Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

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I am a real advocate of fertility acupuncture. I had it for about 18 months with an amazing lady in Bedfordshire. I can definitely recommend if anyone is close. She lengthened my cycles from 23 days to 28 inbetween DC. as I said previously, once they lengthened I conceived. So I very much believe she allowed me to conceive DS2 abd five that I’ll be forever grateful ❤️

@Kimm123 we drove an hour and a half to reach her and back. She better be worth it haha

@Kimm123 I'm glad you enjoyed the call. She's a very nice lady and hopefully she will help us. I'm 43 now and have 1 DD conceived with IUI in 2016. Last year I had IUI in May which was positive but ended in MMC. Then I had failed IUIs in September, October and November. Then went for the first IVF in December, short protocol and failed it, no back up. And had second IVF in March, BFP but ended in MMC. Had a long discussion with my doctor and maybe DE is the way forward now. But then came across Katharine and yet too see what gives. And what's your story?

Congratulations@karryk and @turquoiseturtle
@Cleozeta yes normal service has resumed.. honestly they have know idea where babies come from do they....
hi @sheshootssheimplores welcome, your journey has not been an easy one at all, so sorry for your losses xx
@Russkispy you sound very positive I hope this lady is helpful...
random pic... before I plonked my sugar into it... I thought it looked like an egg splitting... you can see conception in anything..
atm just about to start ov so we are already dtd...
lots of baby dust to you all..

Hi ladies.ive just got off the phone from Katharine..she sounds VERY promising.im definitely thinking to go ahead with it. Im going to discuss with my hubby.
Russkipsy how old are you if you dont mind me asking? The only thing its quite expensive and shes far away from me. But if it means conceiving then why not i think?

Sounds interesting russkispy! Will be interested to see how you get on with it

Hi thanku Russkipsy. Just to ask im going to start taking some meds to induce a period as ive not had one since Jan and then letrozole to ovulate. But on a low dose. am i right in saying that do i need to be monitored whilst taking this medication? Bcuz ive only got one lot to take to induce periods and 28 tabs of letrozole. sorry im sooo confused. Ive tried calling the consultant sec and left loads messages but as yet not come back to me.

@Kimm123 DE - donor egg.
@Cleozeta , I've attached a list of supplements to take. Plus Ubiquinol by Doctor's Best, multivitamins by Veridian for men and women, I got them on Amazon. My DH been taking them forever now. Plus to make a juice of celery and apple to detox kidneys, to drink once a day. To continue with reflexology. Acupuncture once a month is fine, she said. If anyone is interested to speak to this lady: mamabe.co.uk
Her name is Katharine and she offers a free consultation for an hour. She represents herself and coaching services at Fertility shows in London and Manchester. And apparently she's got 71% success rate which she states on her site! She's got good prognosis for me but I'm cautious about it all but giving it a go and see what happens!

Hi what does DE stand for?

Sheshoots - sorry you have had such a hard time with this, sounds awful. But well done for keeping going, sounds like you are still very much in the game.

Russkispy - good to hear you sounding so positive after all you have been through, and plan B sounds great, it must be really good to know that you are both open to DE as the chances of success are so much higher and you don't even need to rush. Although you never know, you may not even need to! What suppliments have you been advised to take?

AFM - got a strong +opk yesterday, and today am confused my my CBFM, as last month I got a first peak in ages, so I saved it to compare. Today should have been peak day but came out as 'high' so I compared the stick to last months 'peak' and it was identical. So how has the monitor read it as high?? Anyone know much about CBFM?

Hello ladies, gone quiet after my MMC just under 2 weeks ago and still bleeding. This MMC was different from let year. I had painful cramps and contractions for 2 days. It was hell. But I'm over the worse now and restarted with all supplements and reflexology. Had numerous discussions with my doctor about my next move. And she asked me to consider donor eggs. And I'm absolutely fine with it and so is my DH. However, it won't happen till after summer as I have my father visiting us next month and it's my DD's 2nd birthday, then we're away to visit my gran. A lot planned. In the meantime, I had an intensive session with a fertility coach yesterday, 5 hours! She's preparing me for a natural conception before I go for DE. We talked about everything fertility related, which supplements to start taking, reflexology, hypnotherapy, ovulation, DTD etc I'm giving a shot to her program and see what it takes us. And I always have a plan B. New supplements galore to take and wait till this bleeding stops and wait for my first AF since MMC and then get going with DTD. And see where it takes us.

Thought I’d poke my head in. I used to be a member of the site a few years ago, rejoined a few days ago as I had a BFP which a few days later ended up being a chemical.

Anyhow my stats are;
Sheshoots: age 44, 2 DC 6 and 3. My pregnancy history is as follows;
Ds1 - 37 with no problems
MC - 6 weeks
MC - 6 weeks
MMC - 12 weeks, D&C. Subsequently found the baby had Downs Syndrome
Ds2 - arrived at 40. No problems although decided to take progesterone and Clexane due to previous miscarriages
Termination at 17 weeks due to Edwards Syndrome which isn’t compatible with life. I was 42
Pregnant again at 44 after 2 years of trying but ended on Saturday around the time my period would normally have arrived. Chemical.

As you can read I haven’t had an easy journey. To be honest we’ve pretty much given up but of course the chemical this week has brought all my desires for another child flooding back. I should never have tested early 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

One thing I will mention that could be interesting is I decided I was going to go to a private HRT clinic in April and get tested with the aim of easing myself into the menopause, instead of crashing into it. After having a raft of tests we found my iron level was very low, as was my vitamin D. We were surprised that my fertility indicators were excellent. My FSH was very very good, no idea about AMH though as I didn’t ask for that to be tested. The doctor advised that he would prescribe a testosterone cream, a daily capsule of DHEA and I had an iron infusion. I’m also now taking a vit d capsule everyday. Well of course after two years of nothing this month we had a BFP and my cycle ended up going from 23 days to 28.

I have no idea if it was a fluke or whether the HRT as made a difference. I have certainly found on my TTC journey that when my cycles have been short I haven’t fallen pregnant, but when my cycles have lengthened I have.

karryk, Cleozeta, littlemimosa - thank you for your kind good wishes!

karryk - I’m constantly forgetting things even when I’m not pregnant!

Mimosa - great that you are hot flash free! Hopefully that means good things for this cycle. Do you still use opk's? My LH started rising early this cycle, around cd8.
Did you get your test results back?

Congrat to Karryk and Turtle. Fingers crossed this is it for you both.

Welcome new people. So many over 40 ladies now. It’s so great.

Chat - hope you’re ok after what your DP said. Am sure men just say these things from bravado. My DP is the same but like yours he’s more than happy with the contraceptive free sex 😂

CD9 here and no hot flashes yet hurrah. This part of my cycle has been peak hot flash time recently so I’m v happy but I know they could still start up anytime. Wondering what the heck my body will do this cycle now. Who knows?! Just trying to stay calm and stress free and enjoy my babies (who are no longer babies at 6&8 but hey). Ps I’m now 43. Boo.

Good luck turquoiseturtle

D'oh! Spelled your name wrong! @turquoiseturtle

Managed to leave my purse at home when I went shopping earlier and countless other silly stuff, I may not have any other symptoms but I've definitely got baby brain

Congrats @turqouiseturtle fingers crossed for you...I hope it's third time lucky for you. Xx

Hello all,

Joining you again... I’m 41 (42 in June), trying to conceive first child for 8 months, 2 very early miscarriages at 4.5 and 5.5 weeks.

So, I just took a test and got a positive! My period is 2 days late, but I assumed it was on its way as I was having lots of cramps. Apparently not...

I am surprised, as my partner and I both had a horrible cold during the run up to ovulation, so we only managed to try twice and were feeling rotten at the time.

I’m also suspecting that this is another chemical. The line was quite faint, and the cramping/period-like feeling with no other symptoms feels exactly the same as the last two times. It doesn’t really feel ‘real’, I’m trying not to let myself get too worked up about it yet and I’ve decided not to tell anyone except my partner (and Mumsnet!)

But, who knows - fingers crossed!

Chat - maybe he was just having an off day and will go back to normal tomorrow! Mine are 6&8 too and house is generally chaos, and we are running out of space, so we are moving! DH would not expect me to do any DIY, and to be fair, if I did, it probably wouldn't end well! 🤣

Kim - I am 42, have 2 kids, been trying for #3 for 2 years and have history of high FSH & perimenopause symptoms, MMC and CP last year. Starting to panic now and thinking of IFV after house move

Ooh the joys... spent the day at nephews 5th birthday.. my sis in laws friend came with her little ones inc 3.5 month old.. so spent the party having lots of cuddles and doing a bottle feed so mum could play with her eldest.. ( daddy had to work, so she was flying solo) was lush..
however another bro in law has had the snip so babies came up in the conversation this morning as we were chatting about the day.. which was very relaxed as monster in law wasn't there..
hubs then says not sure he does want any more as they have gotten to a hard stage ( 8&6) and he's not happy with the way the house is... but lip and DIDN'T say I've been working hard cos you decided to start your own business and finances have been bollocks and I haven't had the time or energy or money to keep renovating and decorating.. I've been putting food on the tables on not plaster on the walls!!! However he isn't going for the snip as he doesn't want to, he wants to keep having sex, so I'm guessing nothing changed just sad to hear him say it... however his actions with my little niece and nephew say otherwise.. I shall just put this down to verbal bluster.. and if I did fall preg well let's face it women do 99.9% of preg, birth and child rearing anyway.. 😞

Karryk - lol i know its true us ladies should get together and open a super extra all hours pharmacy 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
Cleozeta - i think i will ring the secretary up monday ask if i will need monitoring. Have u got any children? How old are u and what are your plans as in what are you thinking to do next ?? Hope it all works out for us all xx

Thanks @PetraRabbit I know what you mean - I had a scan at 7 weeks for my second pregnancy and all was fine but a week later it went pear-shaped

I think I'm going to wait and see if I can get to 8 weeks without any spotting (that's my tell-tale sign as all my mc have been before or around 8 weeks with bleeding just beforehand). Then I'll see if I can get an early scan at the EPU but if not I might just sit tight and wait until the official scan at 12 weeks. A bit of me is dying to know but at the same time it's so awful... I never enjoyed any of my scans with DD - I was always so so nervous. Apart from the time the EPU reception radio blared out the Beegees 'tragedy' as I was waiting to go in - that did make me laugh in a slightly hysterical way

Xx