re gong through.

I’m cramping the last two days which is weird this early before af. I usually cramp the day before or not at all until day of af. I honestly feel like I did 100 crunches my lower stomach is so sore! Af is due Monday. Going to enjoy the long weekend with hubby. Everyone enjoy the day xx

Hope everyone has a good day today.

Hi all,

Just marking my place on the new thread:

Alibaba2, 43, DD 7 and 8, ttc 3 years with several CPs

Ooh missed @Michellebops welcome, not too late.. whilst still ovulating still a chance x

Thanks @BooseysMom and @Chatbash72 for the welcome