Over 40 TTC - lots of baby dust for us...3!

Congratulations Critter, delighted your little ones have arrived, boy didnt they make a dramatic entrance to this world! Hope you are well yourself.

Eek! @CritterTamer - I was just thinking of you yesterday and wondering if your babies were on their way! I'm slightly terrified by your story, but SO so delighted you are all ok - huge congratulations and hope you are all being looked after really really well! as someone said below - they are good weights for twins at 34w!
Oh and they are beautiful names - Erin is on my shortlist for our girl, and if we didn't already have a family member called Finn then that would be top of the boy list for us too!!
Rest up and update us when you have a chance xxx

Thank you mellongoose!
I’m coming up on 5 weeks, feeling anxious because the symptoms I’m having are very similar to when I miscarried at 5.5 weeks last time - cramps in the lower abdomen in the first few days, now moving to soreness in the small of my back, and feeling breathless (?!) Plus lots of watery discharge which makes me constantly panic and think I am bleeding. No nausea or sore breasts at all. Does any of this sound normal? I guess only time will tell. I am booked with a midwife on the 29th May for an early check and just have to wait until then.

Also, I have just found out that my assistant at work is pregnant too! Resulted in a rather hilarious conversation with my boss when she announced this to both of us, then left the room and I said sheepishly ‘um - me too?’ We haven’t had a pregnancy in our office in the decade I’ve been here, what are the chances! I didn’t want to tell my boss so early, but this forced my hand - there is heavy lifting etc. that she does that would otherwise have been passed to me. To be honest I am stressing about this development. Both because we are chronically understaffed and because I think it’s quite likely that I will miscarry and then have to manage her through her pregnancy, maternity leave etc.

However I have to keep telling myself that this hasn’t actually happened yet and I don’t know what will happen! I was willing to go through IVF, and may yet do so, so conceiving naturally is just a bonus extra chance...

Best wishes and good luck to you all

Wow congrats @CritterTamer! That's so frightening! You will have to tell us all and send pics when you are all recovered!

@Constance1234 how do you find a private fertility specialist and how much did it cost if you don't mind me asking? Nothing happening here but as you say I'm temping and getting positive opks so wouldn't suspect anything was wrong!

@CritterTamer I was thinking about you just the other day. I'm so relieved you are all fine. Congratulations on your pair of little bundles, such lovely news. Rest now and let the hospital take care of you all. Fantastic news!

Tentative congratulations to @turquoiseturtle and @Constance1234. Fingers crossed for you.

Congrats critter! So pleased all worked out well in the end and your dreams have come true

Constance - cautious congrats, hopefully this it for you. Interesting what you said about the non ovulation, but still getting + opk & temp rise, I wonder how? Did they find cysts or anything instead?

@Kimm123 I didn’t go to my GP as because of my age and the fact I already have a child I knew I wouldn’t be eligible for any kind of NHS fertility treatment. I saw a private consultant who carried out the scans himself x

Critter! Congratulations! What wonderful news I'm so pleased for you :) must have been so scary but worth it I'm sure. We're going to need pictures when you're ready :)

@Constance...a huge congrats to u...just to ask how do you have a scan to check if you are ovulating ? Is it through the gp

@Constance1234 very cautious congratulations!! Hope it progresses well all the way to the end! Everything crossed for you!

@CritterTamer what a scary ordeal but so worth it in the end! Massive congratulations!!

@CritterTamer massive congratulations!!

Congratulations @CritterTamer!
Sounds very traumatic and scary - but those are quite good weights for 36 weeks I think? My friends twins were born at 37 wks and were not quite 5lb.
Hope you recover well and your babies thrive.

What an ordeal though! Crikey.

Sorry that should have said steroid injection, not serious injection!

Hi ladies, just popping in with an update.
My twins were delivered at 5.30 on Tuesday morning by emergency c section at 34 weeks - it was touch and go there for a while and all 3 of us almost didn't make it, but 4.5 litres of blood loss and 4 hrs off emergency surgery with a team of 18 specialists later we made it through and we're all recovering in hospital now. By sheer luck I had been kept in hospital that night because I had has a serious injection late the night before, otherwise i'd have been at home when everything went wrong, and the outcome would have been very different.

Anyway, its all worth it - the babies are absolutely perfect - Erin Paige 4lb 14oz, and Finley Lloyd 5oz, still in incubators but doing well ❤️

Hope everyone is having a good week.

I am reporting a VERY cautious BFP. I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks last July and have been tracking my cycles ever since. Each month I got a bbt rise and positive opk as well as having a regular 27-28 day cycle so I assumed everything was working fine. However, a scan in March on what I though was around 5dpo showed no sign of ovulation, with both of my ovaries ‘quiet’ as the consultant put it. He gave me 50mg of Clomid which I took on days 2-5 and a scan on day 11 of this cycle showed it had worked insofar as there was a dominant follicle and a much thicker lining than was seen at the previous scan.

So really I just wanted to say it is worth getting a scan to confirm ovulation is actually happening, as I would have had no clue that I was having anovulatory cycles if I hadn’t had a scan!

I've also been having reflexology for the past couple of months too which I highly recommend :)

@turquoiseturtle thank you. And I don't mind if you post it here. When we found IVF worked I posted on here and didn't join other threads. Then suffered a MMC, and I'm still here

@russkispy and @sheshootssheimplores, so sorry for all you have been through. You both sound so determined and resilient, you are an inspiration.

Is it ok for me to post about early pregnancy here, or would it be better to do it on the 'pregnant after miscarriage thread'? I am still in the very early days and freaking out a bit!

Thanks for the link @Russkispy ! That's a really interesting article.

@mellongoose that smoothie is to consume once a day, she said.

@Kimm123 , I have no idea how this will work but it all depends on us, I believe. She's got no magic pill for me as the magic pill is me! So with all supplements, reflexology, good diet which she said to move to alkaline diet, belief and faith, and DTD around ovulation and beyond, I'm willing to try as not really wasting time but boosting my system, for one more shot, as it were. I believe she's got a coup,e of different programmes and my was an intensive course for 5 hours, and she charged me a couple of hundred pounds. We haven't managed to cover it all, but covered the foundation - supplements and diet, relaxation, reflexology and hypnotherapy which I'm listening to every day. Waiting for my first period since MMC and see what she tells me next to do.
@mellongoose , every time I go to my Chinese acupuncture, she emphasises on kidneys and fertility, and works with needles for that area, of blood flow etc but here's a link explaining it:
redtent.com.au/kidneys-bladder-fertility-chinese-medicine-focus/
Hope it helps.

It's great to hear you sounding positive @Russkispy. I've taken a photo of the celery and apple smoothie for the kidneys. Sorry if I'm being dumb, but how do the kidneys relate to fertility? Genuine question.

AFM I'm pretty sure everything is working physically but we are still feeling burnt from our loss. Due date next week. I think AF will be due around the same time. Then I will try to draw a line under it and start again.

You ladies have kept me feeling positive so thank you x

@Russkipsy - Hi do you think its going to work? How much did she charge you if you dont ming me asking?? I forgot to ask her is it just one payment for everything?

@Kimm123 and I'm based in Kent so it was a long trip. She squeezed me in last Sunday, at her home. She knows I've just suffered MMC and she wanted to start with me ASAP. And here I am, switched all my supplements and had a reflexology with her and hypnotherapy and continue for 8-10 weeks with it all. I still got bleeding/discharge and this is the longest yet. Fed up with it. Waiting for it to stop and again wait for a proper period. Currently in the Waiting Land

Hi Russkipsy....shes in Buckinghamshire...when did you go and see her...yes she does sound good told me to stop all meds like clomid etc...im in two minds. She is going to get two ladies who worked with her to call me for recommendation