Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

KarryK- great news! I'll be hoping for you. It's a stressful time. At 5 weeks I didn't have many symptoms either but mine picked up after 5 weeks. Are you planning any early scans? I didn't because I won't feel reassured until I see a heartbeat after 10 weeks (due to my MMC) but it's hard not knowing!

@Kimm123 they were all separate..forgot to add that I've been taking royal jelly for the last month too. I've got enough pills to open my own pharmacy

Kim - I think it would be useful for you to know your numbers, just because what may be high to one doctor may ne normal to another, unless very high. I have done a lot of research on FSH so can help you decipher it if you like.
As for clomid, I only tried it once last cycle and it didn't really work for me (ovulation was delayed and sketchy and I wasn't monitored so no idea what happened) no side effects to report though. You only need 5 tablets per cycle so sounds like you will be set up for a while, will you be monitored on it? What days have you been told to take it?

Hi karryk did all the supplements come in one form of tablet or is it separate for each one? Thanks xx

Hi Cleozeta. Thanku for replying. I dont know what the fsh level is but the dr said was high.i mean i can find out on monday. Have you tried the clomid? Are there any side effects and do you think it would help me because i dont have periods it is hard for me to time ovulation. Hope this makes sense. The one i got prescribed is Letrozole. But i have to have another tabs for 10days to have a bleed. She has only gave me 10 so that is like one shot isnt it?? So what do i do after that if i dont conceive? How many times can you have the clomid?? Ive got 28 tablets. Lol Gosh how hard is it for us ladies ey !!! Hopefully we should all concieve with our bundles of joy one day xx

Congrats karry - fingers crossef this is it for you.

Kim - was it your FSH they were testing? Did they tell you what the number was? GP opinions can differ from surgery to surgery on levels and what they class as high, low or borderline, if you have the figure you can judge it yourself which i can be useful and more realistic. Also FSH can massively fluctuate so may not necessarily mean you are menopausal.
Great that you have been given the meds to kickstart things. So clinic obviously think all is still functioning or they wouldn't prescribe, they would leave it to nature to decide.

@Kimm123 I have an almost 2 year old daughter I took some supplements - ubiquinol, vitamin e, omega oil, vitamin d and folate. I also have regular 5 elements acupuncture for general health and well being. That's about it really.

I had my daughter by c-section and apparently the scar tissue has blocked one of my tubes but I've had two pregnancies since then so I'm not too despondent.

My periods are regular albeit much lighter since i had my daughter

Thanks @BooseysMom appreciate your message. I think you're right, hopefully communication will be clearer on my part also.

And I guess the thing is this forum is so helpful as I don't know about others, but I am not discussing our journey with anyone except DH. I'm sure it's the same for most people, unless they have a particularly close relationship with their mum or something. It's so good to be able to just talk about it!! I also have had a number of comments IRL recently asking "when I'm going to have children" from a few men (colleagues) based on my age and fairly new marital status. It's so infuriating! I don't even know what to say in that scenario!

Karryk hope you do not mind if i ask you a few questions? Did you have any treatments or supplements for you to concieve? Did you have periods regular? The gynae did all the infertility tests with me and my partner and said everything is okay. Hope you can help x

Here goes my story. I am 42 years old.I have a boy 6 year old. My periods were regular until a couple of years ago they went to really heavy and now ive not had a period since jan 19. Im under the infertility and found out i had endometriosis polyp. So recently had that removed and she said to try after few weeks. I am taking folic acid. The blood test gynae did said im not menopausal and gave me some meds to start my period and then have clomid. Which to yet have not taken as had to get the polyp removed. Last week had a blood test at gp surgery and the dr said your hormone levels seem to be going up and down and that at the moment they are high which indicates your going through the change. 😂😂😂😂😂😂. So this is were i am at with trying to conceive. I would love to him my child a sibling. He always wants a brother or sister. Desperately need help or any ideas as to were i should go from here. Very much appreciated for your views 🌹🌹🌹

Im sooo excited for u. Is this your first x

@Kimm123 thanks I'll be 42 next month

Congratulations how old are you karryk

Hello ladies I haven't been by for a while as needed some time away. After the mc in December we started trying again and took a break in March. I've just had a bfp - slightly more symptoms than the last pregnancy (where I had nothing at all apart from fatigue) but still nothing compared to what I had with DD. I know every pregnancy can be different so I'm just rolling with it for the next few weeks or however long until I know whether this is going anywhere. I'm about 5w along so possibly too early to get much in the way of heavy symptoms but that doesn't stop me from obsessing over it!

I hope you're all well and a big hello to the new ladies ❤️ xx

@CouldBeaGreatMum.. Yes I get it totally. Maybe i misread your previous post..sorry if that was the case. That's the problem with this isn't it?! Anyway I think your name says everything tbh..you deserve to be a great mum and I wish you every success ttc! x

Chat..you know what though? What's the biggest unfairness about all this is that I really think I'm still ovulating. Like Hellen said a few weeks ago, I have all the signs. Ewcm, the lot, but I feel like a fraud being here as we haven't ttc as much as they say. The reason? Because i'm too bloody scared!.. we just can't afford another. It's so unfair! DH got very ill and was made medically redundant so we held off, we were renting forever and at last now we've got a house but it's only a 2 bed and we can't afford a 3 bed as it's taken 14 years to even get a house and it was only thru shared ownership. So circumstances say NO we can't have a second..and yet and yet something still pushes me to ttc..pesky mother nature!

Thanks @Chatbash72 for your perspective. @BooseysMom I agree with safe space rules and to my mind part of that includes feeling safe to express insecurities, envy, frustration and so on, as long as it's expressed respectfully. Part of the trauma of being 40 TTC is the myriad of mother and motherhood imagery we see in front of us everyday, and yes, that includes multiple children, as well as first babies, and so on. I hope to feel able to express my brain fog and lack of understanding of these things if and when they emerge in the conversation, and I aim to do so respectfully.

Chatbash72 thank you for the positive words. I’ve been feeling a bit despondent about potentially not being able to give my son a sibling, but you’ve really helped shift my attitude back into positivity :)

Thank you Chatbash. I've been a state the last couple of days as my MMC grew to the exact gestation I am today. Your good wishes were appreciated.

Whoop whoop 🙌 @BooseysMom hope that has given you some hope... @minime2017 glad I can still spread some optimism... have had a proper bollocks day... most of the morning in tears... (ex hubby and eldest graduation.. ) but always happy to spread positivity because we have to believe in ourselves... 💕💕💕

@CouldBeaGreatMum..thanks for your msg back to me..I appreciate your understanding. It was just i remember from the start of this thread that it was agreed that we must try to be a safe space for everyone over 40 ttc regardless of circumstances. Everyone has different life experiences and I have to say it's my fault for not ttc earlier in life. So I only have the one but he is all the more special for it

Thanks Chat. One thing the GP said to me was that as I was still having regular AF I couldn't be in Peri and that was why she didn't want to do any hormone testing.

Chatbash, your post is the little dose of optimism I needed today. Thank you 😊

It may take a little longer for us all to get preggo... is what I meant xx

Ooh don't know why it was all in bold... wasn't meant to be.. tech is not my area 🤣

Goodness a few days at work and lots to catch up on...
@Meredithdorothy2016 welcome and wow... I have 5, ttc number 6... I just think it takes a little longer as we get a little older.. keeping going if you feel you can... xxx
Welcome @Kimm123 I'm on a good pregCare multi vit, omega 3,6,9, CoQ10 and vit d spray.. but think we all cover a good amount of similar vits.. not sure about the clomid.. but lots of ladies here have experience.
@PetraRabbit sending hugs to you and little bean.
@BooseysMom sorry af was bollocks... 💕
@CouldBeaGreatMum Of course it's diff when some of us already have little ones.. I had 3 babies with a narsasistic s o b who then took my eldest, parentally alienating her from me and her siblings and put me through hell and back.. I met the love of my life and we had 2 little ( not so little now) ones.. and we lost your 3rd baby 3 years ago.. we have been ttc since.. but no matter how many we have or don't have it doesn't mean we can't and don't support each other... as long as af comes you are always in the race @BooseysMom Posted an interesting article on a previous thread, us 40's are now the highest baby producing age bracket.. I may just take a little longer but we are bonking for little socks off.. whoop whoop 🙌
baby dust and hope and faith is for everyone.. 💕💕💕

But i have seen gynae and she said not menopause and gave me some tablets to induce a period than have clomid day 2 to day 5. I did have polyp which i got removed few weeks ago. And they said that could be the reason for infertility. I think my levels go high when i take folic acid tablets. Do you think i should go ahead with the tablets? And request AMH blood test from the doctors..sorry can you explain what Amh is? Thanking you so much x